Good Boundaries and Goodbyes: Loving Others Without Losing the Best of Who You Are

Written by Lysa TerKeurst

Narrated by Lysa TerKeurst and Jim Cress

READ BY THE AUTHOR

2024 ECPA CHRISTIAN BOOK AWARD - AUDIOBOOK OF THE YEAR

NEW YORK TIMES BESTSELLER

Relationships are wonderful . . . until they're not. Stop the dysfunction of unhealthy relationships and learn biblical ways to set boundaries--and, when necessary, say goodbye.

Is it unloving or selfish to set a boundary with family members or friends? Are Christians ever called to walk away from a relationship that's no longer safe or sustainable? #1 New York Times bestselling author Lysa TerKeurst deeply understands these hard questions in the midst of relational struggles.

After thousands of hours of counseling intensives and extensive theological research that transformed the way she defined healthy relationships, Lysa is now more committed than ever to loving people well without losing the best of who she is.

In these pages, Lysa will help you:

• Understand the five factors to remember when implementing healthy boundaries.
• Determine the appropriate amount of personal and emotional access someone has to you.
• Stop being misled and emotionally paralyzed by wrongly interpreted or weaponized Bible verses that perpetuate unhealthy relationships.
• Be equipped with effective boundary-setting tools, such as realistic scripts and practical strategies for healthier communication.
• Be empowered to say goodbye without guilt when a relationship has shifted from difficult to destructive.
• Receive therapeutic wisdom you can trust directly from Lysa's Christian counselor Jim Cress, who weighs in throughout the book.

 

You'll be relieved to learn that boundaries aren't just a good idea, they're a God idea.

Look for additional biblically based resources and devotionals from Lysa: 

• Forgiving What You Can't Forget
• It's Not Supposed to Be This Way
• Uninvited
• You're Going to Make It
• Embraced
• Seeing Beautiful Again

• Language: English
• Publisher: Thomas Nelson
• Release date: Nov 8, 2022
• ISBN: 9781400211807

Lysa TerKeurst

Lysa TerKeurst is president and chief visionary officer of Proverbs 31 Ministries and the author of seven New York Times bestsellers, including I Want to Trust You, But I Don't, Good Boundaries and Goodbyes, Forgiving What You Can't Forget, and It's Not Supposed to Be This Way. She enjoys life with her husband Chaz and her kids and grandkids. Connect with her at www.LysaTerKeurst.com or on social media @LysaTerKeurst.

Reviews for Good Boundaries and Goodbyes

[Sandra Diaz · Rating: 5 out of 5 stars]

A wonderful book to understand how to tackle problems in relationships better. Super recommended.

[Mubanga Kabwe · Rating: 5 out of 5 stars]

This book helped me establish boundaries for a healthy relationship

[Miakeytha Daniels · Rating: 5 out of 5 stars]

I needed this book more than I could have even imagined. I’m so thankful to Lysa!!!

[lezellpeter55 · Rating: 5 out of 5 stars]

This was the first book I have completed in many many years . This spoke straight through the tangle of confusion and doubt... solid clear theology .

[rehaverporth · Rating: 5 out of 5 stars]

This was such an amazing book. Boundaries are so important I'm the kingdom of God

[Masih · Rating: 3 out of 5 stars]

Good Boundaries and Goodbyes" offers some practical and insightful tips on setting and maintaining healthy boundaries in relationships. The content is well-organized and provides realistic scripts and strategies that can be immediately applied to everyday interactions. I found the sections on understanding the importance of boundaries and how to implement them effectively very helpful.

However, the book heavily emphasizes a religious perspective, which might not resonate with all readers. The extensive use of biblical references and theological discussions were not particularly beneficial for me and felt somewhat limiting. While the religious aspect might be a strength for some, those looking for a more secular approach to boundary-setting might find it less appealing.

Overall, if you can navigate through the religious content, the practical advice on boundaries is valuable and can contribute positively to personal growth and healthier relationships.

[Carolyn · Rating: 5 out of 5 stars]

Thank you. I needed to read this. So very helpful.

[Evelyn Gomez · Rating: 5 out of 5 stars]

Excellent book that was eye opening as well as thought provoking. Highly recommend!

[Jessica Grissom · Rating: 5 out of 5 stars]

This has such practical advice along with the complexities of relationships. I HIGHLY recommend!

[M. Malcolm · Rating: 5 out of 5 stars]

Brilliant and insightful! This book should be required reading for all adults everywhere.

[Caca Estella · Rating: 5 out of 5 stars]

It was Very helpful and insightful. Thank you and Go bless.

[Tim Morris · Rating: 5 out of 5 stars]

Excellent Book for everyone ! This was a thoughtful well rounded excellent book on boundaries and the truth of the Bible .

[Michael Ha · Rating: 5 out of 5 stars]

This is a great book giving life to the concept of boundaries

[Sha · Rating: 5 out of 5 stars]

This book was amazing! It’s a must read you guys!

[Jennifer Crutchfield Gatewood · Rating: 5 out of 5 stars]

LOVE LOVE LOVE Amazing how relatable and authentic the author is!!!

[Joanna Dengler · Rating: 5 out of 5 stars]

Although i don't come from faith, value of this book is incredible, i am going to listen again and make notes. If you struggle with toxic relationship and need to assert your self, protect and fight for your own good, struggle with condependancy - you have to listen this one. Is is a gem in boundaries books area!

[Jamie · Rating: 5 out of 5 stars]

This book was a gift from God and I know will be used by him to help so many.

[Brenda · Rating: 5 out of 5 stars]

Wonderful book for realizing there are times we need to say “no” and not feel bad about it. Wisdom on what is appropriate in relationships and what isn’t. I will be reading again.

[Andrea Reynaud · Rating: 5 out of 5 stars]

When I was thrust into a pain journey due to the the choice of another, my ‘running’ took me on a road trip.
This book was like water on the burn, light in the tunnel and air through an open window.
Thank you.
Want to buy a paper copy and memorise passages that really spoke to me.
Thank you. ♥️

[Boitshoko Buthelezi · Rating: 3 out of 5 stars]

I wished she talked about what the Bible says about divorce and what she wrestled with it

[Michelle Schmidt · Rating: 5 out of 5 stars]

This book provided such beautiful encouragement and deep insight into how to carefully and prayerfully evaluate toxic and hurtful relationships in love and seeking Christ through it all. Thank you, Lysa!!!

[maarifanaufahamu · Rating: 5 out of 5 stars]

I want to listen again. This time to be more intentional about taking notes.