I fought hard for my divorce. I really wanted it. I was the one steering it doggedly to its conclusion, and the sheer unburdened relief when I left the family home after 24 years was almost palpable. I haven’t for one solitary moment regretted it – not even fleetingly. So why, once I’d moved into my new home – where I am so content – could I not stop thinking about my ex? Sara Davison, aka The Divorce Coach * , isn’t surprised. ‘It’s very common when you’ve spent that long in a relationship,’ she says. ‘And even if it’s your decision, it doesn’t mean it’s easy.’
She’s right – separation hurts, even if you know it’s the best for everyone, regardless of your situation and how long you’ve been together. No one gets married, expecting to get divorced. It’s a shock when that’s how it ends.
