Do Our Kids Manipulate Us?

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Do Our Kids Manipulate Us?

FromPeace and Parenting: How to Parent without Punishments

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Nov 18, 2020

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We're discussing manipulation and if our kids truly manipulate us? Take some time to journal on it using Michelle's journaling guide and join the discussion on our private Facebook Community Group.

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Nov 18, 2020

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Aggression: Let's talk about hitting, kicking, biting, spitting, throwing, all of it. If you have a child acting aggressively, you are not alone!! Click here for Michelle's special time guide, our favorite tool to get connected. by Peace and Parenting: How to Parent without Punishments
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Defiance: Michelle and Gemma talk tips and tools when managing defiance in children of all ages. In response to several questions on this topic, we dive into not listening, taking detours to avoid upsets and much more. Don't forget to subscribe, rate and review! C... by Peace and Parenting: How to Parent without Punishments
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Empathy: When our children have big feelings, they crave a listening ear. In this episode, we discuss having empathy in the toughest moments, when our natural instinct may be to do anything to make it stop. Listen as we break down why our kids need us most when... by Peace and Parenting: How to Parent without Punishments
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Transitions: Getting out of the house with kids can sometimes take longer than the actual activity you're getting out for, am I right? Transitions used to be a huge struggle for both of us but once we started adding in connection and being mindful of where our kids ... by Peace and Parenting: How to Parent without Punishments
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I Won't Leave You: Are your children bored, antsy and having more big feelings during quarantine? When it all comes to a head, we want it to stop as fast as possible and so do they. They often tell us to go away, leave them alone or they go in their room until they're ca... by Peace and Parenting: How to Parent without Punishments
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Helicopterism: There's a very fine line when it comes to helping our kids through things and doing everything for them. Letting them explore and learn on their own can have so many benefits. We're discussing all things helicopter-y and how to let go so our kids can fi... by Peace and Parenting: How to Parent without Punishments
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Being Gentle on Ourselves During Times of Isolation: We're all struggling with the new reality of our lives and there's just no getting around it. It becomes so much harder to come to parenting as a patient and resourced individual able to meet all our children's needs when we are on 24/7 alone in our hom... by Peace and Parenting: How to Parent without Punishments
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Special Time: Join Michelle and Gemma to explore one of their favorite tools to connect with your children: special time. Learn how to manage off track behaviors in 20 minutes a day. Don't forget to subscribe so you never miss an episode! Click here for the special ti... by Peace and Parenting: How to Parent without Punishments
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Connection: You can visit peaceandparentingla.com to find more information and also click here for a special connection plan Michelle created just for listeners! Don't forget to subscribe and leave a review in iTunes! by Peace and Parenting: How to Parent without Punishments
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Sibling Rivalry by Peace and Parenting: How to Parent without Punishments
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Changing Behaviors with Play: Let's talk about playing with our children and why it is such a great tool. Children at play are in their natural state and when we can meet them there, we can guide them to connect, think more clearly and cooperate more easily. Play definitely did not c... by Peace and Parenting: How to Parent without Punishments
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Processing Fear and Promoting Connection: Fear can be resolved by using empathy and play. We give you our best thinking and ways to cultivate connection while we have this extra time with our families. If you're yearning for a sense of community, join our facebook group and check out Michelle'... by Peace and Parenting: How to Parent without Punishments
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Apologies: "Go say sorry," "tell your brother you're sorry for taking his toy," "apologize for hitting your friend," how often are you using these common statements? In this episode, we're discussing why we don't force apologies of any kind. Learn how to guide your... by Peace and Parenting: How to Parent without Punishments
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Self Care Part Two: Part Two is here and we are so excited for you to listen and give us your feedback! We go more in depth on journaling and tackling the bigger issues within yourself, in addition to the yoga and time away, of course. We set up our Patreon page and would s... by Peace and Parenting: How to Parent without Punishments
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Shame: We're talking about shame when it comes to our kids, ourselves and others. We believe our children need to hear how wrong they are for their behaviors or words at times and we use shame to do this. We have come to realize it actually makes them act out... by Peace and Parenting: How to Parent without Punishments
18 min listen
Electronics: Electronics, electronics, electronics (Jan Brady voice)! Roblox, Snapchat, Minecraft, Thomas the Train and whatever else these techies are throwing our way! Even Sesame Street can be addicting. How can we navigate the electronic world without losing our ... by Peace and Parenting: How to Parent without Punishments
21 min listen
Rewards: How do you motivate kids and guide them to choose to do the right thing without rewards and manipulation? Sticker charts, bribery, grades, allowance, saying good job, you name it, we’ve tried it all. This week, we discuss how to internally motivate your ... by Peace and Parenting: How to Parent without Punishments
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Punishments: Time out. Spanking. Taking toys and activities away. Grounding. What is your go to punishment? Is it working? Let's talk about why we choose not to use punishments and how we manage "misbehavior." If you like what you hear, rate, review and subscribe!! W... by Peace and Parenting: How to Parent without Punishments
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Separation Anxiety: Leaving our kids in the care of others can be hard on both them and us. We've put together ways we have worked through different situations in attempt to say goodbye peacefully. Hand in Hand Parenting is offering their online class for a 50% discount for... by Peace and Parenting: How to Parent without Punishments
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Parenting Peacefully Isn't Always Easy Part One: Have you ever been so dedicated to doing something, working all the angles, putting in all the time and effort and there are still days when it just doesn't work? You know about connection, you use it, you even do Special Time and listen to big feelings.... by Peace and Parenting: How to Parent without Punishments
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Changing my Behavior to Change my Child's: In order to change our children's behavior, we have to first change our own. It is difficult, frustrating, counterintuitive and takes a lot of inner work and self awareness. We're talking through the ways we have been able to make changes to our own be... by Peace and Parenting: How to Parent without Punishments
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Marital Conflict, Separation and Divorce: We're talking marital conflict, separation and divorce with our first guest, the wonderful, Homa Alamdari. If you've ever struggled in this area, please listen in as we explore how much harder coming to parenting can be when there is conflict between th... by Peace and Parenting: How to Parent without Punishments
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Winning: We've been playing more games and having much more family while in quarantine so what better time to talk about winning? Games with our kids are intended for fun and learning but often we get caught up in getting the W for ourselves. We're talking about... by Peace and Parenting: How to Parent without Punishments
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Parenting Through Judgement from Other Parents and Family: No matter what method of parenting we choose to follow, there will be judgment from someone, somewhere. It is hard enough to parent as is, but that judgment can leave us feeling very alone and full of self doubt. We're talking about all the ways we man... by Peace and Parenting: How to Parent without Punishments
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Hurtful Words from Our Children: Our kids can really hurt our feelings at times and make us feel the need to eradicate certain language from their vocabulary. When they say they want a new mommy or they hate us or their siblings, we believe them; why wouldn't we? We're going to discus... by Peace and Parenting: How to Parent without Punishments
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