When Someone Loves You But Doesn't Want to be With You

When Someone Loves You But Doesn't Want to be With You: On this episode of the Matchmaker Matchmaker podcast, your dating experts tackle the tough question of what to do when someone who loves you, doesn't want to be with you. While it is difficult, sometimes it is necessary to walk away from a potential relationship that is not healthy for either party. -The importance of being 100% sure that the person you are with is the right person for you -How to explore your doubts about a relationship before making any decisions -How one side may be more invested than the other, and how this can lead to pain -The importance of finding a good matchmaker, therapist or life coach to deal with trauma and moving forward. Do you want expert advice on your dating and relationship questions? Head over to www.matchmakersmatchmakers.org to submit your queries and it might get featured in a future show. For more dating wisdom and advice, download a free copy of Aleeza's book, ‘Get Real, Get Married’ by Matchmaker Matchmaker

6 min listen

Looking for Love? Let Go of Self-Consciousness and Be Your Best Self: Looking for love but feeling self-conscious? It's time for an intervention! On the latest episode of Matchmaker, Matchmaker, host Aleeza and Rabbi Yisroel offer advice on how to present yourself to other singles and matchmakers. She stresses the importance of being honest about who you are and what you're looking for, and offers tips on how to make the most of your dating profile. So if you're ready to find love, tune in to Matchmaker, Matchmaker and 1. How to focus on undefined 2. How to present yourself to others 3. How to be less self-conscious Do you want expert advice on your dating and relationship questions? Head over to www.matchmakersmatchmakers.org to submit your queries and it might get featured in a future show. For more dating wisdom and advice, download a free copy of Aleeza's book, ‘Get Real, Get Married’ at our website www.MatchmakerMatchmaker.org by Matchmaker Matchmaker

9 min listen

Do I Really Need A Matchmaker?: Looking to find love? In this episode, your dating experts talk about what a matchmaker really is and the importance of one! Did you know a matchmaker doesn't necessarily have to be a professional? You can even be your own matchmaker. Rabbi Yisroel also breaks down the three key components of a successful matchmaker: an introducer, a mentor, and a fixer. 1) The definition of a matchmaker 2) The three parts of a matchmaker 3) Whether or not you need to hire a matchmaker Do you want expert advice on your dating and relationship questions? Head over to www.matchmakersmatchmakers.org to submit your queries and it might get featured in a future show. For more dating wisdom and advice, download a free copy of Aleeza's book, ‘Get Real, Get Married’ at our website www.MatchmakerMatchmaker.org by Matchmaker Matchmaker

7 min listen

What Are The Risks Of Dating Someone Less Religious Than Me?: Aleeza and Rabbi Yisroel give some advice on dating someone who may be less or more religious than you. Giving real-life examples of when it has and hasn't worked, what you should be mindful of and some questions you should ask yourself before moving forward. Do you want expert advice on your dating and relationship questions? Head over to www.matchmakersmatchmakers.org to submit your queries and it might get featured in a future show. For more dating wisdom and advice, download a free copy of Aleeza's book, ‘Get Real, Get Married’ at our website www.MatchmakerMatchmaker.org. by Matchmaker Matchmaker

11 min listen

Should Your Heart Go Boom When Meeting Someone For The First Time?: On this first episode of the Matchmakers Matchmakers podcast, your hosts Aleeza and Rabbi Yisroel share their thoughts on love at first sight. Is it true love or is it just desire? Should you know 'they're the one' from the first date? Join us on this episode to find out why we all should dig a little deeper. Do you want expert advice on your dating and relationship questions? Head over to www.matchmakersmatchmakers.org to submit your queries and it might get featured in a future show. For more dating wisdom and advice, download a free copy of Aleeza's book, ‘Get Real, Get Married’ at our website www.MatchmakerMatchmaker.org. by Matchmaker Matchmaker

8 min listen

Choosing the Right Partner 'Second Time Around': This episode of the Matchmaker, Matchmaker podcast provides excellent advice for those getting married for the second time. The podcast features experts who discuss the importance of choosing the right partner. Aleeza Ben Shalom explains that people often want one of two extremes: someone who is easy to get along with or someone who is exciting. However, neither of these options is ideal. Instead, she suggests choosing a partner who is similar to you in some ways but who also has some differences that create conflict How to give advice to someone getting married for the second time The importance of choosing the right partner How to find a balance between similarity and difference in a partner Do you want expert advice on your dating and relationship questions? Head over to www.matchmakersmatchmakers.org to submit your queries and it might get featured in a future show. For more dating wisdom and advice, download a free copy of Ale by Matchmaker Matchmaker

7 min listen

Why You Need A Dating Vacation: If you're struggling looking for love, you need to listen to the latest episode of Matchmaker, Matchmaker. In it, Rabbi Yisroel and Aleeza discuss the importance of taking a dating vacation. They explain how the modern 'swiping' dating system is not designed for long term relationships and that you need to pace yourself to avoid burnout. 1) The importance of knowing yourself before you start dating 2) How to find out if someone is a good match for you 3) How to avoid burnout while dating Do you want expert advice on your dating and relationship questions? Head over to www.matchmakersmatchmakers.org to submit your queries and it might get featured in a future show. For more dating wisdom and advice, download a free copy of Aleeza's book, ‘Get Real, Get Married’ at our website www.MatchmakerMatchmaker.org by Matchmaker Matchmaker

14 min listen

Are Long Distance Relationships Worth It?: In this episode, Aleeza and Rabbi discuss the pros and cons of long distance relationships. They talk about the challenges of being in a relationship with someone who is far away, as well as the benefits of being able to focus on your career or education without having to worry about a relationship. They also offer advice on how to make a long distance relationship work. Key Points: Long-distance relationships can be very rewarding, but they also require a lot of effort and communication. It's important to be honest with yourself about whether or not you're willing to put in the work. If you're both committed to making the relationship work, it can be a great way to grow closer and learn more about each other. There are a number of things you can do to make a long distance relationship work, such as: Communicating regularly, both through text, phone, and video chat Planning regular visits Trusting each other Being patient and understanding by Matchmaker Matchmaker

7 min listen

How important is Physical Attraction In Your Dating Life?: On this week's episode, your expert dating coaches, Aleeza and Rabbi Yisroel discuss if physical appearance should really be the determining factor in your dating life. Stop basing your expectations on movies and understand what real-life dating is all about. Do you want expert advice on your dating and relationship questions? Head over to www.matchmakersmatchmakers.org to submit your queries and it might get featured in a future show. For more dating wisdom and advice, download a free copy of Aleeza's book, ‘Get Real, Get Married’ at our website www.MatchmakerMatchmaker.org. by Matchmaker Matchmaker

11 min listen

How to Know If Someone Is Good Marriage Material: If you're looking for advice on how to know if someone is good marriage material, this episode of Matchmaker, Matchmaker is a must-listen. In it, the experts discuss the importance of taking the time to get to know someone before thinking of commitment. They also advise that it is important to be aware of your own values and personality traits to ensure that you are compatible with your partner. Do you want expert advice on your dating and relationship questions? Head over to www.matchmakersmatchmakers.org to submit your queries and it might get featured in a future show. For more dating wisdom and advice, download a free copy of Aleeza's book, ‘Get Real, Get Married’ at our website www.MatchmakerMatchmaker.org. by Matchmaker Matchmaker

9 min listen

How to Fix a Relationship With a Matchmaker: Listen to this episode of Matchmaker, Matchmaker to learn what you can do to fix a relationship with a matchmaker. This episode will talk about your own emotions, working with a matchmaker, and finding the right matchmaker for you. What it means when a matchmaker says someone is difficult to work with Why the matchmaker is the easiest person to blame for a failed relationship How to be ambitious and hungry for your dating future Do you want expert advice on your dating and relationship questions? Head over to www.matchmakersmatchmakers.org to submit your queries and it might get featured in a future show. For more dating wisdom and advice, download a free copy of Aleeza's book, ‘Get Real, Get Married’ at our website www.MatchmakerMatchmaker.org by Matchmaker Matchmaker

8 min listen

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Should You Be Truthful About Your Age When Dating?: This episode of Matchmaker Matchmaker offers listeners an important perspective on the importance of being truthful about your age. Too often, people lie about their age in an attempt to find someone who is a better match, but does this work in the long run? Aleeza and Rabbi Yisroel both have conflicting opinions on this topic. 1. The importance of being truthful about your age when looking for a soulmate 2. The debate of whether or not it is okay to date someone more than 10 years apart in age 3. The importance of having other qualities in common besides age in order to have a successful relationship Do you want expert advice on your dating and relationship questions? Head over to www.matchmakersmatchmakers.org to submit your queries and it might get featured in a future show. For more dating wisdom and advice, download a free copy of Aleeza's book, ‘Get Real, Get Married’ at our website www.MatchmakerMatchmaker.org by Matchmaker Matchmaker

8 min listen

Should You Settle for Second Best in Marriage?: Your hosts, Aleeza and Rabbi disagree with the phrasing of the question, as they believe that once someone gets married, their partner becomes their soulmate. However, they acknowledge that some people may struggle with letting go of certain non-negotiables when searching for a partner. They suggest that at least 70% of the things a person wants in a partner should align with their values and fears, including how the person triggers them or irritates them. Have caution against settling for someone who is less than what a person wants, but acknowledge that people must learn to accept some irritating habits in their partners. The key to finding one's soulmate is to have clarity and choose a partner who aligns with one's values and who one can accept and tolerate over time. Check out the video version of this show at https://www.youtube.com/@aleezabenshalom/videos Do you want expert advice on your dating and relationship questions? Head by Matchmaker Matchmaker

9 min listen

When will you feel ready to get married?: If you're looking for advice on how to find a healthy relationship and get married, this is the podcast for you. In this episode, your favorite relationship coaches Rabbi and Aleza offer their advice on how to find a happy and healthy relationship. -The importance of finding a happy and healthy couple to model your relationship after, especially if you come from a divorced home. -How we can learn from other couples, especially ones that have a happy and healthy relationship. -If we come from a divorced home, we need to make sure that we understand it's not our fault and that we can find a happy couple to model our own relationship after. Check out the video version of this show at https://www.youtube.com/@aleezabenshalom/videos Do you want expert advice on your dating and relationship questions? Head over to www.matchmakersmatchmakers.org to submit your queries and it might get featured in a future show. For more dating wisdom and advice by Matchmaker Matchmaker

8 min listen

Are all singles conflict avoidant?: In this episode, Rabbi and Aleeza discuss the topic of conflict avoidance in the context of dating and matchmaking. They explore how conflict avoidance is a personality trait and can affect relationships, and suggest ways to navigate this issue in dating. The hosts discuss the Big Five personality traits and how conflict avoidance is a part of one's personality type. They also emphasize that personality is inherent and cannot be dramatically shifted, but can be gradually adjusted over time. They suggest that if conflict avoidance is a problem for someone, they should look for a partner who is less conflict avoidant and more comfortable with engaging in conflict resolution. The hosts also emphasize that there are plenty of people who are not conflict avoidant and that it is possible to find a compatible partner. Check out the video version of this show at https://www.youtube.com/@aleezabenshalom/videos Do you want expert advice on your dating and by Matchmaker Matchmaker

7 min listen

Do singles really know what they're looking for?: Rabbi and Aleeza share their valuable insights on today's dating life. The world is big and now with so many opportunities to date, it can be overwhelming. They'll also discuss how to be approachable if you are in a happy relationship as well as how to seek for help if you are needing it. -How to be approachable -How to share your message -Not to give up -If you're having trouble with your relationship to seek out help -Analysis Paralysis -The world is big and there are many options -You should be a positive role model Check out the video version of this show at https://www.youtube.com/@aleezabenshalom/videos Do you want expert advice on your dating and relationship questions? Head over to www.matchmakersmatchmakers.org to submit your queries and it might get featured in a future show. For more dating wisdom and advice, download a free copy of Aleeza's book, ‘Get Real, Get Married’ at our website www.MatchmakerMatchmaker.org by Matchmaker Matchmaker

9 min listen

Navigating the Pain of a Sudden Breakup: In this episode, Rabbi and Aleeza offer guidance to a listener who shares her painful experience of being blindsided by a breakup after a seemingly promising start to a relationship. Your dating experts then reflect on the importance of taking things slow and not being too emotionally vulnerable or physically intimate too soon in a relationship, especially in the early stages. They highlight the need to build a solid foundation of emotional connection before moving to a physical level. They also emphasize the importance of self-care, seeking support from friends, family, or professionals, and taking the time to process and heal after a sudden breakup. Aleeza also shares about their dating detox program, which helps individuals navigate the challenges of dating and breakups, providing practical steps and support for moving on and healing. You can find more information about this program on the Matchmaker website linked below. Check out the v by Matchmaker Matchmaker

8 min listen

Is It Okay to Analyze Someone at First Sight?: In this episode of the podcast, Rabbi and Aleeza discuss whether it is okay to size someone up at first sight. They argue that it is normal for people to make snap judgments about others, but that these judgments should not be taken too seriously. They also discuss the importance of giving people a chance to get to know you before making any final decisions about them. Key Points: It is normal to make snap judgments about others, but these judgments should not be taken too seriously. Give people a chance to get to know you before making any final decisions about them. Attraction is often based on familiarity. Check out the video version of this show at https://www.youtube.com/@aleezabenshalom/videos Do you want expert advice on your dating and relationship questions? Head over to www.matchmakersmatchmakers.org to submit your queries and it might get featured in a future show. For more dating wisdom and advice, download a free copy of by Matchmaker Matchmaker

8 min listen

The Dating Game: From Chasing to Choosing: This week's episode of Matchmaker Matchmaker covers the scenario of a partner losing interest whenever starting a relationship. Your dating experts, Rabbi and Aleeza suggest that the person might not be choosing quality humans and is just being receptive to whoever chases her. They advise the person to be more discerning about who she likes and not just be responsive to anyone who shows interest in her. Aleeza also suggests that women should use their own intuition to find a partner who matches their values and desires. Additionally, they acknowledge that dating can be a game with rules and strategies for success, but emphasize the importance of authenticity and honesty in finding a partner. Check out the video version of this show at https://www.youtube.com/@aleezabenshalom/videos Do you want expert advice on your dating and relationship questions? Head over to www.matchmakersmatchmakers.org to submit your queries and it might get featur by Matchmaker Matchmaker

8 min listen

Factors for a Long-Term Commitment: In this episode of the podcast, Aleeza and Rabbi discuss the important factors to consider when making a long-term commitment. They emphasize the importance of alignment in terms of values, lifestyle, and goals, as well as the need to be aware of any potential areas of conflict or disagreement. They also suggest that people who are considering making a long-term commitment create a list or spreadsheet of the factors they are considering, in order to make a more informed decision. Key Points: When making a long-term commitment, it is important to consider how much you and your partner are aligned in terms of values, lifestyle, and goals. It is also important to be aware of any potential areas of conflict or disagreement, and to discuss how you would handle these situations. Some people find it helpful to create a list or spreadsheet of the factors they are considering, in order to make a more informed decision. Ultimately, the decision of whether or by Matchmaker Matchmaker

9 min listen

Avoiding the Friendzone: Join Aleeza and Rabbi as they talk about how to avoid ending up just as friends when you want something more in a relationship. They have different views on whether guys can put women in the friendzone, but they agree that being honest about your feelings is key. They suggest a few practical tips, like being upfront about your emotions, not being afraid to ask someone out, and not hanging around if it's clear the other person isn't interested. Check out the video version of this show at https://www.youtube.com/@aleezabenshalom/videos Do you want expert advice on your dating and relationship questions? Head over to www.MatchmakerMatchmaker.org to submit your queries and it might get featured in a future show. For more dating wisdom and advice, download a free copy of Aleeza's book, ‘Get Real, Get Married’ at our website www.MatchmakerMatchmaker.org by Matchmaker Matchmaker

8 min listen

Knowing When to End a Relationship: In this episode, the hosts Aleeza and Rabbi, discuss the topic of knowing when it's time to end a relationship. They introduce the concept of "soulmate clarity" and explain a system for evaluating relationships based on values, fears, and irritants. By ranking these factors against personal values and assessing how much the other person triggers and irritates, one can determine the potential of the relationship. The hosts emphasize the importance of having clarity to avoid looking back with regret and to prevent choosing the wrong person. They also touch upon the idea of avoiding divorce by entering engagements with confidence. Episode Highlights: Introduction to the concept of "soulmate clarity" and a system for evaluating relationships based on personal values, fears, and irritants. The significance of having clarity to avoid regrets and making wrong choices in relationships. Exploring the idea of preventing divorce by entering engagements with by Matchmaker Matchmaker

9 min listen

Dating During Financial Hardship: In this Matchmaker Matchmaker podcast episode, Rabbi and Aleeza tackle a tough dating question: How should someone handle dating when suffering from financial issues due to job loss or other unforeseeable events? Is it a good time to date, since it could be a litmus test to see if your soulmate will stick around? Is it important to be happy, healthy, and confident before dating, regardless of financial circumstances? Aleeza believes that the best time to date is when you are in a good position, have self-confidence, and are employed, whether you like the job or not. However, if someone is burdened by financial loss, pain, and stress, dating may not be the best idea. Check out the video version of this show at https://www.youtube.com/@aleezabenshalom/videos Do you want expert advice on your dating and relationship questions? Head over to www.matchmakersmatchmakers.org to submit your queries and it might get featured in a future show. For more dat by Matchmaker Matchmaker

10 min listen

The Three Core Behaviors for a Happy Lifetime Relationship: In this episode, Aleeza and Rabbi talk about the three core reasons or behaviors for a relationship to be happy for a lifetime. They discuss the importance of kindness, humor, and honesty, but Aleeza wants to replace kindness with something better. Rabbi believes that trust is the most important thing in a relationship, but Aleeza argues that it's not identifiable enough. They then discuss giving and curiosity as the other two core reasons for a relationship to be happy for a lifetime. Join in this conversation by letting us know what you think the root of trust is. You can send a voice note to our socials or drop us a message on our website below. Key Points: - Trust is mentioned as the number one thing that cannot be identified at the beginning of a relationship, but can be built over time through small acts of trust. - Giving is mentioned as the second important factor for a happy relationship, as love grows from givi by Matchmaker Matchmaker

10 min listen

Why Isn't My Partner Listening?: Join Aleeza and Rabbi in this insightful episode as they address a common question from listeners: "What should I do if my partner isn't listening to me?" As dating experts, they provide valuable tips on how to enhance communication in your relationship and effectively deal with this challenging situation. Discover practical advice to create a stronger connection and understanding between you and your partner. Key Points: Check the timing. Are you approaching your partner when they're busy or distracted? If so, they may not be able to give you their full attention. Talk in person. Don't try to have a serious conversation from different rooms or over the phone. It's important to be able to see each other's facial expressions and body language. Be respectful. Don't interrupt your partner when they're speaking or talking over them. This will only make them feel unheard and disrespected. Be patient. It may take some time for your partner to learn how by Matchmaker Matchmaker

7 min listen

Love or Infatuation?: In this episode of the Matchmaker Matchmaker podcast, Rabbi and Aleeza discuss the difference between love and infatuation. They define love as an emotion based on giving, while infatuation is an emotion based on wanting. They also discuss how love takes time to develop, while infatuation can happen at first sight. Finally, they emphasize the importance of being able to tell the difference between love and infatuation in order to make healthy relationship decisions. Key Points: Love and infatuation are two different emotions, but they can be difficult to distinguish. Love is based on giving, while infatuation is based on wanting. Love takes time to develop, while infatuation can happen at first sight. Love is based on reality, while infatuation is based on fantasy. It is important to be able to tell the difference between love and infatuation in order to make healthy relationship decisions. Check out the video version of this show at https://www.youtube.com/@a by Matchmaker Matchmaker

7 min listen

Pornography Addiction and Dating: Join Aleeza and Rabbi again on a follow-up conversation discussing the topic of pornography addiction and dating. They talk about the importance of being honest with potential partners about your addiction, and how to do so in a way that is respectful and compassionate. They also discuss the challenges of dating someone with a pornography addiction, and how to support your partner through their recovery. Key Points: Pornography addiction is a serious problem that can have a negative impact on relationships. It is important to be honest with potential partners about your pornography addiction, even if it is difficult. Dating someone with a pornography addiction can be challenging, but it is important to be supportive and understanding. Reach out to your counselor to get advice on when to discuss your addiction with your partner. Check out the video version of this show at https://www.youtube.com/@aleezabenshalom/videos Do you want expert advice on y by Matchmaker Matchmaker

14 min listen

Handling Relationship Arguments: Join Rabbi and Aleeza on this exciting podcast as they delve into the realm of relationship arguments and share valuable insights on how to handle them effectively. While disagreements are inevitable, the key lies in maintaining focus and addressing the core issue at hand. Discover why fighting on topic is crucial for healthy conflict resolution, how to avoid fighting dirty by staying on track, and the significance of addressing the present moment. Learn from the experts and enhance your relationship communication skills to foster growth and understanding. Key Points: The Importance of Fighting: Arguments are an essential part of relationships as they provide an opportunity for growth and understanding. The notion of never arguing can be a red flag, indicating the absence of healthy communication and a willingness to address challenges. The Right Kind of Arguing: Not all arguments are created equal. It's essential to engage in productive disagreement by Matchmaker Matchmaker

8 min listen

Feeling Used In Your Relationship: Coming up in this week's episode of Matchmaker Matchmaker, Aleeza and Rabbi discuss how to tell if you're being used in a relationship. They believe that if you're asking the question, you already know the answer. They both go on to talk about the patterns that people who are being used often fall into, such as having a history of being in relationships with narcissists. They recommend taking time to reflect on your past and identify these patterns so that you can break them and create healthier relationships in the future. Key Points: If you're asking the question "How do I know if I'm being used?", you already know the answer. People who are being used in relationships often have a history of being in relationships with narcissists. It's important to take time to reflect on your past and identify the patterns that have led you to this point. Once you've identified the patterns, you can start to break them and create healthier relationships in t by Matchmaker Matchmaker

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When Someone Loves You But Doesn't Want to be With You

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