Do you ever feel like you need more space for yourself in your relationship? Taking time for ourselves may seem selfish, as though we're avoiding our partner. But needing space from your partner doesn't mean, "I don't love you." In this episode of Relationship Theory, Lisa and Tom Bilyeu sit down and share how they balance time alone and time together to strengthen their relationship. Now you have the chance to learn easily what they had to learn with great difficulty to make their relationship last for over 20 years. After watching this episode, you'll know the selfish time you shouldn't take that damages most relationships. How Lisa and Tom balance their selfish time and time together to make their relationship work. The critical question to ask to understand why you need selfish time. You learn how Lisa talks to herself to stop escalating an argument and why it's essential to understand why you need time for yourself.     SHOW NOTES:   The selfish time you shouldn´t take that damages most relationships. [00:47] How Lisa and Tom balance their selfish time and time together to make their relationship work. [1:26] Two universal things everyone needs in any relationship. [1:57] The critical question to ask to understand why you need selfish time. [2:16] This is when Lisa needs to take selfish time and why Tom´s strategy doesn´t help her at that moment. [2:29] How Lisa talks to herself to stop escalating an argument. [4:00] Why it´s essential to understand the reason you need time for yourself. [4:59]     QUOTES:   “Everyone needs selfish time. I think that is universal and everybody needs time together. The balance you have to find for yourself. From my perspective, it seems extremely dangerous to want a very significant amount of time.” [1:57]   “Never have we ever got into an argument and argued and pushed each other to the point of solving it. We usually have to bring our guards back down. We have to hear the other person....It´s the separation of bringing down the guards.” [4:00]     FOLLOW TOM: Instagram: http://bit.ly/2s9lU90 YouTube: http://bit.ly/2KWanAC Podcast: https://spoti.fi/2xEloFL   FOLLOW LISA: Instagram: https://bit.ly/2TIsoKh YouTube: https://bit.ly/2IAbTcH Podcast: https://spoti.fi/2IEajGW0