After dinner a few days ago, Carys randomly started telling us that if we want to understand some of the things she's feeling, we should cast our minds back to when we were children and remember how we would have felt about it at the time. The conversation continued as we explored more of her feelings when she's having difficult moments, and at some point someone (recollections differ on exactly who it was!) suggested we record a podcast episode about it.
Carys was immediately on board and wanted to do it right away, but we came back to it the next afternoon. She thinks that parents often don't understand how their children are feeling and she'd like suggest ways to help your children when they're behaving in a way that may seem 'difficult' to you.
Jump to highlights:
(01:00) My special guest in her podcasting debut
(02:18) What helps to understand your kid's feelings
(03:18) Feeling the physical sensations of frustration
(03:42) What Carys feels when she get 'that feeling'
(04:19) Parents don't really understand that children sometimes want to be alone
(06:07) Different kids deal with things in different ways
(07:34) Our new method for when we disagree on things
(10:37) We have rewards now
(11:46) Carys's thoughts on problem solving
 
Links:
https://yourparentingmojo.com/settinglimits/ (Setting Limits Workshop)
 
 
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Jen [00:00]
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Jen [01:00]
Hello and welcome to the, Your Parenting Mojo Podcast. I'm Jen. Who are you?
 
This is Carys in her world podcasting debut. So if you're not watching this on YouTube, you might want to watch it on YouTube cause then you'll get to see both of us. And so we were having a conversation last night about feelings, right? Yeah. And so I, we were having, you were having ice cream and I was doing dishes.
 
And all of a sudden you started talking about how you feel when you're having a hard time. And daddy said, You should be in a podcast.
 
Carys [01:37]
Actually, I think I said that.
 
Jen [01:39]
Oh, you did? Oh okay, and daddy agreed. And we were going to do it last night, but you had an appointment to talk to auntie Jas, didn't you? You couldn't do both. So here we are today to talk about feelings.
 
So how old are you?
 
Carys [01:52]
Six and a half.
 
Jen [01:53]
Six and a half. Okay. You're almost six and three quarters. Aren't you?
 
Carys [01:56]
Yeah. I was going to say that but like....
 
Jen [02:00]
Okay. How many loose teeth do you have? Oh, yeah. Got to be on YouTube to get that one. The two front teeth are wobbly and have been wobbly for a while aren't they? So do you remember what we were talking about last night? Why you started telling us about your feelings? I was trying to remember, and I couldn't remember.
 
Carys [02:18]
I think I just remembered that it just helps to understand your kids' feelings when you just look back and see a time when you were feeling like that.
 
Jen [02:32]
Oh, that's...