Screen's Queen
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Screen's Queen is a biography of a woman battling mental health and racial biases while working as a professional housekeeper in Australia. Raised between Italy and Russia, Deborah's story brings attention to her unstable childhood, touching on the lack of guidance within her family and the beginning of her anxiety and depression.
In her early twenties, she relocates to Melbourne and establishes her career as housekeeper. Along her journey, however, she encounters many peculiar experiences that sometimes take her back to her most vulnerable moments.
Deborah Bettega
Deborah Bettega is a Russian-born Italian and Australian small business owner struggling with mental health. Today she is an advocate for inclusivity, equality and mental-health awareness. With her story, Deborah wants to tell her experience, both personal and professional, and promote attention to these topics.
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Screen's Queen - Deborah Bettega
Screen’s Queen
Deborah Bettega
Screen’s Queen
Copyright © 2023 by Deborah Bettega
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978-0-2288-9112-3 (Hardcover)
978-0-2288-9111-6 (Paperback)
978-0-2288-9113-0 (eBook)
TO MY HUSBAND AND OUR SON
About the Author
Deborah Bettega is a Russian-born, Italian and Australian small business owner. She spent her childhood between Italy and Russia before relocating to Australia in her early twenties.
She experienced mental health conditions and racism since her tender years, circumstances that led Deborah to be an advocate for inclusivity, equality and mental health awareness.
In Melbourne, she set up her business as a professional cleaner while continuing her mental health and well-being journey.
Deborah wants to tell her unique story and encourage anyone suffering from a mental health condition to seek professional help and promote attention to this topic.
Deborah currently lives in Melbourne with her husband, their son and their two cats.
This book is my personal recollection of events, and I have related them to the best of my knowledge. All the names, some details and some identities have been changed. This book contains material that might be a trigger due to the sexual assault issues described.
The following memoir is intended for entertainment use. It is a personal and unique story, so if any topic or event described raises any issue or discomfort, please seek a professional opinion.
Table of Contents
About the Author
Chapter 1 Intro
Chapter 2 National Hotel
Chapter 3 Riverside
Chapter 4 Dacha
Chapter 5 Never Settle
Chapter 6 Be Kind
Chapter 7 Bad blood
Chapter 8 Angels
Chapter 9 Fear of addiction or addiction to fear?
Chapter 10 Offline
Chapter 11 Pandemic
Chapter 1
Intro
Only when you lose everything will you be able to achieve anything.
I have always had certain beliefs about anxiety and depression, the first one being that I was among the very few to suffer from it. Nowadays, it is normal to speak about these conditions openly; however, when I was a child and a teenager, a strong stigma was present.
My mental health conditions have cost me a lot; I thought I was being broken, different, and damaged in a way.
Anxiety takes away your social life and your balance: you withdraw from all the social occasions and close into yourself because it is the easiest way. The idea of getting out sends your heart racing, and you break into sweats, secretly wishing the appointment or meeting gets cancelled.
Depression deeply undermines your body and mind. It creates a whirlwind of negativity and disturbing thoughts from which is hard to get out. It gives us a filter through which we see our reality as distorted, broken and hopeless. Physically your body aches from the inside. Your hands get tingly, and you are always so tired that getting out of bed daily seems impossible.
The highs are very high, but the lows are very low. Even in moments of stability, all you need is a trigger to go back to square one and relive all the traumas. A simple chat with someone or a completely normal circumstance in daily life is all it takes to trigger something in our scarred mind and get into a dark place once again.
I have learned that I am not alone in this battle only in recent years through my therapist and all the mental health advocates. Since that day, I have promised to be an advocate and speak out about the acceptance of mental health conditions. Only by using our voice can we raise awareness and overcome our fears.
Up until a couple of years ago, I had never felt accepted, understood, or had a sense of belonging. Children always pay the price of an unstable, broken parent who refuses to take responsibility for their actions.
My parents met in the mid-’80s in communist Russia. My Russian mother worked in the local post office in Volgograd, whilst my Italian father was in the same area to complete a big construction project.
My mother was an only child who had a strict traditional Russian childhood. She finished her studies when she was sixteen years old before moving to the capital city of Moscow for a life experience of a few years. She then returned to her native city; however, she always told me how uncomfortable she felt being close to and living with her parents. Since my childhood, I sensed that the family dynamic had not been of a caring, united and nurturing family.
On the other hand, my Italian father had a considerable age difference from my mother, had been previously married without having any children, and had a very tough post-war family upbringing. His parents passed away when he was a teenager. He had many siblings, and from an early age, he too decided to make his fortune elsewhere and started working for many construction companies across Europe first and then reaching Africa, the Middle East, and Russia.
My parents first saw each other at the post office; according to her, it was love at first sight. It is hard to know the truth now, but after many decades, I suspect that she first fell in love with the idea of escaping the Soviet Union. The idea of running away with a fascinating foreigner in order to create a life and a family in a different, Western country must have been appealing to many Russians.
The Soviet, or communist, Russia was a different reality from today. The USSR always had one great advantage: everyone felt the support of the state, however, there was total state control over all spheres of life. The workdays were the same for everyone; the school system was textbook for all the children across the nation, and a different thinking or mindset, was not possible.
There was a huge inaccessibility of information. Learning about world trends and events or gaining know-how on different topics was impossible.
Ownership of houses was abolished in the 1920s, during the early Soviet Union. Housing authorities determined who should live where. Large apartments and private houses were often remodelled into several smaller apartments, called communalki, or communal flats, which were the most popular type of public housing through the 80s.
Finally, there was a shortage of goods and culture. Long queues, particularly for bread, and limited availability ruled in every shop, from supermarkets to general stores, so this led to a big surge of black-market operations: usually, someone more successful, whose parents had the opportunity to make rare trips to other countries dealt with illegal but highly requested transactions.
On many occasions, nevertheless, the foreigners were controlled, followed, and blamed for espionage, which was a big deal in the Soviet Union. Often foreigners lived in controlled and designated areas, as my father did on his worksite, and even allocated marked cars.
On one occasion, when my parents were walking on the street, an official threatened them with a gun. Back then, in the 80s reality, a Russian woman should have nothing to do with a foreign man and find a local husband instead, and an Italian man should not pursue a romantic relationship with a local woman.
After dating for a few years, it was the time when my father’s work project had come to an end, and this coincided with the discovery of the expectance of a child.
I was born in the city of Volgograd, in southwestern Russia, and when I was only forty days old, my parents and I moved permanently to my father’s hometown—a small village in northern Italy.
My mother had never visited any part of Italy during those years of dating my father; hence this relocation was a recipe for disaster.
Italy is a very traditional and religious country. Back then, a foreigner or simply someone with a different lifestyle was not seen very well, and the integration was really hard, if not impossible. You either overcome it or break down.
Especially in little towns, the reality was very different from big cities; people were very traditional and narrow-minded and not open to any outsiders, let alone from a relatively distant country such as it was communist Russia.
I genuinely don’t