The Value of a Good Apology

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The Value of a Good Apology

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Oct 12, 2009

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Since everyone blows it sometimes, we could all benefit from knowing how to give a really good apology. It may not change what happened, but it can change how the other person feels about it.

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Oct 12, 2009

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The Value of a Good Apology

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