Why I Can't Stop White Knuckling?

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Why I Can't Stop White Knuckling?

FromThe Betrayed, The Addicted, The Expert

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Apr 9, 2019

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Not acting out is a thing and often times is the immediate goal. However, when we don't feel better and our partners seem to feel the energy that goes with the white knuckling, things can get tough. So why can't I stop white knuckling?

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Apr 9, 2019

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