Diffusing Arguments http://learntruehealth.com/diffusing-arguments/ Diffusing Arguments Through Emotional Intelligence   Diffusing arguments is something most of us struggle with. It’s not easy keeping our emotions in check especially when we feel hurt. I have had Michael Weinberger on the show several times in the past, and I believe he’s the perfect resource person to teach us the art of diffusing arguments.    A Plan For Living   I’m ecstatic to have Michael Weinberger once again on the show! He’s the creator of this excellent app called, ‘A Plan For Living.’ It aims to rekindle that spark in your life through gratitude so if you’re feeling down or dealing with emotional issues, do check out this app.    Many of us take for granted that our emotions play a significant role in our overall health. Lack of love, happiness, vitality, and connection in our life significantly affects us on a physical and mental level. Diffusing arguments become a constant struggle, and consequently, our life falls apart. That’s why during times like these, we feel like a failure.    The Power Of Reaction   Michael Weinberger recalls this one instance he had with his employee. This particular person tended to become extremely defensive and frustrated with client behavior. Diffusing arguments between that employee and clients was both a struggle and a challenge.   Nevertheless, Michael Weinberger helped his employee deal with his emotions.  Eventually, that employee realized that the most significant lesson he learned is that he can’t control what happens to him, but instead he can control how he reacts.   “The quality of life is based on how you react, not what happens to you. Whenever I don’t know how to handle a client situation, I focus on what I can control,” said Michael Weinberger. “And that control has been learned through the practice of gratitude and spirituality.” Realizing Your Self-Worth   Michael Weinberger says that when we realize how many things we are grateful for, our self-worth increases.  He suggests that we must always remind ourselves to be aware of our self-worth, especially before having difficult conversations with others or diffusing arguments. Remind yourself that your self-worth is not going to be impacted by the discussion you are about to have.    “I just have to worry about how I can control my reaction in response to situations. Because that will determine whether or not I am going to be happy for that given day,” Michael Weinberger said. In hindsight, Michael Weinberger recalls that he used to take things personally.  He felt that his value as a human being was based on what everyone thought of him. It is a typical human reaction because people do tend to get defensive when they feel they are being attacked.  However, that response could be avoided if you keep your emotions in check. Finding Happiness    “Happiness, well-being or your spiritual connection is a choice. It is not something to be taken away from you,” Michael Weinberger said. Citing an example, Michael Weinberger says he could show up to a meeting and allow someone not to agree with him.  The outcome could go both ways.  Either Michael Weinberger would end up giving others his happiness by reacting disproportionately, or he could stay in his space, and truly listen, be present and hear the words that are being said.   Diffusing Arguments   Diffusing arguments is never easy, but Michael Weinberger says it can be achieved. First of all, he suggests removing the noise in an argument. Be present in what the conversation is really about. Ask yourself why are you hurt by the discussion and dig deep into analyzing how the situation makes you feel.  During an argument, merely state to the other person how you feel about the situation instead of immediately defending your position. Picking on the other person’s feelings won’t help resolve things either.   “You can only control how you react to a situation. So if you react to a situation on fire, you should e