The Way Things Are
By Bill Mathis
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Connecting the dots. Looking backward to look forward. Personal discovery. Acceptance. Rejection. Change. Love. Family. These are the themes of essays, poems and short stories by Bill Mathis who writes of the people he meets along the path while walking his dog, the lessons in life those interactions bring to mind. A poem about a young soldier who died in Viet Nam, another about God being a baseball or a sixteen-inch softball. Fiction about missed opportunities between a father and his gay son, their guilt and reconciliation. A humorous trip to Romania ends in awe at how his traveling companion escaped a totalitarian life.
With humor and thought, Bill explores his surroundings, contemplates his past, and looks to the future. Whatever the future may be, it will be the way things are...
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The Way Things Are - Bill Mathis
The Way Things Are
Essays, Poems and Stories
Bill Mathis
Published by Rogue Phoenix Press, LLP for Smashwords
Copyright © 2023
ISBN: 978-1-62420-749-5
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Dedication
To Emmy, Wrighte, Everette, Carol, Kerri, Addison, Rick & Baxter
Introduction
The Way Things Are are the words spoken by an older woman caring for her husband near the end of his life. As hard as we try to control our own lives, things change. We change, or at least I did. Circumstances out of our control pop up. We discover things about ourselves, our families, and our friends that may surprise us or add validity to our perceptions of them. In other words, we frequently need to face life as the way things are, not as we want them to be.
Written over the years since I retired, mostly between 2014 and 2020, the book is a collection of stories, poems, and personal essays. Some are true, some are fiction. Many are entertaining, some are thought provoking. Some may be just plain weird, while others deal with self-discovery. I hope each piece can share some truths about life. In the true stories, all names have been changed, but if it waddles like a duck, quacks like a duck and swims like a duck, well…it’s just The Way Things Are.
Bill Mathis 2021
Author’s Update and Acknowledgements
My last novel, Memory Tree, was published in the spring of 2021. While awaiting its publication, I rediscovered these stories on my computer and began compiling them. However, I was slowing down; little energy, trouble concentrating. I realized my Chronic Fatigue Syndrome was relapsing. I’ve had CFS for twenty-five years with the last fifteen years being quite manageable. Now it wasn’t. I quit writing, couldn’t sit at the computer for more than a few minutes, spent some time researching CFS and newer treatments. There isn’t much new or being done, though there are some hopes that the research into Long Term Covid will bring more focus on CFS—so I decided to not expend energy chasing and wait it out. I’d like to say I’m much better, but I’m not. Today I decided to pull out this manuscript and discovered it was nearly complete. Thankfully, I found some help with editing and structuring.
Many thanks to everyone who has read, edited, commented, and helped on these stories. Sherry Derr-Wille for editing and advice, Kathie Giorgio of All Writers Workshop, Jerry Peterson and the members of the Beloit Library Night Writers group, high school friend and advisor Ronnie Moore-O’Toole who sequenced the stories, the Wisconsin Writers Association, Raymond Luczak of Molly House publishing, Sarah Hawes-Hernandez of the Ogle Winnebago Writers group, and lastly Rick Dexter, my partner of ten years who encourages me every day.
Peace and good will,
Bill Mathis
Winter 2023
The River Path
The river flows by, sometimes fast, sometimes slow, through lakes, over dams, shallow, deep, around rocks and logjams, oozing mud. It threatens, at times destroys, yet in the end always nourishes, always sustains. Just like life.
The dam roars softly in the background while songs of finches, robins, and orioles sound from the foliage along the river below. A goldfinch flits around the shrubs and day lilies. A mourning dove observes me from the neighbor’s railing. Flowers—petunias, geraniums, and marigolds—explode from their pots, interspersed with crocks shimmering of rosemary and bright basil, while hints of mint tickle the air. This on the balcony where I sit. The river and path part of my life, the life I walk every morning and evening.
Ostensibly, I go out to walk my dog, Baxter, to get some exercise, which is true. I’m wandering through my life. Past, present, and future. Wondering about the lives of the people I meet, pass by, or chat with, sometimes in real life, sometimes in my imagination. Pondering their lives. Pondering my own.
I’m amazed at my journey, my path, the river which led me to this balcony: two rewarding careers, one in YMCA camping, the next in foster care. Two marriages, with two daughters, a stepdaughter and three grandchildren. Finally recognizing and accepting I was gay; coming out; feeling whole for the first time in my life; meeting Andrew and moving in with him. What a ride. What a life.
Regrets? Yes, I’ve had a few, as Frank Sinatra sang, but I can’t travel forward looking backward. They will always be back there, part of my life, who I was, who I am, shaping who I will be.
~ * ~
Each day on the path, I recognize the same people walking, running, or biking, by the time of morning it is. At seven a.m. Anne, a neighbor, walks Bart, her aging Airedale terrier. They take a short walk due to his declining health, usually after Anne has exercised at a fitness center. Lately, she’s been skipping the fitness center and taking two walks. A short one with Bart and a longer one with her son’s dog she is temporarily caring for. Hank is an Australian shepherd and needs lots of exercise. So, Anne jogs, while Hank runs and fetches the rope toy, she repeatedly throws for him to chase. We frequently talk outside our building or on the path.
I think about our conversations. About our adult children. Her sons, my daughters. About the river of our lives through divorce, adult kids who haven’t quite found themselves, or who are living on student loans, about relationships with ex-spouses and their families, about new relationships, a son getting married, a new grandchild on the way, about the events in our wonderful town and neighborhood. Not necessarily deep talks, but far enough below the surface to know there have been rocks in each of our rivers.
~ * ~
I see Jerald nearly every morning, feet splayed, shoulders swaying from side to side with each slow step, pausing often to catch his breath. He is retired and lives in the apartments near the park. He lives alone. His bright smile and deep, hearty hello mask the pain over last year’s death of his wife, his physical pain of bad ankles. His loneliness. His need to be out on the path every day, regardless of the weather—always with a smile on his face.
I think about what I will be like as I continue to age. About the what ifs of poor health, of my partner, dying before me or me before him, of when I no longer can drive. Of aloneness. I wonder about dying gracefully—is that possible? I think about leaving life together with my partner, about how when we met, we were hoping for someone to fade off into the sunset with. Still, at age sixty-five, I don’t worry. Yet.
~ * ~
Julie jogs by. Huffing and puffing, persevering, fighting the aging process of being in one’s fifties. Fighting the sorrow and grief over the sudden death of her husband last year, also in his fifties. Learning to live without him. Adjusting to a new job, her adult daughter moving into her own apartment, still close by. Julie now lives alone.
I think about how little experience I have had with death. In my thirties when my first grandparent died, almost fifty when my last grandparent died. My parents still alive and active in their late eighties, though slipping a little. I read The Year of Magical Thinking by Joan Didion. It was powerful. A wake up to the grief and loneliness when death raids. Again, aloneness, loneliness—is there a difference? I think about Jerry. And Julie. A lot.
~ * ~
Occasionally, I’m out earlier and run into a couple with their dogs. Probably in their early forties, he’s tall, nicely built, hard torso, his hair a flat top—how long has it been since I described that cut? He walks briskly with a military bearing.
She is also tall and slender. Both are in athletic shape. Alongside and between them walk three Belgian shepherds, no leashes attached. The five of them walk in perfect step, whether fast or slow. At the crosswalks the dogs drop to their back haunches as they wait for the light to cross. The dogs barely glance at Baxter who is pulling at his leash and whimpering to make friends.
I wish my children had been that well behaved,
I once joked in passing.
It’s all in the training,
they replied, also smiling.
Ouch. I think of my oldest child as I walk away. Almost forty, finishing an overdue dissertation, Ph.D. in communications. Ironic, as they seldom communicate with me. I wonder how, why, one could be so self-motivated, so energetic, almost type A personality into their twenties, and now so emotionally fragile, often struggling with low self-esteem. I wonder if my former fundamentalist beliefs, including my use of spankings, though infrequent, affected their life. They think so. The child was well behaved, well-trained. I think that was part of the problem, and now is one of my regrets. Still, I worry. Still, I can’t fix the situation. It will take both of us.
~ * ~
Late, on a dark and chilly April night, I hear a plaintive wail, but can’t identify the source. Why are you doing this to me? F*** you… F*** you.
Good grief, I think, must you yell into your cell phone so everyone can hear?
I debate whether to take the river path, my usual route, toward the poorly lit underpass—tonight the direction of that voice—or avoid any potential issues by taking a shorter route near the street, through the crosswalk. I see a young man, walking away, taking the sidewalk up toward the bridge that goes over the river, over the underpass, still muttering and yelling. I head for the underpass and am almost there when I notice he’s turned around and is coming down the grassy hill toward me. He is stumbling around the shrubs, hurrying in an unsteady gait. There is no way to avoid him.
Why are you doing this to me?
he cries out again.
There is no cell phone in sight.
Buddy, I’m not doing anything to you,
I reply, saying it more calmly than I feel. What’s wrong?
He stumbles closer to me. Nice looking, slender, clean, but a distraught look on his face, in his eyes. Man, I’m going to kill your dog.
I sense a cry, not a threat. A cry for help.
I think I’m going to kill that dog. I think I’m going to kill you.
My mind wonders if I am safe, will I be harmed? Why didn’t I take the crosswalk? Yet, my gut is calm, accepting. I go with my gut. This young man needs help.
Buddy, you’re not going to kill my dog, no one is getting killed tonight.
I say it non-threateningly. Again ask, What’s wrong?
He suddenly reaches into both pockets. I wonder what the hell he’s got in there, a knife? A gun? Why did I go with my gut? He pulls a few crumpled dollar bills, loose change, ear buds, and a cigarette lighter out of his pockets. He clumsily throws them on the ground at my feet. Here, you can have them, I don’t need them anymore.
I don’t need your things,
I say, catching movement out of the corner of my eye.
A policeman quietly walks toward us. I put my arm around the guy, who allows me to pull him close. Being new to Beloit, I’m worried how the officer may respond. I respect policeman, but in my work with disenfranchised youth in another city, was frequently disappointed in their responses to the foster children, with whom I worked. Frequently, they overreacted in nonthreatening situations. Officer, this young man needs some help,
I say with caution.
The officer responds appropriately, quickly asks his name—it’s Johnny—explains he needs to frisk him, that he will handcuff him, but they won’t be tight, this is for his own safety. He treats him with patience, respect, and empathy. I was impressed and relieved. A patrol car pulls up, Johnny is carefully put in the back seat, I pick up Johnny’s possessions, hand them to the officer, try to smile as they drive away.
That poor kid needs to be on meds or is trying to kill his inner pain with drugs? I feel good about the way the police handled Johnny, but have no idea what occurred later, where he ended up, or how much mental health help he will receive.
Almost home, I meet a friend. Accompanying her is an acquaintance who is a retired police person. I replay the situation, tell them how badly I feel for the kid.
The ex-cop barks, We should let people like that self-select, you can’t fix them, just fish them out of the river later.
The idea of Johnny jumping off the bridge had not crossed my mind till then. Is that why he started walking toward the bridge? Why did he turn around? Why did he tell me to take his things he no longer needed? Did he say won’t need—instead of don’t need? I walk away with mixed emotions. Glad the cop is retired and that I don’t see him very often. Thankful someone like him wasn’t on duty tonight to handle Johnny. Relieved that Johnny didn’t jump, that something made him turn around. Sad there seems to be so few resources for mentally ill people.
At home, I wonder how I would have responded if Johnny was black, not white. Just how deep my self-described sense of little prejudice truly goes. Would I have responded differently? Taken the crosswalk? Still hugged him to let the policeman know he wasn’t a threat? I think so, I hope so, but my gut twists when I think about it.
~ * ~
The joggers and runners are fascinating. Being flat footed, my short legs not in proportion to my longer torso, I have