No chemistry right away? Here's why you should still go on that second date

You know that feeling when you're on a first date with someone and you instantly hit it off? When the conversation is flowing effortlessly about a niche show you both like, you can't help but grin like a Cheshire cat. When it feels like fireworks are popping off in your belly, that's called chemistry.

But what happens when you don't feel that spark right away?

"I think that a lot of people have this idea that you need to feel this crazy, sexual romantic chemistry when you go on a first or second date, and if it's not there, that means they're not a viable partner," says Amy Chan, who's the author of "Breakup Bootcamp" and founder of a retreat for people going through breakups. "And that's where I see a lot of people go wrong."

, a San Francisco-based marriage and family therapist, says our society's