On episode 147 we talk with Bekah Rose about abuse in the kink community and in kink relationships. How do we most effectively deal with habitual abusers in our spaces? Is it always possible to make room for people that abuse to change and heal? What are the most common types of abuse we see within the kink community? In intimate relationships why is it so hard to spot subtle abusive tactics like gaslighting and emotional manipulation? How can we better support others who are experiencing this? What’s the difference between a consent violation and consent failure? Abuse is present in every community and has the potential to perpetrated by anyone in any type of relationship. This is episode required listening no matter what community you belong to.     Submit your BDSM & sex advice questions by email to americansexpodcast@gmail.com To support American Sex podcast, please visit patreon.com/americansex (plus you’ll get all episodes early, secret episodes, bonus stories from guests, on-air shout-outs, stuff in the mail & more!) Get friendly with us on Twitter at @AmericanSexPod or visit sunnymegatron.com or americansexpodcast.com Join our mailing list by visiting http://sunnymegatron.com/newsletter   Sunny & Ken, xo! ____________________________________ Episode 147 Links Bekah Rose TikTok https://vm.tiktok.com/ZMJQMvRwn/ Bekah Rose Instagram https://www.instagram.com/plusthefuckup/ Transformative Justice A Curriculum Guide https://transformharm.org/wp-content/uploads/2018/12/tjcurriculum_design_small-finalrev.pdf Toward Transformative Justice A Liberatory Approach to Child Sexual Abuse and other forms of Intimate and Community Violence http://www.generationfive.org/wp-content/uploads/2013/07/G5_Toward_Transformative_Justice-Document.pdf Handbook on Restorative Justice programmes https://www.unodc.org/pdf/criminal_justice/Handbook_on_Restorative_Justice_Programmes.pdf Ken's TTRPG Gaming Streams (Sunny Plays Tuesday nights at 5pm PT) http://twitch.tv/thunderpantsrpg Ken's gaming Twitter handle http://twitter.com/thunderpantsdm XBIZ Industry Forum https://www.xbiz.net/index.php?c=home.updates&referrer_id=1410259 American Sex Podcast Discord Community http://bit.ly/discordasp American Sex Podcast subreddit: https://www.reddit.com/r/americansexpodcast Pervertibles live stream with hashtag open http://bit.ly/sunnygetvokl American Sex Podcast Patreon http://patreon.com/americansex Episode 147 Sponsor, Affiliate & Giveaway Info  Get 20% off + free shipping at Manscaped.com with code SUNNY http://manscaped.com Satisfyer Pleasure Products http://satisfyer.com 50% off your first Care/of order: TakeCareOf.com & use code sunny50 YNOT Mail - The only sexual health & adult industry friendly email service http://bit.ly/sunnyynot Prestige Cams: A model owned, model-centric website, which works off Mobile Cell and Laptop for Pay per Minute Webcams, Phone Chat, and XXX Content. Registered models own their own content, which is protected by DMCA. https://prestigecams.net/ 10% off American Sex Podcast & Sunny Megatron merch with code SUNNY (t-shirts, mugs, phone cases & more) http://bit.ly/sunnyshirts Sunny & Ken’s classes on Kink Academy http://bit.ly/kinkacademyelectric  & http://bit.ly/kinkacademyhumiliation Prostate Play for Beginners (recorded class) from Sugar Baltimore https://www.sugartheshop.com/prostate-milking-for-beginners.html 15% off your order at Lovehoney when you use this link http://bit.ly/lovehoney15 (This link can be a little wonky and does not keep tracking cookies. If the discount does not show up in your cart (or disappears after you shop around on the site), access the site with that link again. Your items will still be in your cart & the discount will appear) 15% off everything at Lelo.com with code SUNNY 10% off everything (with minor restrictions) online from woman-owned, feminist, trans & queer-friendly Early To Bed http://bit.ly/sunnyetb with code SUNNY 10% off everything from Fun Factory using this link http://b