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Highlights, Takeaways & Quick Wins:

Being negative or hurtful is not an effective way to give criticism.
When you receive criticism, stop for a second and see if there’s any truth to it.
Don’t argue with strangers on the internet.
People who are open to changing their mind will listen instead of arguing.
Great criticism is rare—seek it out from people you trust.
If you continue to blame your negativity on other people all the time, you’re missing an opportunity to feel happiness and gratitude.

I want to start this episode off by sharing a blog post about criticism that Seth Godin published the other day, called The Paradox of the Flawless Record.
He said, “If your work has never been criticized, it’s unlikely you have any work. Creating work is the point, though, which means that in order to do something that matters, you’re going to be criticized.
*If your goal is to be universally liked and respected and understood, then, it must mean your goal is to not do something that matters. Which requires hiding. Hiding, of course, isn’t the point. Hence the paradox. You don’t want to be criticized and you do want to matter. *
The solution: Create work that gets criticized. AND, have the discernment to tell the difference between useful criticism (rare and precious) and the stuff worth ignoring (everything else).”
What Is the Intention of the Person Criticizing Me?
When someone gives you feedback or criticism, ask yourself: what is their intention?
Hearing negative feedback sucks. It sucks to hear, “This thing you made isn’t very good and here’s why.”
That’s hard and it hurts our egos. We like to think that everything we do is great. But stop for a second and see if there’s any truth to the criticism. Regardless of how negative the person is being, see if there’s any useful information you can pull from it and apply to make your thing better. Your goal should always be to make your thing (blog post, podcast, writing, or video) better.
When I Provide Criticism, What is My Intention?
Think about the last time you reached out to someone to talk about their work. Be careful not to fall into the trap of thinking that sharing how much you hate something will somehow make your life better.
A wise man once said, ”The shit you hate don't make you special.”
So there’s someone creating work you don’t like: What does telling that person they suck do besides make them doubt their abilities or make them feel bad?
Why is it necessary for you to tell someone that you don’t like what they do?
I want to make it clear that I’m talking about creative work here, like design, podcasting, making video, making music, and so on. I’m not talking about the many injustices happening in the world.
If someone is hurting someone else, then I do think it is fair to tell them that’s not acceptable. But if you’re just telling someone else that you don’t like their art, why are you wasting your time on that? What are you trying to accomplish?
If your goal really is to help someone make something better, being negative or hurtful is not an effective way to do that.
Great criticism is rare. Seek it out from people you trust.
Seek out constructive criticism from people you know and trust.
Go to a friend or mentor you trust and say, “I made this thing. I want to know what you think about it. Please be honest about how you think I could improve it, if you think I could improve it. I appreciate your time.”
But keep in mind that you’re asking them for a favor, you’re asking them for time, so sometimes they may say no or just you a brief or unhelpful answer.
Five questions to ask yourself when someone gives you negative feedback:

Is this person trying to help or j