Episode 250: Why Negative Behavior Is Not a Choice (And What Happens When We Assume It Is)

Episode 247: When Others (Including Family Members and Strangers in Public!) Judge Your Child and You: When our big-feeling kids are struggling, they can’t choose where they are when their upset comes out. While we might prefer that their Yuck surfaces from the privacy of our own home, that’s not always the case. How do we help our kids through... by Your Parenting Long Game

12 min listen

Episode 229: “Seeing” Instead of “Fixing” Your Child: Improve Their Behavior and Your Connection With Less Energy: So many of us spend a lot of energy trying to make our kids act and feel better. Even though it would seem that these are “long game” strategies because we’re hoping to create a better future for them, they’re actually “band aid parenting”... by Your Parenting Long Game

11 min listen

Episode 232: Setting Limits and Boundaries With Children With Big Emotions: It can be difficult to set boundaries effectively with children who have big emotions. Traditional parenting strategies like punishments or nagging don’t really work in the long run, and they tend not to feel good for us or our kids. In this... by Your Parenting Long Game

13 min listen

Episode 226: One Small Change That Has a Big Impact on You and Your Child With Big Emotions: Let’s be honest -- raising a child with big emotions is not easy. (In fact, it can feel exhausting.) In this episode, you’ll learn one simple shift that will reduce the amount of energy you need when you’re addressing your child’s big... by Your Parenting Long Game

14 min listen

Episode 225: Why Kids with Big Emotions Have a Hard Time Being Flexible by Your Parenting Long Game

11 min listen

Episode 242: Why You Don’t Have to (and Shouldn’t) Try to Convince Your Child to be OK with Your Limits: Even when we set limits and boundaries that are logical and make sense, our children with big emotions often have BIG reactions: whining, arguing, complaining, etc. How can we set much-needed limits for our children without causing long-term damage to... by Your Parenting Long Game

12 min listen

Episode 237: Adjusting our Tone (Without Walking on Eggshells) to Support Children with Big Emotions: Kids with big emotions are often impacted by the tone we use when we speak to them, especially when we’re correcting them… and even sometimes when we’re not! Recognizing children’s responses to our tone can reduce cycles of Yuck that currently... by Your Parenting Long Game

15 min listen

Episode 228: Why It’s Not Bad to Argue with a Spouse in Front of Kids with Big Emotions: Most of us disagree and argue with our spouse. It’s natural! But is it better for parents to argue behind closed doors so we don’t burden our children with our arguments? In this episode, you’ll learn why arguing with a spouse in front of... by Your Parenting Long Game

11 min listen

Episode 233: Improving Morning Routines With Kids With Big Emotions: Navigating mornings with children can be difficult for all parents -- but even more so when our children have big emotions. Dealing with irritability and procrastination can mean a stressful and negative start to everyone’s day. In this episode,... by Your Parenting Long Game

13 min listen

BONUS Episode: "Ask Me 3" With Accountability Coach Jessica Smith of The Fit Life With Jessica: Welcome to a bonus "Ask Me 3" episode with Accountability Coach Jessica Smith! Listen as I ask Jessica the 3 questions: 1. What is one simple change that you've made to your eating habits that has resulted in the most/best benefits? 2. ... by Your Parenting Long Game

26 min listen

Episode 227: When Your Child Tends to Focus on the Negative: Sometimes, even when our kids appear to be doing well, they still tell us about the negative things they’ve experienced – at a birthday party, the ice cream flavor was wrong; at a soccer game they won, the coach didn’t compliment them enough. It... by Your Parenting Long Game

11 min listen

Episode 230: Helping Children Who Struggle with Changes and Transitions: Times of change can be difficult for children with big emotions. You may notice that during these times children are more irritable, more sad, or more demanding. But often our attempts to reassure them and help them through transitions aren’t... by Your Parenting Long Game

12 min listen

Episode 231: When You Don't Have Time To Let Kids Get All of Their Emotions Out: As school begins, life gets busier. And often we don’t have the time to do the things we “should” do – like letting our kids have their emotions so that they can act more responsible. Sometimes we just need them to get their shoes on, go to... by Your Parenting Long Game

15 min listen

Episode 234: When Your Child Won’t Talk About Yuck: Teaching our children how to effectively handle uncomfortable emotions – frustration, disappointment, etc – starts with talking to them about these emotions. But what do we do when our children refuse to talk about these feelings (their Yuck) with... by Your Parenting Long Game

16 min listen

Episode 240: When Getting Your Kids Off of Screens Is Miserable: One thing we’re all dealing with almost every day is getting our kids off their screens. Even when we give them warnings, they still get upset or angry. How can we help them follow screen time limits without so much drama? In this episode, you’ll... by Your Parenting Long Game

14 min listen

Episode 235: When Children With Big Emotions Get Upset But Don’t Want Others to Know: Children with big emotions often experience overwhelming feelings when they are out in the world – at school, at events, at activities they do. Not only do they have to deal with a rush of big emotions, they also have to deal with other people... by Your Parenting Long Game

14 min listen

Episode 238: Should You Distract a Child to Get Them Out of Yuck?: When our children with big emotions have “Yuck behaviors” -- yelling, being disrespectful, shutting down -- of course we want those behaviors to STOP. And we may try many things to get them to stop yelling, being disrespectful, or shutting down.... by Your Parenting Long Game

13 min listen

BONUS Episode: "Ask Me 3" With Abbey Williams of You, The Mother: Welcome to a bonus "Ask Me 3" episode with Abbey Williams, therapist and founder of of You, the Mother. Listen as I ask Emily the 3 questions: 1. How do I decide if I should go no contact with my mother? 2. How do you deal with the guilt... by Your Parenting Long Game

26 min listen

Episode 239: Helping Children Who Have “Bad Attitudes” (When They Lose, Have to Try New Things, Etc.): Often children with big emotions struggle with uncomfortable situations like losing or trying things they’re not good at. In those moments, they may become upset, or rude to others, or they may just shut down. And we feel helpless when the things we... by Your Parenting Long Game

12 min listen

Episode 248: How I’m Affected as a Highly Sensitive Parent Raising Kids With Big Emotions: I am a highly sensitive person, and for me, raising kids with big emotions isn’t easy. I can be overwhelmed by my kids’ big emotions and by the stress of a busy schedule. And sometimes, being a sensitive parent even creates a direct conflict with... by Your Parenting Long Game

15 min listen

Episode 245: Motivating (Even Strong-Willed) Children To Use Healthier Coping Skills: When our kids are in Yuck, we want them to deal with their discomfort in healthy ways instead of being disrespectful, blaming others, or shutting down. However, when we try to get them to find more effective ways, they refuse to even talk about... by Your Parenting Long Game

16 min listen

Episode 244: Breaking the “Frustration / Guilt” Cycle: Parenting a child with big emotions can take patience and energy. Sometimes when our energy is depleted and we’re really frustrated with our kids, we respond in a way that we later regret… and then we feel guilty. But the next time we’re... by Your Parenting Long Game

13 min listen

253: LONG GAME BEHAVIOR EXPLAINER: Why kids with big emotions exaggerate about how bad something is: If you are raising a child with big emotions, you may have noticed that they sometimes exaggerate about how bad things are. These exaggerations can feel like dishonesty to us, and of course we don’t want our kids to get into a habit of lying for... by Your Parenting Long Game

13 min listen

Episode 236: Why You Shouldn’t Force a Child To Say “I’m Sorry”: We’ve all found ourselves in situations where our kids have said or done something hurtful -- to us, to their siblings, or to a friend -- and we’ve told them to say they’re sorry. But what do we do when they refuse to apologize? In this episode,... by Your Parenting Long Game

14 min listen

252: LONG GAME PROBLEM PREVENTER: The 4 Ps to support a child with anxiety: Many children with big emotions worry, and of course we want to reassure them and help them feel better. But what if our reassurance actually makes their anxiety worse? In this episode, you’ll learn how a child’s brain works when they’re... by Your Parenting Long Game

15 min listen

254: LONG GAME MINDSET SHIFT: When It Feels Like There's Too Much Required to Be a "Good Parent": In this day and age, parents are dealing with so many things that demand our attention: work, relationships, taking care of our home, our family, ourselves. Of course, we want to parent well too…But what if we feel like there’s just always MORE to... by Your Parenting Long Game

15 min listen

Episode 241: When Children With Big Emotions Say Mean Things When They’re in Yuck by Your Parenting Long Game

14 min listen

Episode 249: When We Foster Resilience at the Expense of Self-Esteem: Healthy self-esteem is so important for children, especially those with big emotions who are at a high risk for feeling bad about themselves. But in the day-to-day struggles of parenting, it’s easy to fall into patterns that put more emphasis on our... by Your Parenting Long Game

15 min listen

BONUS Episode: "Ask Me 3" With Therapist Jen Hershey of How We Get Thru: Welcome to a bonus "Ask Me 3" episode with therapist Jen Hershey! Listen as I ask Jen the 3 questions: 1. Why do we need to re-think self-help for parents? 2. Why do parents need better resources than Google? 3. How can tech reduce... by Your Parenting Long Game

27 min listen

258: LONG GAME BEHAVIOR EXPLAINER: Why Some Kids Always Want to be First or Best: Often kids like to be the first one in line or the best one at a game, but some children with big emotions seem to need to win more than most. Their desire to be first or best leads to frequent competition and hurting others’ feelings. As parents,... by Your Parenting Long Game

16 min listen

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