Redux: The Other Half of Sexless Relationships

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Redux: The Other Half of Sexless Relationships

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24 minutes

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Jul 29, 2023

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In this episode, the Sugars answer letters from letter writers who want to have sex less frequently than their partners do.

Released:

Jul 29, 2023

Format:

Podcast episode

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Dear Sugar: How Do I Survive The Critics?: The Sugars take on the pain that comes with being judged for one's work, and the ways in which we can learn from even the most brutal of judgments. They're joined by the writer George Saunders, who helps field a question from an author feeling crushed by first reviews. Saunders recalls his own first experience of being publicly condemned, which sent him down to his basement for three days. by Dear Sugars
27 min listen
Big Love (Polyamory And Its Discontents): The Sugars field questions from two letter writers in polyamorous relationships, facing two very different challenges. One woman is feeling guilty that she is taking more advantage of the arrangement than her husband; the other has fallen in love with her polyamorous boyfriend and now longs for monogamy. by Dear Sugars
44 min listen
The Two Stories We Tell: The Sugars explore the two stories we tell — the story of how we want to be seen, the public self, and the story of who we really are inside, the private self. They field questions from a feminist struggling to reconcile her stories in the wake of an emotionally abusive relationship, and from a twenty-something virgin who has spent her life letting her family write her story. by Dear Sugars
51 min listen
The Family We Carry: The Sugars field questions from a new mother who walked in on her alcoholic father relapsing in her home, and from a woman grappling with how to be childless in a society in which parenthood is so revered. They're joined by the writer Elizabeth Gilbert, who made the decision not to have children. by Dear Sugars
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Dear Sugar: My Brother Is Too Affectionate With His Boyfriend: The Sugars take a question from a woman whose brother has recently come out to the family. He and his boyfriend sit on each other's laps and kiss in front of the family - which bothers the letter writer's sister, who doesn't want to explain homosexuality to her two-year-old son. by Dear Sugars
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The Hidden Worlds Of Guilt And Shame: Many of us spend huge amounts of our emotional resources hiding the things we feel guilty or ashamed about. In this episode, the Sugars field questions from two letter writers beginning to acknowledge some hidden shame - a woman who is obsessed with the time she spent caring for a sick friend and a woman who has spent 15 years uncertain if a sexual encounter was rape. by Dear Sugars
32 min listen
Dear Sugar: I'm Sleeping With Younger Men: The Sugars take a question from a woman in her forties who lives a second life. She is known as a professional, PTA-going mom — but she's secretly sleeping with significantly younger men. She's beginning to question whether her behavior is healthy. Meanwhile, her "real" life is in a state of crisis. by Dear Sugars
15 min listen
Redux: The Empty Chair, Part 2: This is part two of the series on early childhood death. The Sugars read letters from parents who worry that their grief may overshadow their surviving children. They are joined by the writer Emily Rapp Black, who decided to have another child after learning that her son had a fatal congenital disorder. by Dear Sugars
34 min listen
When Friendships End: Friendships are different from any other type of relationship in our lives. They are purely voluntary, and so can feel more tenuous. Do you tell a friend if you are unhappy with the relationship, or do you just leave? And if you do leave, how do you break up with a friend? In this episode, the Sugars field questions from two letter writers who both feel exhausted by a friendship, and want out. by Dear Sugars
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Redux: The Other Half of Sexless Relationships by Dear Sugars
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Redux: The Ugly Truth: Most of us have days when we don’t feel attractive. But in this episode, the Sugars read letters from people whose faces are at odds with conventional ideas of beauty. Writer Ariel Henley joins to talk about her own facial differences. Henley was born with Crouzon Syndrome, and underwent dozens of surgeries that changed the shape of her face. by Dear Sugars
35 min listen
Redux: Trust Your Body: Her grandmother always introduced her as the “chubby one.” Now, she vacillates between moderation and binge-eating. “It’s only when my pants are nearly impossible to button that I force myself to lose weight,” writes the letter-writer who calls herself Body Negative. “And then the pattern starts all over again.” The Sugars discuss and share their own struggles with body image. by Dear Sugars
42 min listen
Encore: The Empty Chair, Part 1: In the Empty Chair series, the Sugars discuss early childhood death, an absence that can be ever-present. In Part 1, they read letters from siblings who live in the the shadow of their parents’ grief. by Dear Sugars
34 min listen
Episodes We Love: The Power Of No, Part 2: Oprah Winfrey: "What do I want?" This is the question Oprah Winfrey finally asked herself, after years of struggling to say "no" to people in her life. In the second of this two-part series, the Sugars continue their conversation with Oprah Winfrey on when, why and how to say "no." by Dear Sugars
25 min listen
Redux: A Spy In The House Of Love: Snooping on your spouse is generally ill-advised, but what if he or she has an addiction and is constantly lying about it? The Sugars and writer Ariel Levy answer this question on today’s episode. by Dear Sugars
33 min listen
Redux: Talking About Privilege: Privilege comes in many forms: socio-economic privilege, gender privilege, heterosexual privilege, to name a few. In this episode, the Sugars reply to two letter writers who are facing different forms of privilege. They discuss with Catrice M. Jackson, a leading voice for racial justice. by Dear Sugars
52 min listen
Encore: Cutting The Financial Cord: At age 18, we are granted the rights and responsibilities of adulthood in the eyes of the law. But for parents of young adults, it’s not so clear cut. by Dear Sugars
31 min listen
Introducing ‘The Gun Machine’, a podcast about how America was forged by the gun industry: WBUR and The Trace bring you a story that most Americans never learned in history class — a new podcast about the gun industry’s grip on our country. by Dear Sugars
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Redux: The Stepchild's Dilemma: Whether you’re 5, 15, or 50 years old, it can be difficult to usher a stepparent in and out of the family unit. In today’s episode, the Sugars answer letters from stepchildren who have fraught relationships with their stepparents. This episode was originally released on April 28th, 2018. by Dear Sugars
45 min listen
(Redux) Rapid Fire: Friendship, Part 1 - FAQs: Everyone has had a friendship quandary of some sort in the past, right? This week, the Sugars take on frequently asked questions in "rapid fire" fashion – from hating your best friend's significant other, to hating her politics. by Dear Sugars
41 min listen
(Encore) Rapid Fire: Friendship, Part 2 - Male-Female Friendships: The Sugars' conversation on friendship continues with a handful of letters concerning male-female friendships. Is there such a thing as a platonic relationship between a heterosexual man and woman? Can male-female friendships be as emotionally satisfying as same-gender relationships? What do you do when a friend crosses a romantic line? The Sugars discuss it all in rapid-fire fashion. by Dear Sugars
32 min listen
Archive: When Your Loved Ones Just Don't 'Get It': Our loved ones are the people who are supposed to understand us. But what if they just...can't? Where do we turn then, and how do we fight the feelings of resentment that this lack of understanding can stir up? This episode was originally released November 11th, 2016. by Dear Sugars
32 min listen
Encore: Buyer's Remorse: Buzz Bissinger owns more than 100 pairs of leather pants and over 200 pairs of leather gloves, having spent more than $600,000 on leather goods in the span of three years. Mr. Bissinger has a spending addiction, and he joins the Sugars to offer guidance to a letter-writer whose therapist and family don’t take her spending seriously. by Dear Sugars
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