In this episode, Greg hosts Melanie Notkin, an entrepreneur, author, media contributor, speaker, marketer, and a leading voice in childless, often single, women and men from New York City. She is the founder of SAVVY AUNTIE: A Celebration of Modern Aunthood - a multiplatform lifestyle brand for cool aunts, great-aunts, godmothers, and all women who love kids. Melanie is a foremost expert on the emerging demographic of childless, often single, women.Greg and Melanie discuss Melanie’s book Otherhood: Modern Women Finding a New Kind of Happiness, becoming the SAVVY AUNTIE, being a PANK (Professional Aunt No Kids) the powerfulness of femininity, the attack on masculinity, chivalry, what women want, the importance of play for boys, and much moreIf you enjoyed this conversation, be sure to subscribe!————————————Follow Melanie Notkin on Twitter @SavvyAuntiehttps://twitter.com/SavvyAuntieAnd check out her website: http://melanienotkin.com/————————————Follow Me On————————————All Platforms: https://linktr.ee/GregEllisFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/realgregellis/Twitter: https://twitter.com/ellisgregInstagram:https://www.instagram.com/realgregellis/ ————————————Show Notes————————————[00:00] Respondent introduction[01:07] Greg introduces this week's guest, Melanie Notkin[01:23] Where Melanie grew up and her childhood in NY.[03:16] Melanie's book Otherhood and finding happiness outside of motherhood[07:14] Wisdom, knowledge, and fulfillment[09:33] Becoming the SAVVY AUNTIE and PANK (Professional Aunt No Kids)[12:31] Women having children later[16:11] Feminism and toxic masculinity; Women becoming more masculine and Men becoming more feminine.[16:33] "Third and fourth-wave feminists have created an entire generation of men they are not attracted to." GE quoting MN[17:39] "It is a little ironic to be equal to people you don't like." MN[22:39] The most powerful thing a woman can be is feminine.[23:23] The Shadow Self and the genesis of toxic masculinity[26:53] The Importance and utility of relationships and falling in love.[27:23] "A relationship doesn't take away. A relationship adds. The right relationship makes you better. When you have a champion with you, you don't need to self-empower; you've got someone behind you that can help push you along." MN[30:03] Love is a skill to be learned not, not just an emotion to be felt. GE[31:57] The Feminine Mystique and the misunderstanding around what she was saying[33:46] The attack on masculinity[38:17] Chivalry [42:10] Melanie's experience with dating and having the man choose the restaurant.[45:47] What woman want [52:49] Should the man always pay on dates?[56:39] The dance between masculinity and femininity[01:02:20] Decisiveness[01:04:42] The problem with the word "empowerment."[01:09:03] Inhumane Resources and the Oppression Olympics.[01:12:37] "Victimhood is the new social currency, and its economy is booming." GE[01:12:49] The women marches and how girls are doing great and boys are falling apart.[01:16:19] Importance of boys and play. [01:16:49] Warren Farrell[01:24:19] The Philosophical Queue [01:25:04] Where does Melanie find meaning?[01:25:40] The most meaningful moment of Melanie's life[01:27:36] The Urban Pioneer: Where does Melanie go to think, where she goes for peace and quiet.[01:29:27] Melanie's favorite song [01:31:12] Writing Melanie's epitaph [01:31:33] Melanie's one wish [01:31:55] What the future has in store for Melanie[01:34:07] The Respondent[01:38:19] Why Greg & Melanie wrote their books[01:39:04] Podcast filler words #GregEllis #MelanieNotkin #SavvyAuntie #Feminism