Get ready for Valentine's Day with this fun Q&A for you and your partner to get even closer: relationships.radicalconfidence.comCheck out the deals from our sponsors:Athletic Greens: Go to https://athleticgreens.com/lisa and receive a FREE 1 year supply of Vitamin D AND 5 free travel packs with your first purchase!InsideTracker: insidetracker.com/womenofimpactBlinkist: Go to https://blinkist.com/woi Try it FREE for 7 days and save 25% off your new subscription. The truth about happy long lasting relationships and marriages is that most times, couples don’t know how they survive, but in hindsight they can see what worked and what didn’t. Tom and Lisa have been thriving together for over 20 years. Through many trials and errors they have found the secret to building a healthy and lasting relationship. Lisa takes Tom through several topics they formulated 26 hardcore questions around that keep the love strong and the relationship focused on what matters. In their experience, thriving together has looked like telling each other hard truths, handing over their insecurities and vulnerabilities to each other in exchange for a beautiful shared life experience.SHOW NOTES:Desire | Tom shares why understanding your partner’s changing wants over time is critical [0:55]Perfect Day | Toms reveals what a perfect day would be if Lisa was down for anything [4:31]Speak Up | The importance of letting your partner know what makes you happy [6:00]Setup for the Win | How to set your partner up for the win and being happy[10:34]Trust | Tom discusses what total trust looks like for a healthy thriving relationship [12:33]Broken Trust | Tom and Lisa discuss ways to open up again after trust is broken [18:57]Insecurities | The importance of never using your partner insecurities to hurt them [23:17]Irreversible | Lisa shares 3 major things that can’t be taken back in healthy relationship [26:21]Hard Truth | Asking your partner the one trait they want in a partner, you don’t have [32:00]Reconsidering | Ask the hard question, what would make you reconsider the relationship [41:10]Disruptors | Lisa and Tom break down how to pattern interrupt big arguments [44:29]QUOTES:“All the things that are self evident to you may not resonate with them. And if you don't understand what resonates with them, what they want, where they're excited, then you can get into ruts.” Tom Bilyeu [2:13]“It's those moments where someone doesn't say anything [...] and now over time, I start to perceive that as you just keep pulling away from me, and that becomes the crack in your relationship.” Lisa Bilyeu [8:39]“The relationship, prioritizing it, and then thinking of it in different ways, even when it's inconvenient, is so freakin’ important.” Lisa Bilyeu [12:11]“To think about somebody else and compromise and make sure they're happy too [...] there's a lot of compromise, but there's certain things need to be true for that to be worth it.” Tom Bilyeu [14:40]“What makes love worthwhile is that you are in a position where they can devastate you, and they don't.” Tom Bilyeu [21:42]“I don't think that you can have what makes a relationship worth it, and be guarded, I don't think it's possible.” Tom Bilyeu [22:38]“At my worst, I still don't reach for things that are going to hurt you. All of my micro personalities, you're safe with.” Tom Bilyeu [30:17]“I think a lot of people get themselves in trouble because of one simple idea, I want them to know that it's important to me, I shouldn't have to tell them.’” Tom Bilyeu [37:04]Follow Tom Bilyeu:Website: https://impacttheory.com/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/TomBilyeu Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tombilyeu/