Nonmonogamy and Neurodiversity: A More Than Two Essentials Guide
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Nonmonogamy and Neurodiversity - Alyssa Gonzalez
Introduction
Picture it: You’ve always been weird. Other people’s minds are a bit of a mystery to you, or yours is to them, or both.
YOUR ENTHUSIASM IS MORE THAN THEY can handle and it often isn’t aimed where other people think it should be. Things that excite them do nothing for you. There are tasks you can do better than they thought was possible. Other activities seem trivial to them but feel impossible for you. Still other things bother you but don’t seem to even register for them. Maybe you have trouble noticing when you’re hungry or need to use the bathroom. Maybe your sense of taste is so sensitive that you can tell what brand of dried thyme the chef used. Your childhood featured some repetitive comments from teachers and caregivers: If you would only apply yourself,
is very self-directed and can work independently,
won’t sit still,
daydreams too much,
doesn’t do homework,
clean your room.
You often had stellar grades in some subjects or kinds of work and abysmal grades in others, with teachers scratching their heads at the difference. Maybe loud music has always made you feel alive, or maybe you’re so sensitive to sound that you cover your ears when emergency vehicles drive by. Maybe you can’t seem to process speech until a few seconds after it’s said, leaving friends struggling to understand why you’ll ask them to repeat themselves and then, before they’re done, respond to the original words. Finding love has probably been a challenge for you, and you may have yet to succeed in a way you find satisfying. You’ve spent your life feeling like an outsider, existing among the normal folk but never really one of them. You have looked up a variety of terms to try to name the kind of person that you are, perhaps trying on a few ill-defined social ideas like highly sensitive person
or empath
or pop-culture concepts like nerd,
or even acquiring a diagnosis of autism, attention deficit hyperactivity disorder (ADHD) or another condition from a professional. In the end, any or all of those terms might feel right, but one name encompasses you and so many more: neurodivergent. This book is for you.
Neurodivergence refers to having a mind that does not work like the minds of other people. The opposite concept is neurotypicality,
and neurotypical
is a far kinder word than normal
for such people. People who are neurodivergent experience the world, and themselves, differently than is considered (neuro)typical. Neurodivergence includes differences in social interaction, learning, attention, emotional responses, sensory responses and more. The best-known examples of neurodivergence include autism and ADHD, as well as conditions often associated with them such as dyspraxia (impaired coordination), dyscalculia (difficulty learning math), dyslexia (difficulty with reading) and Tourette’s syndrome (sudden, repetitive tics). Other conditions, including borderline personality disorder, post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) and dissociative identity disorder, are also sometimes included. The concept of neurodivergence serves to present these situations in a de-pathologized way, as differences that can be understood, managed and accommodated. Our world is one of