Improving your Relationship Series

Getting to Know You is a good book for those who are serious in their relationship and looking to get married.  This book gives direction in addressing important issues that will equip them for a life together. A good understanding of a person helps you make a better decision about your choice. Dating is the time to learn both the negative and positive traits of a person so you can be on your way to a lasting relationship. Romance is exciting, but you need a clear mind and perhaps outside assistance in making your choice of a life partner. The questions in this book will help open the door to a better understanding of each other. Included with this book of questions is a series of articles to help you better evaluate and prepare for a healthy marriage. Articles to address those important issues include: Noticing the Red Flags, Do you Both have the same Worldview? How to do a Marriage Tune-up, and Considerations for Cohabitation. The final four include Celebrating Our Holidays, Maintaining Date Nights, Goals - Visiting the future, and Are you Entering Marriage as an Adult or a Child? Some of these articles are not the typical kinds of articles you would find in such a book. This is indeed a unique book that helps navigate the development of a meaningful relationship.

Susan remembers a time when she and Edward couldn't get enough of each other. They would talk for hours on end. Edward wouldn't want to leave when he dropped Susan off after a date, and they would just talk about everything. Now she asks, "Why doesn't Edward talk to me? We used to talk for hours when we were dating and I knew everything about him, but now I can't get him to open up with me and share any of his dreams and concerns and worst of all he doesn't seem to care what's going on in my life."   That is not the only thing that has changed in the relationship. Edward remembers the passion he and Susan used to have together when they were playful and couldn't keep their hands off each other. Now he asks, "Why doesn't Susan want to have sex with me very much? She used to be so full of passion, and now she is stoic when I make advances or touch her. She just makes a joke when I bring up us being together intimately." Have you contemplated anything like that about your relationship? Have you wondered where the spark went? Is there a possibility of reigniting it again? Where is that spark hidden now?   Even though there is much more to marriage than conversation and sex, these are important elements to a good marriage. So, what does communication and sex have in common? To understand this, one must understand what each of these accomplishes for both the man and woman. Join Edward and Susan as they explore both the wrong and right way they have been approaching communication and sex.

The Meeting Room Many people are starving for companionship. They want to meet someone they can befriend and hope that it leads to marriage. They have waited for the right person to come along, but this wait has been fruitless. Now they want a realistic opportunity to meet someone. The Internet allows you to start the process from the comfort of your home, and then it is up to you to move it into the real world. Welcome to The Meeting Room, where you can join others in the pursuit of a friend whom you may one day marry. Over one fifth of the American dating population is using online dating sites. Singles want to find potential mates at places other than bars, festivals or through speed dating, but they don’t know where to go. They want a place that gives them the real possibilities of actually meeting someone compatible. On-line dating sites offer them the opportunity for such introductions. Online dating introduces you to potential candidates, and you can actually get to know something about that person before meeting them. Most dating sites have a useful way of helping you break the ice with them. This is a beginner’s book designed to help the person who wants to know how to get involved on a dating site. It explains what it is like to be on such a site. You will get ideas of the great variety of dating sites out there and the cost. I will seek to give you practical advice in how to write your profile, and post pictures. Perhaps you ask: “When should I meet with a person I met on line?” What kind of expectations should you avoid when dating on-line? There are dos and don’ts to help avoid con men who seek to take advantage of unsuspecting people. Interspersed in the writing you will find stories and practical advice. Have you been contemplating signing up on a dating site? This book will explain what to do, how dating sites work and encourage you to open the door and enter “The Meeting Room” where introductions are made.

You would think that having been previously married it would be easier getting remarried. After all you know what you want and what you don’t want in the next spouse. Once you find the one you think is an excellent candidate, do you have a plan for developing that new relationship? Dating by design is a continuation of my book The Meeting Room which talks about online dating. Now how do you go about the process of developing a relationship that will make for a solid marriage? This process is not as easy as it seems. You can get to know a person so well in the first four months that you think you are ready for marriage. However, you have only begun. What do you need to move that relationship to a point of not just knowing them but becoming best friends? Remarriage still calls for establishing terms of your relationship. Do you really know what love is, and how to work out disagreements? Because sex was so much a part of the previous marriage, what part does it play in your courting time? How can sex short circuit the building of your relationship? How do you make your new relationship unique in your interests and how you live life? Dating by Design is a book to help you recognize some of the issues you need to address in your dating relationship and go at it in an intentional manner. Follow Mike and Lisa as they go through their courtship and talk about their issues and concerns. Looking over their shoulders will make it a little easier to identify concerns to consider for courtship

Our tone of voice is an essential part of our speech. But seldom do we delve into how it is used, or how to tame it. Have you caused people to think the worst of you because of your tone of voice? This book helps you avoid sweeping this problem under the rug any longer. It brings to light how our tone of voice affects our communication and influences our relationship with the person we love. On its pages, you will find practical suggestions on how to deal with the issue of tone in your communication.