There is no hard line for selfishness. If you take time for yourself, are you selfish? If you prefer water to sweet tea but they only have sweet tea, are you selfish? To have a wedding or not have a wedding, which is more selfish? Selfishness is complex with a lot of layers. Join Nina & Anna on today’s episode as they muddle through the negatives, the positives, and the boundaries everyone should have.
Most selfishness is imposed on us early in life so now, how do you know when you’re being selfish? Some have to unlearn previous notions and undo their initial reaction. Being selfish, there is no other driver than, “I want this,” with total disregard for anyone else’s needs. Alone time often occurs after you’ve exerted yourself for other people; having boundaries, and saying, “No,” for your mental health leads to happiness you can then give back to others–the “economy of attention,” as Anna calls it. 
Our society has morphed selfishness into every man for themselves as a product of the global pandemic. Gen Z has mastered the space of individualism and thrives off borderline narcissistic qualities, the peak of selfishness and egocentricity. 
So if we navigate away from the cliff’s edge, let’s dismantle selfishness. Let’s celebrate healthy boundaries and protect our self-interests so we can then put our good energy into others and spread the word of a restored balance.
Listen to the episode on https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/how-to-be-human/id1575612024 (Apple Podcasts), https://open.spotify.com/show/1V8taFSZQDpMcXkrP5dGrs?si=PtYeksWSRLGn_vu1vWBvMw&dl_branch=1 (Spotify), https://podcasts.google.com/feed/aHR0cHM6Ly9mZWVkcy5zaW1wbGVjYXN0LmNvbS9yTHpBOUg2Mg (Google Podcasts), https://music.amazon.com/podcasts/fa34c28b-2ac5-49cb-9fc7-15328379d789 (Amazon Music), https://www.iheart.com/podcast/269-how-to-be-human-84625355/ (iHeartRadio), https://www.stitcher.com/show/how-to-be-human-5 (Stitcher), or on your favorite podcast platform
Topics Covered:
Negative & positive connotations of selfishness
Everyone has a different version of selfishness
There is a balance for selfishness and selflessness, we can’t be one-sided
Selfish is being concerned excessively or exclusively for one’s own self, regardless of others
Not getting your way is not the same as selfishness

Resources Mentioned:
https://tv.apple.com/us/show/wecrashed/umc.cmc.6qw605uv2rwbzutk2p2fsgvq9 (WeCrashed Apple +) 
https://www.hulu.com/movie/wework-or-the-making-and-breaking-of-a-47-billion-unicorn-c6deead3-f45f-43c6-b8bf-fc56e9f8a589 (We Work Hulu Documentary)

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