Every so often I speak to someone that has changed things so fundamentally for me, that I can literally mark it as a day in the calendar.Today is one of those conversations.It all started a few years ago when a book arrived through the post from two people I respect very deeply.So I did what you would expect. I put it on my bookshelf and ignored it for six months.When I did finally pull it down to read, true to prediction, it was as if that book had been written for me.That book was called ‘The Big Leap’ by my guest today Gay Hendricks.The Big Leap basically describes a phenomenon known as The Upper Limit Problem. Where we all have a limit on how much success and love we’re willing to let into our lives - kind of like an inner thermostat setting. Exceed the limit and we start to self sabotage, burn out, play small and create situations that make us unable to move from our Zone of Competence (where we are comfortable but unfulfilled) into our Zone of Genius (the truest and most powerful expression of who you). So I made a commitment. I would read The Big Leap every morning for 15 minutes and continue to do so until I felt a shift in my own upper limits.Did things change immediately? No. Did I start to feel my grip and attachment to the limitations I had set on my own existence slowly begin to loosen? Yes.Has it fundamentally changed how I monitor and continually reset my own internal thermostat for the level at which I show up? Absolutely.Today’s Guest Gay Hendricks has been a leader in the fields of relationship transformation and body-mind therapies for more than 45 years. After earning his Ph.D. in counseling psychology from Stanford, he served as a professor of Counseling Psychology at the University of Colorado for over 21 years. In that time he has written more than 40 books, including bestsellers such as Five Wishes, The Big Leap and Conscious Living (another book I wholeheartedly recommend) all of which are now used as primary texts in universities around the world. Gay conducts seminars worldwide and has appeared on more than 500 radio and television shows, including OPRAH, CNN, CNBC and many, many others.Twitter: https://twitter.com/GayHendricksInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/hendricks.gay/You’ll LearnThe Upper Limit Problem – what it is, how it works and the 4 hidden barriers that trigger it.  The Zone of Excellence vs. the Zone of GeniusThe concept of ‘Ally Thinking’The difference between being a ‘victim’ of time vs. the ‘source’ of time. References and links mentionedMy new ebook The Influencer Codewww.foundationforconsciousliving.orgThanks for tuning into this week’s episode of the Inside Influence Podcast! Please head over to iTunes, subscribe to the show, and leave an honest review. Also, don’t forget to hop on my website juliemasters.com and download my new ebook The Influencer Code or become an insider by signing up to my newsletter. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.