Research consistently found that it takes four positive comments to recover from one negative comment from a partner. That ratio means that criticism is a highly ineffective way of communicating in your relationship with your partner. In this episode, Dr. Julie Colwell teaches how to shift out of toxic relationship patterns such as reactive brain, blame and criticism and instead, show appreciation for our partner. Dr. Julie Colwell is a psychologist based in Boulder, CO. She has spent her career developing and refining methods for individuals, couples, families, groups, and organizations to shift out of energy-draining power struggles into reconnection, innovation and flow. Her methods are clear, research-based and powerful. Dr. Colwell also hosts workshops and classes and is the author of the bestseller, The Relationship Skills Workbook and The Relationship Ride. Full show notes and episode links at: http://idopodcast.com/157 If you're looking to create more passion, improve communication, deepen your intimacy and connection and start having fun again with your partner, then we hope you check out our new online course, Spark My Relationship. Get access to our special offer for I Do Podcast listeners only by visiting: SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock Sign up for our FREE 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Do you want to hear more on this topic? Do you want to build trust back into your relationship? If so, you're not alone. Continue the conversation on our Facebook Group here: Love Tribe Sponsors Haven Life Term life insurance is the easiest, most cost-effective way to cover your family for the years they’ll need it most. To get your free quote with Haven Life by visiting https://welcome.havenlife.com/ido P.volve P.volve’s streaming service offers a large library of videos, including structured workout plans and new videos updated weekly. Users can stream to sculpt, tone and define anytime, anywhere from any device! Interested in trying the P.Ball? To buy a P.Ball and receive 2 months of free streaming, visit Pvolve.com/ido and enter ido at checkout. If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! - Chase & Sarah