Episode 263: The Working Definition of Love

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Episode 263: The Working Definition of Love

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Mar 15, 2016

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TOPIC: No one cares about your demo anymore.

This week Dan & Merlin talk about realizing when life isn't all about you and getting better at learning how to say "thank you."

Also, lots of great practical (and philosophical) suggestions for getting started with or back into comics.

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Mar 15, 2016

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Back to Work is an award winning talk show with Merlin Mann and Dan Benjamin discussing productivity, communication, work, barriers, constraints, tools, and more. Hosted by Merlin Mann & Dan Benjamin.

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Episode 263: The Working Definition of Love

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