9 ceremony planning dos and don’ts

DO get to know your officiant ahead of time

This is the person who is going to lead you through the emotional commitment you’re making, so it’s crucial they’re someone whom you’re completely comfortable with. And if you get to know them, your ceremony will feel much more personalized and authentic. Your meet up doesn’t have to be formal; you could grab coffee together or take them up on their offer for premarital counseling (it’s not just for couples with issues!).

If you’re not required by your religious institution or venue to use a particular officiant or celebrant, you could choose someone you’re already close with, like the pastor of your childhood church or a friend who has known you both forever.