Ep 150: For Men: New Sex Techniques to Blow Her Mind with Writer Habeeb Akande. This is a must-listen-to episode! It's epic! This episode is geared towards heterosexual men, but heterosexual women will benefit from listening as well. Habeeb Akande, who is a sex expert, historian, and public speaker, shares amazing relationship-improving advice for in the bedroom and out. He shares a special technique practiced in eastern Africa (such as in Rwanda and Kenya) that leads to a very high percentage of women squirting and much sexual pleasure. We chat about the goal of sex, whether that be sexual pleasure, orgasm, or female ejaculation, these are three different things, and of course, we include male ejaculation in this. We must acknowledge the goal of sex is highly subjective and individual. Habeeb shares the culture behind a technique called Kunyaza, which is the secret to female pleasure, and a sexual act that also meets male needs.  This technique is also one that can teach a man ejaculation control while keeping the focus on mutual pleasure. He discusses the sex positive practices for sex education in this culture where Kunyaza is practiced, which also includes inducing the feelings of emotional safety, emotional intimacy, and emotional security. Habeeb and I chatted about the sexual culture of the western world and Europe and how porn that stems from these societies can be both helpful and harmful. He shares with us information he has gathered during his ten years of writing and teaching men about a sex-positive and pleasure-filled approach to sex with their partners. We talk about the needs of men and women and the mutual rights to sexual pleasure and satisfaction. We reiterate the common belief that communication is paramount for all relationships.Find Habeeb Akande's books on Amazon (affiliate):Kunyaza: The Secret to Female Pleasure https://amzn.to/3G4XhyRWomen of Desire: A Guide to Passionate Love and Sexual Compatibility https://amzn.to/3wAnJNXA Taste of Honey: Sexuality and Erotology in Islam https://amzn.to/3wzR6zYIlluminating the Darkness: Black and North Africans in Islam https://amzn.to/3MCvJ6rIlluminating the Difference: Black, White, and Brown Women https://amzn.to/3Lx7gOMInstagram: http://instagram.com/habeeb_akandeAll Habeeb's links: https://linktr.ee/habeebakandeAlso, check out  Habeeb on The Orgasm Gap BBC documentary.Hello! Welcome to my podcast!Listen to this podcast episode to improve your sexuality, learn something new, entertain your brain, and enjoy!On my podcast, you will find erotica and romance, topics on relationships, romance and love, self-care,  intimacy, for adults only,  interviews with experts, and the podcast is intended for the purposes of entertainment with some sex ed thrown in. Expand your fantasy life, and dwell in the erotic arts for a bit. Sexual health and fitness are important parts for a healthy sex life.love,RuanAll my links are accessible at https://linktr.ee/RuanWillowFind my new novella, book 2 in The Sex Challenge Series, The Grocery Store Sex Challenge, on the US store of Amazon (affiliate): https://amzn.to/3LkVBTOUniversal link to purchase the book from anywhere in the world: https://storyoriginapp.com/universalbooklinks/ff8ae6fa-ba63-11ec-ad4c-531d9ca079d8Support the show