How to win life's battles: Healing the wounds of the past

By Delia Hernández

In this book, the author speaks directly to the readers without embellishing or inventing significant events in her life.

The interesting and fascinating part of the book lies in her ability to face painful experiences intelligently, always guided by the loving hand of God our Lord.

She is a voice of encouragement that gives meaning

• Language: English
• Publisher: ibukku, LLC
• Release date: Apr 20, 2024
• ISBN: 9781685746711

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How to win life’s battles

Healing the wounds of the past

Delia Hernández

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Copyright © 2023 Delia Hernández

ISBN Paperback: 978-1-68574-670-4

ISBN Hardcover: 978-1-68574-672-8

ISBN eBook: 978-1-68574-671-1

TABLE OF CONTENT

PREFACE

Acknowledgment

Dedication

PART ONE

1. WHEN YOU LOSE YOUR INNOCENCE

2. CONSEQUENCES OF DISOBEDIENCE

3. IN SEARCH OF A FUTURE

4. BREAKING THE CHAINS

5. BLESSINGS RECEIVED BY THE KING

6. GRIEF

7. TRIBULATIONS

8. FORGIVENESS

SECOND PART

YOUR FIRST LOVE

2. REMOVE THE MASK AND BARE YOUR SOUL

3. REST IN JESUS

4. THE DEVIL PROWLS LIKE A ROARING LION

5. IF YOU FALL, DON’T WASTE TIME AND GET UP

6. LEARN TO FORGIVE

7. CLOTHE YOURSELF ANEW

8. HE WAITS FOR YOU WITH OPEN ARMS

ADVICE FOR IMPROVING YOUR LIFE AND PERSONAL RELATIONSHIPS

Advice for your children

Advice for young couples in dating

Advice for not bringing your family or in-laws into your living situation

Why we have to work

ADVICE FOR SUCCEEDING IN YOUR JOB

How to be a good employee

How to succeed in your business

Advice for success in your business

LIES

Start rejecting lies in your life

Types of lies

JEALOUSY

You must reject all forms of jealousy

Advice to avoid jealousy

ADVICE TO HEAL YOUR MARRIAGE

Four main causes of divorce

Four things marriages should be

General points to consider

The divine order for the home

Things wives should keep in mind

Suggestions for husbands

The grand finale

My big family

PREFACE

In this book, I speak for the first time about my life and share all the miracles and testimonies that God has performed in it. I also emphasize the importance of recognizing the presence of the Holy Spirit, Jesus, and God, for without them, I could not have written it.

Its sole purpose is to assist all those women who, up to this day, have not yet found themselves, with the ultimate goal of healing all the wounds in their lives.

It aims to heal the pain and forget those sexual violations that caused so much harm, the loss of a loved one that you haven’t been able to forget, the children who haven’t returned home due to disobedience or rebellion, that husband who forgot you one day and never came back home, that divorce and the damage you or others have caused to your loved ones due to alcoholism, drug addiction, or prostitution. Whether you haven’t made progress in your job or business, or simply as a woman, you haven’t accepted the wisdom’s advice.

In Proverbs 1:2-7 of the Bible, it says: To understand a proverb and an enigma, the words of the wise and their riddles. The fear of the Lord is the beginning of knowledge, but fools despise wisdom and instruction.

Proverbs 14:1 states: The wise woman builds her house, but the foolish one tears it down with her own hands.

I tell you that wisdom and intelligence are the greatest treasures that God has given you. To acquire them, you only need to trust in Him and no one else. This is the only way your life will truly change.

God will give you the power to receive all His blessings. He will grant you the peace you’ve been searching for, and He will heal you both emotionally and spiritually. He will heal all your diseases and ailments, and you will conquer all of life’s battles by healing the wounds of the past, but only if you know how to forgive.

May God bless you always, and may you also, after experiencing this transformation, help many women who had the same needs as you, in the name of Christ Jesus. Amen.

Acknowledgment

This book is the result of a lifetime of learning and suffering. Over the years, there were many pieces of advice, family, friends, pastors, teachers, who taught me to recognize, above all, that I had to rise and move forward.

Nothing can be achieved without the help of those who love you just the way you are. Never say no to advice, never deny the assistance of someone who knows more than you. We always have much to learn from other people, even from your own children, from the ministers of the Church, from the bosses at work, and from the elders.

I must acknowledge those angels who have always been in my life; I could never forget them for their invaluable help. Especially you, my dear sister Lupita, along with my brother-in-law Javier, who supported me so much throughout this process; I love you, sister.

Thank you, Javier, my partner, my support, my love, my beloved husband, thank you for lending me a hand when I needed it most.

For those brave women who have emerged victorious, who have won battles by healing the wounds of the past.

I acknowledge that this book was inspired by God, for without the presence of the Holy Spirit, I would not have the ability to write it; I am grateful because I was obedient to His word.

To those readers who dare to purchase this book.

Dedication

I dedicate this book especially to my God, for changing my life, for washing away my wounds of the past, for filling me with light, and making me a new creation. Thank you, Father, whom I recognize as my personal Savior, for you, Jesus, died for me on a cross, regardless of your suffering, you shed your precious blood for me. Thank you, Holy Spirit, for inspiring me to bear witness to my life and write this book. Lord, you who knew me before I was in my mother’s womb, thank you, Father.

I thank my family, starting with you, Nashla, for being the first angel in my life, always so centered, a lover of God, always so self-assured. To my Vanessa, my princess, always helping others and sparing nothing. To my Divana, my beautiful baby, so patient, always by my side taking care of me. To my grandchildren, who are my new generations, the most beautiful gifts God has given me. To you, Alexis and Laurita, and your new baby, to my Frances, Samantha, Xavier, Dominique, Mía, Ethan, and Elías, and to my beautiful great-granddaughter, Génesis. To the sons-in-law who became my sons and filled my life, I hope you never forget the one above, Jesus Christ.

To my beloved husband, Javier Hernández, for his support.

To my dear sister Sonia, a testament to life, with a new chance to live after her illness.

THANK YOU

JESUS.

PART ONE

1. WHEN YOU LOSE YOUR INNOCENCE

2. CONSEQUENCES OF DISOBEDIENCE

3. IN SEARCH OF A FUTURE

4. BREAKING THE CHAINS

5. BLESSINGS RECEIVED BY THE KING

6. GRIEF

7. TRIBULATIONS

8. FORGIVENESS

DEAR READER, I REQUEST THAT YOU DO NOT STOP READING THIS BOOK UNTIL THE END.

1. WHEN YOU LOSE YOUR INNOCENCE

I remember when I was very young, a tall man picked me up in his arms. I distinctly recall starting to cry; I was so afraid of that person. In reality, I didn’t know him, but my parents did, as he was my godfather, the one they had chosen for my baptism. That memory stayed with me, for it was the first fear I experienced when I was only two years old. After that occasion, to the best of my recollection, I never saw him again.

From my childhood, I have memories of some beautiful times. Not everything was bad, as my life was also filled with friends who brought laughter, games, confidences, and many other things.

As I moved on to my childhood, more fears came, worse than the first, these were different. These were unpleasant events for my childhood that I was unaware of, memories that left a deep imprint, such as a man who was my father’s uncle. He was already elderly, and he used to invite my siblings and me to his house, but the worst part was yet to come when this person sent my siblings to the store. They were very young, just like me; I think I was about six years old. Apart from it being dangerous due to their tender age, he did it with the intention of being alone with me, to touch me and harm me. I don’t recall how much time passed; later, as time went by, I learned that this person had died, carrying this wickedness in his heart. Maybe he never recognized the harm he had done to me, and perhaps he never repented.

We were six siblings: two of my siblings, the youngest, and I were always together because of our age. The other three: Lupita, Sonia, and Roberto were older than us. They were more protective; as you can see, Memo, Pancho, and I were closer in age.

I was growing up, perhaps around eight years old, and I remember very clearly the loneliness my mother experienced. My father didn’t live with us; he had to take care of my grandmother, who owned a hotel in Tijuana. So, we didn’t grow up with our father. He was a well-known businessman in the city of Tijuana, and he was also involved in politics. He used to come over for breakfast every day, but he didn’t sleep with us. I could see the solitude that my mother endured with her six children; we were three girls and three boys. My older sister, Lupita, and my sister Sonia became independent and moved out to live on their own. The third child was my brother Roberto, who lived with us until he got married, followed by my brother Memo, then me with the nickname Marisela, and finally, my little brother Panchito. My mother had many children and a lot of responsibility on her shoulders, and it was sad to see her so alone, feeling somewhat abandoned by her husband. Although my parents were best friends and saw each other every day, he didn’t have time for her as a husband because he was always busy with his affairs. Every once in a while, she would visit some friends, a married couple originally from Aguascalientes but living very close to our house in Tijuana. They were a very friendly couple to us, but one day, when I was about 7 years old, they invited me to their house. I was in their room because their house was very small — just a kitchen, a large bedroom, and a bathroom —, and the man and his son had just finished bathing when I was alone in that place. While the lady was cooking, they came out of the bathroom and removed their towels, and the

man began to touch his masculine part, and indicated to his little son to do the same. I got very scared because it reminded me of what had happened with my dad’s uncle, so I didn’t want my mom to send me to their house