People Pleaser: Breaking Free from the Burden of Imaginary Expectations

Written by Jinger Vuolo and Julie Lyles Carr

Narrated by Jinger Vuolo

Read by the author.

Are you a people pleaser? Can you even begin to measure how the approval of others has shaped your heart and mind? Your faith and relationships? Your habits and identity? In People Pleaser, New York Times bestselling author Jinger Vuolo shares her personal journey of constantly seeking approval from others and how she found her true identity.

From childhood to early adulthood, Jinger Duggar Vuolo followed the expectations of others, never taking the time to discover who she truly was. It wasn't until she asked herself the question, "Who am I?" that she realized she was a people pleaser. This realization led her on a journey of self-discovery and ultimately, to rely on God for her approval and sense of self-worth.

Through her faith and reliance on God, Jinger began to break free from the need for approval and discover true freedom. This book is a guide for anyone struggling with people-pleasing tendencies and seeking to find their true identity and purpose in life. Learn how to:

• discover the beauty of community and how we were made to enjoy others,
• identify sin and how it can hinder your ability to be in community with one another,
• diagnose yourself with ruthless honesty but without judgement, and
• understand who you are in God's eyes.

 

Jinger hopes this book will inspire others to embark on a similar journey towards freedom.

• Language: English
• Publisher: Thomas Nelson
• Release date: Jan 14, 2025
• ISBN: 9781400341771

Jinger Vuolo

Jinger Duggar Vuolo grew up on TV. From the age of nine until twenty-seven, she appeared on her family's hit TLC reality shows, 19 Kids and Counting and Counting On. She is an author whose books include New York Times bestseller Becoming Free Indeed, her personal memoir The Hope We Hold and a children's book, You Can Shine So Bright. She now lives in Los Angeles with her husband, Jeremy, and their two daughters, Felicity Nicole and Evangeline Jo. In her free time, Jinger enjoys traveling, hiking, and anything to do with good food.

Reviews for People Pleaser

[Jaron Cadena · Rating: 3 out of 5 stars]

Appreciate the bits and pieces of advice that was given.

[blbooks-14314 · Rating: 3 out of 5 stars]

First sentence: The apartment was clean and cozy.

Jinger Duggar Vuolo's newest book is about breaking the habit of being a people pleaser; it is about her journey of breaking free from that specific issue. It is a personal book with personal stories but with practical applications for everyone. Long story short, don't do it: seek to please God by serving others instead.

There are twelve chapters:
Confession: I'm a People Pleaser
New Tools
We Need Each Other by Beautiful Design
Desperate Is Not a Good Look
Trading Down
The Critics
I Can't Let You See Me Mess Up
Arguments Are Not Rejection
It's Showtime!
The Solution May Surprise You
It's Just Us Now
Yours To Give
There are discussion type questions at the end of each chapter. I do think she wrote with the best of intentions to help people pleasers like herself break free from that mindset, that burden.

I realized fairly early on that I am not a people pleaser--at least not of the traditional, average sort. I don't regret my time reading the book. But I think I could have gotten more out of it if I had actually been a people-pleaser.