What you should focus on so you can finally let go of the past and overcome feeling guilty and sad about a relationship that didn’t work out like you expected. Why this is essential to creating a space for someone new and better suited for you to fill.

In this video coaching newsletter, I discuss an email from a viewer who shares how my work has helped him recover from getting dumped by his girlfriend six months ago. What made it really hard for him to let go of the past and move on from her, was that his feelings for her and his connection with her were much deeper than any other woman he had been with up until this point in his life. He describes how back then he was stuck in a miserable job where he was not treated very well, and had to work massive amounts of overtime without getting paid for it. He would basically come home and complain to his then girlfriend instead of just handling the situation. She started testing him and because he was so fearful, he became a doormat and started letting her walk all over him. This only made his neediness worse. He describes how he was able to turn things around after the breakup by focusing on his career, losing thirty pounds and removing all of the toxic and unsupportive people from his life and peer group. He’s finally in a happy place again and enjoying being single.