… Accepting your wife Our first year of marriage was hell and you can read about it in my book We were married 9 months after dating and really didn’t know each other the way we probably should have. I discovered that it was easier to love her than to accept her. I needed to accept who she was.   I had to accept I had no power to change Shanna, but I could change my attitude towards her and try to win her. We win our wives when we accept, love and serve them. Boots on the Ground Without using physical features, make a list of what you love about your wife. Then take her on a date and share this list with her.