Diary of a Sex Fiend: Girl with a One Track Mind

By Abby Lee

One woman shares the true story of her quest for great sex and a fulfilling relationship in this international bestseller.

Abby Lee is a smart, determined young woman who for almost three years has been writing an online journal about her sex life. Her writing is everything that writing about sex should be—frank, hysterical, provocative, and completely honest. Her website quickly attracted thousands of hits a day, with both men and women drawn to her observations about masturbation, one-night stands, and same-sex encounters.

Diary of a Sex Fiend is the book version of her Girl with a One Track Mind blog. It is a year-long diary of Abby’s desires, fantasies, and anxieties as she tries to answer the question: why do I always think about sex? Celebrating both her sensuality and her physical needs, Abby explores a swingers’ club and a Dominatrix dungeon, and even participates in a pre-arranged three-way (which ends without any satisfaction for her).

In between her new experiences are run-ins with lifelong friends; potential romances; and long, frustrating nights when all she really wants is a “great shag.” Whether she’s offering a girl’s guide to understanding date-speak or explaining to her parents why there’s a racy picture of her on their computer, Abby writes with a ribald eye and a fearless heart.

“Intimate, saucy, sexual, and very engaging.” —Elle Magazine

“An erotic version of Bridget Jones.” —The Sunday Times (London)

• Language: English
• Publisher: Open Road Integrated Media
• Release date: Mar 17, 2007
• ISBN: 9781626367494

Abby Lee

Abby Lee, aka Zoe Margolis, is a regular contributor to the Guardian and Observer, amongst other publications. She has made numerous television appearances as an authority on sex and is a regular featured guest on Sky News. She is the author of Girl With a One Track Mind: Exposed. She is also an ambassador for Brook Advisory Centres.

Reviews for Diary of a Sex Fiend

[faintdreams_1 · Rating: 2 out of 5 stars]

"Girl with a one track mind" by Abby Lee is not the book I thought it was, but that doesn't necessarily mean it's a bad book. Its quality depends entirely on what you are attracted to as a reader. I just feel a little bit confused as to why I thought it was a memoire about an anonymous sex blogger and what happened when their identity was discovered by the traditional press, when the book is actually more of a mash up between Belle Du jour and Bridget Jones's diary.The author starts off at the beginning of the book stating that being young, free, single and having casual sex whenever and apparently with whomever she wants is the ideal lifestyle. She emphatically states that she is very happy with it thank-you-very-much. Unfortunately by the end of the book, the author seems to be an neurotic mess who has been chasing a man that expresses no interest in her for a long term relationship. This changes the author's stance to one that laments that no matter how good the actuall sex is, if casual, the sex is just empty and not enough to base an entire philosophy on. This somehow feels like a cheat. I thought she would start off as a confident woman who does what she wants responsibly, and with full emotinoal disclosure, a new type of modern woman who was happy, confident, and sexually mature. Instead, the author started off confident and sure of herself and then due to a series of crappy relationship choices becoming more needy, neurotic. To put it mildly the book felt a little unbalenced, and on the point of the autor's own sexual ethics, mildly confused.Abby Lee, feels like she spends majority of the text trying to justify why she wanted to have casual sex with people whilst aggressively demanding the reader not to judge her negatively because of it, then promptly defending hereslf against the imagines (outraged / condemming) responses.I as the reader, have no problem with the fact that she wanted casual sex as long as she understood what she was getting involved in (or not as the case may be) , instead of playing elaborate emotional games with herself. And then there is the sex. And she does have sex. Plenty of sex. Leisurely sex, BDSM sexs, vouyeristic sex, sex via personal ads. There are also no end of locations: sex in quite a few toilets as well as dubious semi-public sex in nightclubs, bars, taxies, and bus stops. There is sex with old friends, sex with strangers, and sex with friends of friends. Unfortunately this gets repetitive quite quickly and after the first few encounters most of the sex that she has seems quite boring.I like Lee's writing style, and she always presents as literate, intelligent and fircely feminist, something I look for in modern writers. I follow her on twitter and have her blog for a few years. I have even been fortunate enough to have met her a couple of her speaking events and this is why I cannot understand why this book is felt so unfulfilling.This book was published in 2006, and I'm not sure if it was mostly the Daily Mail readers who were scandalised by the fact that an adult woman wants to have sex and plenty of it because she has a high sex drive.This is not a surprising aspecet of moderm like to me or to any of my circle of friends Perhaps I just have a sexually liberated and mature circle of friends?As a sex memoire coverin the diarised year of a moderm woman living in a major Uk city with a high sex drive and confident sexual attitude / ethics, then 'Girl with a one track mind' is a nice short distracting read, but I didn't feel as if I'd learnt anything about social mores, or modern attitudes to sex from reading the bok itself, more from other people's responses to the book.Perhaps the story of what being 'outed' by the press as a sex blogger would make for a more interetesing read.The one positive thing I did take away from reading this book is that a modern woman can remain single, have guilt free, fufilling casual sex, and not have to justifiy it to anyone - right up untill the point that she chooses not to anymore.