Parenting Your Anxious Child: Practical Ways to Help Your Anxious Child Overcome Worry, Shyness and Social Anxiety
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Parenting Your Anxious Child - Larissa Harvey
Introduction
Parenting is one of the hardest things that you will ever do. But it can also be one of the best, most wonderful, and most rewarding experiences of your life.
Now, when you have a child with anxiety, parenting can be particularly challenging. That is because you have to do things a bit differently than you normally would, at least until your child overcomes this phase of their life, which brings us to the motive behind the writing of this book.
Childhood anxiety doesn’t have to define the rest of your beloved child’s life, does it?
There is absolutely no reason why your child’s social anxiety or separation fears should follow them all the way into adulthood. There is no law or rule that states that must absolutely be the case.
People do overcome things, and in my own limited capacity as a fellow parent, I have learned that children are the most resilient souls that this world has to offer. If anyone can overcome the grueling, gnawing monster that is anxiety, children can. And in following that rule of thumb, your anxious child most definitely can.
In this world of ups and downs, and – ugh! –social media and the internet, the responsibility of bringing up a child falls largely to the parent. It is left to us to ensure that our little angels grow up to become well-adjusted adults, responsible adults who are capable of living their very best lives without hang-ups and insecurities nipping at their heels at every turn. And so, we must not neglect our responsibilities.
What you will find in this book, Raising an Anxious Child, includes:
Finally, it is never easy to help someone with anxiety, especially a child. It can be frustrating, but you must stay motivated and encouraged along the way; so as not to sabotage your own mental health along the way. The only way to guarantee this, however, is to remain positive. Be gentle with your child, go easy on yourself, don’t give up, and you will surely see the results.
How to Get the Most Out of this book
There are 3 important things that you must do – and keep in mind – if you are to get your money’s worth from this book. They are:
Find a good time, get comfortable and…read.
Basically, you must try to really identify your child’s displays of anxiety. And then, you must try to figure out the underlying causes behind them. If possible, come up with a plan on how to discuss them gently with your child.
You must know that there is no universal, one-shoe-fits-all rule to raising children, even those who have anxiety in common.
So, it is left to you, the parent, to figure out how best to apply these crucial lessons uniquely to your child, to help them overcome their childhood anxiety.
Again, I will tell you: It won’t be easy. But it will be worth it. You’ll see.
Chapter 1:
Anxiety – What It Is and How It Often Presents Itself in Children
What is anxiety?
This is perhaps the most essential question in this book. The next most important question would be, Does your child have anxiety?
But we’ll get to that in a little while. First, we must describe anxiety.
The disorder – or condition, if you will – is easy enough to define. According to the NHS (The National Health Service), it is a feeling of unease, such as worry or fear, that can be mild or severe.
The British Psychological Society terms it a feeling of profound agitation and unease about an imminent unpleasant experience, often accompanied by physical symptoms such as breathlessness, sweating, and a racing heartbeat.
They also say that in the most severe cases, these symptoms can be extremely debilitating.
One more definition I would like to add before we go on is the one given by the American Psychological Society. While they describe anxiety as a normal reaction to stress,
they also state that anxiety disorders are very different from the usual nerves that are common to most people. In fact, what they say precisely is, Anxiety disorders differ from normal feelings of nervousness or anxiousness, and involve excessive fear or anxiety.
They also say that anxiety disorders are the most common of mental disorders and affect nearly 30 percent of adults at some point in their lives.
Now, what all this simply means is that anxiety is a big deal. It is serious. It is a real medical condition, a disorder. You can’t sweep it under the rug or wish it away, or ignore it in hopes that it will magically disappear like Cinderella’s beautiful carriage at twelve midnight.
The let’s-do-nothing-but-hope-they-outgrow-it
approach will probably, most definitely not work here.
Anxiety is real. And this is the first thing that you must know about it.
The second thing that you absolutely have to know is that anxiety wears many faces and can manifest in different ways, in both adults and children.
If you’re looking to find answers in this book for an adult (or an adult child), you will probably end up with some pointers or helpful tips because anxiety somehow manages to bring out the child in us. However, this book is geared specifically towards children and was written with them in mind.
Anxiety in children – or child anxiety – can occur in many different ways. The most probable reason for this is that most children have a very strong sense of imagination. They are also renowned for their innocence. So, with their particular demographic – or at least with children from ages 0-12 – you’re likely to get a great deal of honesty in your dealings with them.
They don’t usually have emotional walls up, and those that do have probably not learned to fortify them well. So, what you have with children is usually the raw form of human nature, without walls, rock-steady pretense, and guile. More than 80% of the time, what you see is what you get.
In most instances, your children will show you their true feelings, with an awe-inspiring lack of guardedness that will humble you. Because of this, as a parent, you get to experience all those feelings right along with them – from the joys of taking their very first step and the sense of achievement that comes with getting their very first A on their school exams to the terror of their very first nightmare and the absolute helplessness of those first stirrings of anxiety.
Being a parent is not always easy. I’ve said it before and will say it again: Being a parent is one of the hardest things you will ever do. The sense of responsibility that comes with it is crushing, even more so than the job itself at times, and we must constantly deal with the need to fix everything in our children’s lives to make an imperfect world perfect for them. So, their achievements become our achievements, and their fears become our fears. And their anxiety…well, let’s