Encore: Sexless Relationships, Part 2

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Encore: Sexless Relationships, Part 2

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Dec 3, 2021

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The Sugars are joined by the therapist Esther Perel to discuss a letter from a husband who is in a sexless marriage and is looking for a way to help his wife heal from trauma.

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Dec 3, 2021

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Dear Sugar: I'm Addicted To Painkillers: The Sugars take a question from a new mother who is secretly addicted to painkillers, but afraid that she can't be the mom and wife she wants to be without them. by Dear Sugars
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The Family We Carry: The Sugars field questions from a new mother who walked in on her alcoholic father relapsing in her home, and from a woman grappling with how to be childless in a society in which parenthood is so revered. They're joined by the writer Elizabeth Gilbert, who made the decision not to have children. by Dear Sugars
37 min listen
Making Love: The Sugars celebrate Valentine's Day by fielding questions from a married woman whose long-dormant passions have been reignited by an old high-school boyfriend, and from a young woman struggling with whether to leave behind her cheating, closeted girlfriend. by Dear Sugars
43 min listen
Dear Sugar, Episode 1: Meet The Sugars: In the pilot episode, the Sugars field questions on a father’s infidelity, how many children is too many, and whether a relationship can survive when one partner is smarter than the other. by Dear Sugars
54 min listen
The Two Stories We Tell: The Sugars explore the two stories we tell — the story of how we want to be seen, the public self, and the story of who we really are inside, the private self. They field questions from a feminist struggling to reconcile her stories in the wake of an emotionally abusive relationship, and from a twenty-something virgin who has spent her life letting her family write her story. by Dear Sugars
51 min listen
The Deal Killer: The Sugars explore the deal killer — the thing that turns out to be the limit, that is too much for a relationship to withstand. They field questions from a woman tiring of her boyfriend's severe anxiety, a grieving young woman whose boyfriend is jealous of her dead ex, and a man deeply ashamed of his obsessive desire to make a woman pregnant. by Dear Sugars
40 min listen
Dear Sugar: How Do I Survive The Critics?: The Sugars take on the pain that comes with being judged for one's work, and the ways in which we can learn from even the most brutal of judgments. They're joined by the writer George Saunders, who helps field a question from an author feeling crushed by first reviews. Saunders recalls his own first experience of being publicly condemned, which sent him down to his basement for three days. by Dear Sugars
27 min listen
When Friendships End: Friendships are different from any other type of relationship in our lives. They are purely voluntary, and so can feel more tenuous. Do you tell a friend if you are unhappy with the relationship, or do you just leave? And if you do leave, how do you break up with a friend? In this episode, the Sugars field questions from two letter writers who both feel exhausted by a friendship, and want out. by Dear Sugars
33 min listen
Dear Sugar: My Brother Is Too Affectionate With His Boyfriend: The Sugars take a question from a woman whose brother has recently come out to the family. He and his boyfriend sit on each other's laps and kiss in front of the family - which bothers the letter writer's sister, who doesn't want to explain homosexuality to her two-year-old son. by Dear Sugars
12 min listen
The Hidden Worlds Of Guilt And Shame: Many of us spend huge amounts of our emotional resources hiding the things we feel guilty or ashamed about. In this episode, the Sugars field questions from two letter writers beginning to acknowledge some hidden shame - a woman who is obsessed with the time she spent caring for a sick friend and a woman who has spent 15 years uncertain if a sexual encounter was rape. by Dear Sugars
32 min listen
Former Hellraisers (Should We Share Our Past With Our Children?): The Sugars respond to a letter from a woman whose teenage son has discovered her high-school yearbook — filled with stories of bad behavior from her past life. In answering the letter, the Sugars are joined by the poet and author Mary Karr, who has written three memoirs about her reckless youth and raised a son who was intimately familiar with those years. by Dear Sugars
30 min listen
Dear Sugar: I'm Bad At Breaking Up: In this short episode, the Sugars take a question from a young man whose ex-girlfriends have felt blindsided when he ended the relationships. He is questioning his intuition - having ended the relationships because he felt there wasn't a future with these women, but wondering if he just wasn't articulating his needs to them. by Dear Sugars
15 min listen
Big Love (Polyamory And Its Discontents): The Sugars field questions from two letter writers in polyamorous relationships, facing two very different challenges. One woman is feeling guilty that she is taking more advantage of the arrangement than her husband; the other has fallen in love with her polyamorous boyfriend and now longs for monogamy. by Dear Sugars
44 min listen
Dear Sugar: I'm Sleeping With Younger Men: The Sugars take a question from a woman in her forties who lives a second life. She is known as a professional, PTA-going mom — but she's secretly sleeping with significantly younger men. She's beginning to question whether her behavior is healthy. Meanwhile, her "real" life is in a state of crisis. by Dear Sugars
15 min listen
The Land Of The In-Law: Entering into another family is like entering into another culture — with its own codes, expectations, and set of rules. Naturally, it's a situation ripe for conflict and contention. The Sugars field questions from two letter writers dealing with fraught in-law relationships. by Dear Sugars
54 min listen
Encore: Cutting The Financial Cord: At age 18, we are granted the rights and responsibilities of adulthood in the eyes of the law. But for parents of young adults, it’s not so clear cut. by Dear Sugars
31 min listen
Episodes We Love: The Power Of No, Part 2: Oprah Winfrey: "What do I want?" This is the question Oprah Winfrey finally asked herself, after years of struggling to say "no" to people in her life. In the second of this two-part series, the Sugars continue their conversation with Oprah Winfrey on when, why and how to say "no." by Dear Sugars
25 min listen
Redux: A Spy In The House Of Love: Snooping on your spouse is generally ill-advised, but what if he or she has an addiction and is constantly lying about it? The Sugars and writer Ariel Levy answer this question on today’s episode. by Dear Sugars
33 min listen
Redux: The Other Half of Sexless Relationships by Dear Sugars
24 min listen
Redux: Trust Your Body: Her grandmother always introduced her as the “chubby one.” Now, she vacillates between moderation and binge-eating. “It’s only when my pants are nearly impossible to button that I force myself to lose weight,” writes the letter-writer who calls herself Body Negative. “And then the pattern starts all over again.” The Sugars discuss and share their own struggles with body image. by Dear Sugars
42 min listen
Encore: The Empty Chair, Part 1: In the Empty Chair series, the Sugars discuss early childhood death, an absence that can be ever-present. In Part 1, they read letters from siblings who live in the the shadow of their parents’ grief. by Dear Sugars
34 min listen
Redux: The Empty Chair, Part 2: This is part two of the series on early childhood death. The Sugars read letters from parents who worry that their grief may overshadow their surviving children. They are joined by the writer Emily Rapp Black, who decided to have another child after learning that her son had a fatal congenital disorder. by Dear Sugars
34 min listen
Encore: Buyer's Remorse: Buzz Bissinger owns more than 100 pairs of leather pants and over 200 pairs of leather gloves, having spent more than $600,000 on leather goods in the span of three years. Mr. Bissinger has a spending addiction, and he joins the Sugars to offer guidance to a letter-writer whose therapist and family don’t take her spending seriously. by Dear Sugars
24 min listen
Introducing ‘The Gun Machine’, a podcast about how America was forged by the gun industry: WBUR and The Trace bring you a story that most Americans never learned in history class — a new podcast about the gun industry’s grip on our country. by Dear Sugars
3 min listen
Redux: The Ugly Truth: Most of us have days when we don’t feel attractive. But in this episode, the Sugars read letters from people whose faces are at odds with conventional ideas of beauty. Writer Ariel Henley joins to talk about her own facial differences. Henley was born with Crouzon Syndrome, and underwent dozens of surgeries that changed the shape of her face. by Dear Sugars
35 min listen
Redux: Talking About Privilege: Privilege comes in many forms: socio-economic privilege, gender privilege, heterosexual privilege, to name a few. In this episode, the Sugars reply to two letter writers who are facing different forms of privilege. They discuss with Catrice M. Jackson, a leading voice for racial justice. by Dear Sugars
52 min listen
Archive: When Your Loved Ones Just Don't 'Get It': Our loved ones are the people who are supposed to understand us. But what if they just...can't? Where do we turn then, and how do we fight the feelings of resentment that this lack of understanding can stir up? This episode was originally released November 11th, 2016. by Dear Sugars
32 min listen
(Redux) Rapid Fire: Friendship, Part 1 - FAQs: Everyone has had a friendship quandary of some sort in the past, right? This week, the Sugars take on frequently asked questions in "rapid fire" fashion – from hating your best friend's significant other, to hating her politics. by Dear Sugars
41 min listen
Redux: The Stepchild's Dilemma: Whether you’re 5, 15, or 50 years old, it can be difficult to usher a stepparent in and out of the family unit. In today’s episode, the Sugars answer letters from stepchildren who have fraught relationships with their stepparents. This episode was originally released on April 28th, 2018. by Dear Sugars
45 min listen
Redux: Love In Doubt: How many times have you heard this: "I love him, we're great together, but..."? There's always room for doubt, even in the happiest of relationships. So this week, the Sugars take on some of those doubts in rapid-fire fashion. by Dear Sugars
42 min listen

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Redux: There's Just One Thing: The Sugars read letters from four women who each have one not-so-tiny reservation about the men they’re dating. A Black woman is dating a white man who is unwilling to talk about race issues, claiming that she’s “too sensitive.” Another woman’s boyfriend, a Christian, is having second thoughts about dating an atheist. by Dear Sugars
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Episodes We Love: 'Head Or The Heart' Update: The Sugars get an update from "Head or the Heart" — a woman who'd fallen in love with a man with a troubled childhood. She worried that the traumas of his past could surface at some point in their relationship. Nine months later, is she still with her boyfriend? The Sugars find out. by Dear Sugars
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Redux: Body Weight and Romance: It’s never easy to talk to our romantic partners about their bodies, especially when it’s about weight. The Sugars, along with writer Ashley C. Ford, answer letters from people questioning their relationships because of major changes in their partners’ bodies. by Dear Sugars
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Archive: When Your Loved Ones Just Don't 'Get It': Our loved ones are the people who are supposed to understand us. But what if they just...can't? Where do we turn then, and how do we fight the feelings of resentment that this lack of understanding can stir up? This episode was originally released November 11th, 2016. by Dear Sugars
32 min listen
(Encore) Rapid Fire: Friendship, Part 2 - Male-Female Friendships: The Sugars' conversation on friendship continues with a handful of letters concerning male-female friendships. Is there such a thing as a platonic relationship between a heterosexual man and woman? Can male-female friendships be as emotionally satisfying as same-gender relationships? What do you do when a friend crosses a romantic line? The Sugars discuss it all in rapid-fire fashion. by Dear Sugars
32 min listen
(Redux) Rapid Fire: Friendship, Part 1 - FAQs: Everyone has had a friendship quandary of some sort in the past, right? This week, the Sugars take on frequently asked questions in "rapid fire" fashion – from hating your best friend's significant other, to hating her politics. by Dear Sugars
41 min listen
Redux: The Stepchild's Dilemma: Whether you’re 5, 15, or 50 years old, it can be difficult to usher a stepparent in and out of the family unit. In today’s episode, the Sugars answer letters from stepchildren who have fraught relationships with their stepparents. This episode was originally released on April 28th, 2018. by Dear Sugars
45 min listen
Encore: Buyer's Remorse: Buzz Bissinger owns more than 100 pairs of leather pants and over 200 pairs of leather gloves, having spent more than $600,000 on leather goods in the span of three years. Mr. Bissinger has a spending addiction, and he joins the Sugars to offer guidance to a letter-writer whose therapist and family don’t take her spending seriously. by Dear Sugars
24 min listen
Redux: Love In Doubt: How many times have you heard this: "I love him, we're great together, but..."? There's always room for doubt, even in the happiest of relationships. So this week, the Sugars take on some of those doubts in rapid-fire fashion. by Dear Sugars
42 min listen
Redux: The Ugly Truth: Most of us have days when we don’t feel attractive. But in this episode, the Sugars read letters from people whose faces are at odds with conventional ideas of beauty. Writer Ariel Henley joins to talk about her own facial differences. Henley was born with Crouzon Syndrome, and underwent dozens of surgeries that changed the shape of her face. by Dear Sugars
35 min listen
Redux: Talking About Privilege: Privilege comes in many forms: socio-economic privilege, gender privilege, heterosexual privilege, to name a few. In this episode, the Sugars reply to two letter writers who are facing different forms of privilege. They discuss with Catrice M. Jackson, a leading voice for racial justice. by Dear Sugars
52 min listen
Encore: Cutting The Financial Cord: At age 18, we are granted the rights and responsibilities of adulthood in the eyes of the law. But for parents of young adults, it’s not so clear cut. by Dear Sugars
31 min listen
Introducing ‘The Gun Machine’, a podcast about how America was forged by the gun industry: WBUR and The Trace bring you a story that most Americans never learned in history class — a new podcast about the gun industry’s grip on our country. by Dear Sugars
3 min listen
Redux: A Spy In The House Of Love: Snooping on your spouse is generally ill-advised, but what if he or she has an addiction and is constantly lying about it? The Sugars and writer Ariel Levy answer this question on today’s episode. by Dear Sugars
33 min listen
Redux: The Empty Chair, Part 2: This is part two of the series on early childhood death. The Sugars read letters from parents who worry that their grief may overshadow their surviving children. They are joined by the writer Emily Rapp Black, who decided to have another child after learning that her son had a fatal congenital disorder. by Dear Sugars
34 min listen
Redux: Trust Your Body: Her grandmother always introduced her as the “chubby one.” Now, she vacillates between moderation and binge-eating. “It’s only when my pants are nearly impossible to button that I force myself to lose weight,” writes the letter-writer who calls herself Body Negative. “And then the pattern starts all over again.” The Sugars discuss and share their own struggles with body image. by Dear Sugars
42 min listen
Episodes We Love: The Power Of No, Part 2: Oprah Winfrey: "What do I want?" This is the question Oprah Winfrey finally asked herself, after years of struggling to say "no" to people in her life. In the second of this two-part series, the Sugars continue their conversation with Oprah Winfrey on when, why and how to say "no." by Dear Sugars
25 min listen
Redux: The Other Half of Sexless Relationships by Dear Sugars
24 min listen
Encore: The Empty Chair, Part 1: In the Empty Chair series, the Sugars discuss early childhood death, an absence that can be ever-present. In Part 1, they read letters from siblings who live in the the shadow of their parents’ grief. by Dear Sugars
34 min listen

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Encore: Sexless Relationships, Part 2

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