Think back to the biggest argument you’ve had with your partner, or even a friend or family. Now that you have that argument in mind, explain to yourself what was the argument over. Was it over money, the way he or she said something or the way a situation was poorly handled? If you were to go and ask your partner what the argument was about and why it was such a big deal what would they say? Too often, arguments are created and blown out of proportion because both parties are arguing from a different perspective. Tom and Lisa recall their biggest fight and break down the extremely different frames of reference they each argued and fought from. When you are communicating, perspective matters. For Tom and Lisa, a life changing question emerged from their biggest fight that has changed the 18+ years following. “What is this really about?” Once you know what you are really arguing about and understand why the other person is equally upset and justified, then you can move forward together and address the root cause. Relationship Theory with Tom and Lisa Bilyeu encourages healthy, loving, life long relationships. Whether you are fresh out of your last relationship, on a break, taking time to heal from a breakup, or looking for ways to strengthen the romance and bond in your current relationship, Tom and Lisa are sharing their 20 years of experience. They’re taking questions and giving relationship advice that will enhance all of your relationships. SHOW NOTES: Biggest Fight | Lisa shares the biggest fight her and Tom ever had [0:21]What’s True? | How arguments perpetuate over misperception of the situation [2:30]The Other Side | Tom shares a radically justified perspective of their biggest fight [5:14]The Big Insight | The one question that gave Tom the insight he needed to end the fight [8:12] QUOTES: “If someone who loves you, and that you love are going that head to head, you don't perceive the situation the same.” Tom Bilyeu [3:15]