ceremony planning dos and don’ts

do get to know your officiant ahead of time

This is the person who is going to lead you through the emotional commitment you’re making, so it’s crucial they’re someone you’re completely comfortable with. And if you get to know them ahead of time, your ceremony will feel personalized and authentic. Your meet up doesn’t have to be formal—you could grab coffee together or take them up on their offer for premarital counseling (it’s not just for couples with issues).

If you’re not required by your religious institution to use a particular officiant, you could choose someone you’re already close with, like the pastor of your childhood church or a friend who has known you both