Tim Keller states that the biblical purpose of marriage is to help our spouse become their future glory self through self-sacrificial love.    But to be able to give self-sacrificial love, we need to receive it first. Understanding what Jesus has done for us, and living a life of faith through grace allows us to give a kind of love that can only be understood through Christ.    We both learned this love through a difficult step in our journey- personal accountability.  At some point we all have to take a good look at our lives and ask ourselves "what part do I play in this." Living in truth frees us from the bondage of shame and guilt that ultimately holds us back from knowing such love.    And it's the hardest thing to do yet the most rewarding decision you will ever make.    This is our testimony. Our marriage has been filled with self sacrificial love - first for Mandie, then for Scott. We have both helped each other grow into our future glory self by taking accountability for our lives first, then fixing our gaze on Christ and always checking our vertical.