Episode 022: Bonus—Dancing With the Patriarchy

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Episode 022: Bonus—Dancing With the Patriarchy

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Aug 25, 2020

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As a Latter-day Saint woman, it can be hard to separate the men from the labels that define their place in the Church. In this bonus episode, Susan attempts to untangle and explain her complex relationship with both.

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Aug 25, 2020

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Episode 022: Bonus—Dancing With the Patriarchy

Episode 022: Bonus—Dancing With the Patriarchy

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