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25: men would rather hire a chess coach than go to therapy

Fromchessfeels: conversations about chess, psychology & mental health

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Dec 1, 2022

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chessfeels is a weekly podcast about chess culture, improvement, and psychology from chess teacher JJ Lang and therapist Julia Rios. Tune in for irreverent conversations about this game we're all obsessed with.

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episode 7: tilt, fizzle, and pop: JJ and Julia are not feeling it this week. And by 'it,' we mean playing chess. They take this opportunity to ask what the best way to overcome this fizzle is, and how this relates to related phenomena of burnout and tilt that plague many casual chess play by chessfeels: conversations about chess, psychology & mental health
46 min listen
episode 3: a chess player walks into a therapist's office...: What would therapy for a tournament chess player look like? JJ and Julia explore this question by doing therapy on JJ, attempting to get to the root causes of the psychological blocks they encountered during their most recent up-and-down tournament. by chessfeels: conversations about chess, psychology & mental health
62 min listen
episode 1: the real psychology of chess: JJ convinces Julia to start a podcast about chess and psychology. Julia explains what people mean when they say they're interested in "the psychology of chess," and what they're missing. JJ explains why this should be called a prequel, not the first episo by chessfeels: conversations about chess, psychology & mental health
52 min listen
chessfeels podcast: the trailer: chessfeels episode 1 drops March 15th. Beware the Ides of Julia's half-birthday! Leave us a five-star review and be entered into a drawing for a chance to win three free months of LiChess Premium. by chessfeels: conversations about chess, psychology & mental health
1 min listen
episode 4: f*ck chess, all my homies play chess (with Jon Mackenzie of the Chess Pit Podcast): Jon Mackenzie of The Chess Pit podcast joins Julia and JJ to discuss his ambivalence towards chess and chess fandom and explore the ways it can change and how it is already changing. by chessfeels: conversations about chess, psychology & mental health
56 min listen
episode 5: are you an aggressive player? or just a bad person?: Julia and JJ question whether there is a connection between an aggressive style of play over the board and aggressively alienating personalities off the board. And, even worse, can aggression still improve your chess even if there is? by chessfeels: conversations about chess, psychology & mental health
49 min listen
ep 11: convince me!!: Julia and JJ solicit controversial opinions from their listeners on twitter, and proceed to debate the merits of these ideas. by chessfeels: conversations about chess, psychology & mental health
51 min listen
ep 10: #chessgoals, or: the ceiling is the roof: Julia and JJ meet up in person to talk about goal-setting, the assumptions that go into goal-setting, and what all of you are doing wrong. by chessfeels: conversations about chess, psychology & mental health
60 min listen
episode 2: this is your brain on blitz: We're all obsessed with blitz, but could it actually be addictive? Julia weighs in as a clinical psychologist and assesses whether JJ's blitz behavior meets criteria for an addiction. Follow along and see if you do, too. by chessfeels: conversations about chess, psychology & mental health
77 min listen
episode 8: what your opening repertoire says about your sex life (with NM Gopal Menon): NSFW. NM Gopal Menon joins JJ and Julia to address the most important question for anybody building an opening repertoire: which openings fuck? by chessfeels: conversations about chess, psychology & mental health
52 min listen
ep 12: about time: Julia and JJ solve the problem of time trouble during OTB play. by chessfeels: conversations about chess, psychology & mental health
58 min listen
episode 9: the future of chess is trans...maybe (with Sam Sharf): Floridian Sam Sharf joins JJ and Julia to discuss getting back into chess after coming out as trans, gaining 1400 uscf rating points in under a year, her experiences and hopes for a more inclusive chess future, and her struggles in closing out the big one by chessfeels: conversations about chess, psychology & mental health
57 min listen
ep 14: Oops! All Julias Rios!: JJ and Julia are joined by Julia's "name twin" @omgjulia, a podcaster, poet, narrator, writer, and, most importantly, non-chess player who has been mistakenly tagged in twitter posts intended for "Dr. Cool Chess Julia." Hilarity ensues as JJ and DCCJ atte by chessfeels: conversations about chess, psychology & mental health
60 min listen
episode 6: you are more than just your rating (you are also your blunders): Why do so many chess players obsess over their ratings? What does this obsession look like, why is it often an impediment to progress, and what can we do to get over ourselves? by chessfeels: conversations about chess, psychology & mental health
52 min listen
ep 15: the adhd episode (season 1 finale): Julia and JJ talk about their experiences in chess and life as two individuals with adhd, talk a bit about what neurodivergency is and why it matters from a psychological perspective for chess players. by chessfeels: conversations about chess, psychology & mental health
57 min listen
S2E2: it was only a blitz, how did it end up like this?: Julia and JJ talk about The Cheating Scandal, against their better judgment. by chessfeels: conversations about chess, psychology & mental health
50 min listen
Minisode #2: A very chessfeels christmas gift guide by chessfeels: conversations about chess, psychology & mental health
25 min listen
minisode 1: the unsolicited advice episode: Julia and JJ talk about how you're probably using twitter wrong but why it's not your fault. Ft. Omar aka @chessvondoom, who is definitely using twitter right. by chessfeels: conversations about chess, psychology & mental health
36 min listen
S2E1: You can't quit us, we're fired: Julia and JJ tackle the question of why competitive and amateur chess players alike make such a big deal out of quitting. What does it mean to 'quit chess' if it's still a part of your life? What could 'recreational chess play' look like? by chessfeels: conversations about chess, psychology & mental health
36 min listen
S2E3: the gang helps @nojokechris fix lichess: Julia and JJ are joined by Chris Callahan, the community organizer for LiChess.org. They discuss what LiChess does, and could do, about the addictiveness of blitz, how to be more accessible, and, about all sorts of cool stuff LiChess already does. by chessfeels: conversations about chess, psychology & mental health
56 min listen
ep 13: the prestigious mr dodgy interview: Julia and JJ interview the Alireza of twitter trolls: Mr Dodgy. They discuss different types of trolling, and how to be a clown on the internet without getting sucked into the fray or going off the deep-end. by chessfeels: conversations about chess, psychology & mental health
49 min listen
S2E9: Men would literally rather hire a chess coach than go to therapy: What do chess teaching and practicing therapy have in common? It sounds like a joke, and probably is, but you'll have to listen if you want to find out the actual answer. by chessfeels: conversations about chess, psychology & mental health
54 min listen
S2E5: Do you ever get nervous? (The anxiety episode, pt 2): Julia and JJ continue their conversation about how anxiety can impact your chess. They talk about how to notice when your thoughts turn from 'observational' to more 'reactive' or 'evaluative,' and how annotating your own (slow) chess games can be a great by chessfeels: conversations about chess, psychology & mental health
53 min listen
S2E8: Men only want one thing and it's disgusting (an interview with WGM Jennifer Shahade): Julia and JJ are joined by WGM and multi-hyphenate chess champion, poker pro, and author Jennifer Shahade to talk about the future (and past) of social media, the mental side of chess, and the open Sicilian. by chessfeels: conversations about chess, psychology & mental health
58 min listen
31: convince me! returns, part one by chessfeels: conversations about chess, psychology & mental health
50 min listen
S2E7: you're studying openings wrong, and you should feel bad about it (ft. Nate Solon): In the first podcast to ever feature two of the four highest rated chess players in the state of Nebraska, Omaha-based FM Nate Solon joins Julia and JJ to talk about how he studies openings and why that makes him better than other people. He also talks ab by chessfeels: conversations about chess, psychology & mental health
55 min listen
S2E4: the anxiety episode (pt 1): Julia explains what anxiety really is, and JJ talks about how they see this manifest in several of their students' annotations of their own slow games. You can learn how to, like, do anything about it next week. by chessfeels: conversations about chess, psychology & mental health
51 min listen
S2E6: It's 11pm on a Friday night. Do you know where your tooth is? (A Very Spooky Episode): Julia and JJ solicited scary and "scary" stories from listeners and compiled them for a very spooky episode. by chessfeels: conversations about chess, psychology & mental health
85 min listen
S2E10: New Year, New Beno-me: Julia and JJ revisit an earlier conversation about the dangers of setting results-oriented goals, such as the 'annual rating goal' that plagues chess improvement circles every January. Then, Julia helps JJ set a ratings goal for the year in a way that avo by chessfeels: conversations about chess, psychology & mental health
69 min listen
S2E11: Married to the Game (a Very Special Episode with IM John Bartholomew) by chessfeels: conversations about chess, psychology & mental health
70 min listen

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58 min listen
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53 min listen
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ep 10: #chessgoals, or: the ceiling is the roof: Julia and JJ meet up in person to talk about goal-setting, the assumptions that go into goal-setting, and what all of you are doing wrong. by chessfeels: conversations about chess, psychology & mental health
60 min listen
episode 9: the future of chess is trans...maybe (with Sam Sharf): Floridian Sam Sharf joins JJ and Julia to discuss getting back into chess after coming out as trans, gaining 1400 uscf rating points in under a year, her experiences and hopes for a more inclusive chess future, and her struggles in closing out the big one by chessfeels: conversations about chess, psychology & mental health
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25: men would rather hire a chess coach than go to therapy

25: men would rather hire a chess coach than go to therapy

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