Today on Double Teamed, Cami and Niki welcome Gabrielle Smith, a Brooklyn-based intersectional sex/relationship writer and poly educator. She offers support sessions focused on sharing education and information that affirms, reassures and resonates. 

 

In some cases, marriage isn’t always the happily ever after we all hope for. Without clearly defining what each partner wants and what they need from each other and from the marriage itself, things eventually may not work out. But marriage isn’t the only way to secure a partnership or commit to one! You can be in an open relationship with several people with clearly defined needs, wants, and expectations and still live a fulfilled and satisfied life.

 

Listen Up:

 


00:00 Intro

00:54 How did you get introduced into non-monogamy?

03:50 What the first relationship felt like

08:18 “Don’t ask, don’t tell,” means you’re not ready 

12:27 You always have to do a test drive

15:13 Identifying as a solo polyamorous

19:12 The relationship escalator isn’t for everyone

25:41 Marriage can be fragile and can provide a false sense of security

30:30 Dating a monogamous person is a lot of labor

34:58 Sharing and gathering resources 

38:56 Communicate what you want and what you need

41:42 Give yourself that freedom to find what you like

43:12 Live a life where you don’t feel restricted

45:40 A directory of poly-friendly therapists

48:38 Should polyamory and non-monogamy be normalized?

52:04 Know what type of non-monogamy works for you


 

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