Step 1: Make the decision.Step 2. Prepare to face adversity.Step 3. Do it anyway, and don't revert to old ways/people.Step 4. New, more intense challenges arise in the form of financial crisis, loneliness, toxic relationships.Step 5. Address your role in these.Step 6. Work, every day, at changing thought patterns, beliefs, and your lens on who you should surround yourself with.Step 7. You wake up one Tuesday morning and realize... everything you ever wanted, is here.Step 8. Gratitude.