Are you wrong every time you turn around? Does your partner--or mother--have to win in every conversation? Someone who has to be right all the time is verifying, not validating. That can not only be infuriating and frustrating, it's nasty! Sound familiar? Is there someone in your life who always thinks they have the facts. They remember events better than you. Know what you should do?That's gaslighting! When another person wants to define your reality for you--tell you what you want, think, need, feel, remember, that's gaslighting. They want to be in control of your experiences and responses in life, and that is taking away a basic right you have!Oxford dictionary:Verify: to make sure or demonstrate that something is true, accurate, justifiedValidate: to recognize or affirm the worth of a person or their feelings or opinions; cause a person to feel valued or worthwhileBig difference! Are you asking "What's going on in my relationships?" This could be it. Get tips for making it stop.Big hugs!RhobertaHIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:Why you feel frustrated in your relationsUnderstanding the difference between being verified and validatedWhy being verifying is a game of one upmanshipKnowing how it feels to be validatedUnderstand that being validated in a relationship is healthyYou are not weak or needy to want to be and feel validated in your close relationshipsWant clarity, insights, strategies, and support from me, Dr. Rhoberta Shaler? We can talk: Introductory session for new clients, $97CONNECT WITH ME: I invite you to like my pages and follow for further help with recognizing toxic relationships, realizing their impact, realigning your life, and recovering your self-confidence and ability to love and trust again.FOLLOW DR. SHALER...WEBSITE: https://www.ForRelationshipHelp.comPODCAST: http://www.SaveYourSanityPodcast.comFACEBOOK: https://www.Facebook.com/RelationshipHelpDoctorTWITTER: https://www.Twitter.com/RhobertaShalerLINKEDIN: https://www.LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShalerINSTAGRAM: https://www.Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShalerPINTEREST: https://www.Pinterest.com/RhobertaShalerYOUTUBE: https://www.youtube.com/ForRelationshipHelp-------------------------------------------------------------I'M HERE TO HELP YOU FIGURE OUT WHAT'S GOING ON AND WHAT YOU WANT TO DO ABOUT IT!If you want to learn more, share, ask questions, and feel more powerful within yourself and your relationships,join my Support Circle now.Off social media, safe discussion + videos + articles + webinars + personal home study program + group Ask Me Anything Calls with me.WOW! Join now. Dr. Shaler's Emerging Empowered Community. ----------------------------------------------------------------------#validatingyourpartner #feelingvalidated #validateyourself #validateyourpartner #verifyingfacts #wantstomakemewrong #wantstoprovemewrong #catchesmeout #lookstocatchmeout #alwayslookingforfault #alwaysneedstoberight#savemysanity #saveyoursanity #relationshipadvice #tipsforrelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople #journorequest #prrequest Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/hijackals-conflict-toxic-people-narcissist. Our GDPR privacy policy was updated on August 8, 2022. Visit acast.com/privacy for more information.