When Making Others Happy Is Making You Miserable Bible Study Guide plus Streaming Video: How to Break the Pattern of People Pleasing and Confidently Live Your Life
By Karen Ehman
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About this ebook
Do you struggle with people-pleasing? Learn how to develop a Biblically-centered strategy for knowing when to say yes and how to say no.
Karen Ehman knows firsthand how people-pleasing locks us in a prison, trapping us in unhealthy habits which distract us from our true selves and our God-given purpose. With honesty and practical wisdom, Ehman explores why we fall into people-pleasing behaviors and offers advice for how we can break out into the freedom God has called us to. Because the truth is we cannot fulfill our divine purpose if we’re too busy living everyone else’s.
In this six-session video Bible study filled with vulnerable and humorous stories, biblical insight, and encouragement from someone who’s been there, Ehman will help you:
- Discover how to live out your priorities despite the opinions and expectations of others
- Cultivate a strategy for knowing when to say yes and how to say no
- Implement boundaries with the pushers, pouters, guilt-bombers and others who try to call the shots in your life
- Learn to navigate the tension between following God and loving the people around you
When Making Others Happy Is Making You Miserable is the Bible study you need to quit the pleasing game, reclaim your life, and walk with God in peace and confidence.
Sessions and Run Times:
- People Pleasing (20 mins)
- Just Who Is Calling the Shots? (23 mins)
- To Tell the Truth (18 mins)
- You're Capable, but Are You Called? (20 mins)
- Must Be Nice (20 mins)
- Your People and Your Punch List (20 mins)
This study guide has everything you need for a full Bible study experience, including:
- The study guide itself - video teaching notes, group discussion questions, Scripture memory verses and personal study of Scripture and context.
- An individual access code to stream all six video sessions online (you don't need to buy a DVD!).
Streaming video access code included. Access code subject to expiration after 12/31/2027. Code may be redeemed only by the recipient of this package. Code may not be transferred or sold separately from this package. Internet connection required. Void where prohibited, taxed, or restricted by law. Additional offer details inside.
Karen Ehman
Karen Ehman is a Proverbs 31 Ministries speaker, a New York Times bestselling author, and a writer for Encouragement for Today,an online devotional that reaches over 4 million people daily. She has written seventeen books including Keep It Shut, Pressing Pause, and Keep Showing Up. Her passion is to help women to live their priorities as they reflect the gospel to a watching world. Married to her college sweetheart, Todd, the mother of three, and mom-in-law of two, she enjoys antique hunting, cheering for the Detroit Tigers, and feeding the many people who gather around her mid-century dining table for a taste of Mama Karen's cooking. Connect with her at www.karenehman.com.
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How to Use This Guide
Group Size
The When Making Others Happy Is Making You Miserable video curriculum is designed to be experienced in a group setting such as a Bible study, online study group, or any small group gathering. After viewing each video together, members will participate in a group discussion and then complete the in-between sessions work.
Materials Needed
Each participant should have their own study guide, which includes video outline notes, directions for activities and discussion questions, as well as a reading plan and personal studies to deepen learning between sessions. Participants are also strongly encouraged to have a copy of the When Making Others Happy Is Making You Miserable book. Reading the book alongside the video curriculum provides even deeper insights that make the journey richer and more meaningful (also, a few of the questions pertain to material covered in the book).
Timing
The time notations—for example (17 minutes)—indicate the actual time of video segments and the suggested time for each activity or discussion.
For example:
Individual Activity: What Is God Asking Me to Do? (5 MINUTES)
Adhering to the suggested times will enable you to complete each session in one hour. If you have additional time, there are bonus questions listed for your group to answer, thereby expanding your group’s meeting time to between an hour and fifteen minutes or an hour and a half. If you are also having refreshments and a time of sharing prayer requests, factor in another thirty minutes.
Facilitation
Each group should appoint a facilitator who is responsible for starting the video and for keeping track of time during discussions and activities. Facilitators may also read questions aloud and monitor discussions, prompting participants to respond and ensuring that everyone can participate.
Between-Sessions Personal Study
Maximize the impact of the course with additional study between group sessions. Carving out about two hours total for personal study between meeting times will enable you to complete both the book and between-session studies by the end of the course. For each session, you may wish to complete the personal study all in one sitting or to spread it out over a few days (for example, working on it a half hour a day on four different days that week). PLEASE NOTE: If you are unable to finish (or even start!) your between-sessions personal study, still attend the group study video session. We are all busy and life happens. You are still wanted and welcome at class even if you don’t have your homework
done.
Scripture Memory
Each session’s study includes a key Scripture verse that highlights the topic of the session theme. If you wish to maximize your learning experience, you may attempt to memorize these verses. To assist you with this goal, all six verses are printed in the back of the study guide.
You may photocopy this page on paper or card stock and then cut the verses out. (You really creative and crafty types may even want to do a little hand lettering). Then keep them in a convenient place—perhaps your car, purse, or tote bag. You can practice memorizing them while waiting in the carpool line or at the doctor’s office. Or you may wish to post them at your kitchen sink or on your bathroom mirror where you will see them each day. Laminating them will help to keep them from getting ruined if they get splashed. You may even wish to make a digital copy of them to use as a lock screen for your phone.
It may be helpful to have the group facilitator inquire if any participants are attempting to memorize the key verses. Perhaps those members will want to show up five minutes early (or stay afterward) to practice reciting them to each other.
Session One
The Prison of People Pleasing
Session One Memory Verse
Am I now trying to win the approval of human beings, or of God? Or am I trying to please people? If I were still trying to please people, I would not be a servant of Christ.
(Galatians 1:10)
Welcome to week one of When Making Others Happy Is Making You Miserable. My greatest hope and deepest prayer is that you will learn how important it is to not put people in the place of God but allow him to be the one who calls the shots in your life; that he alone will be the one you are aiming to please with your words and your actions. God’s Word has so much to teach us about this crucial endeavor that will help us to break the pattern of people pleasing and instead live our lives with confidence. So, let’s dive right in and learn together. I am so thankful you have joined us!
images/1.jpgVideo: Busting Out of the Prison of People Pleasing (21 MINUTES)
Play the video teaching segment for session one. As you watch, record any thoughts or concepts that stand out to you in the outline that follows.
Notes
The topic of people pleasing is found in Scripture. Perhaps the most relevant verse is Galatians 1:10: Am I now trying to win the approval of human beings, or of God? Or am I trying to please people? If I were still trying to please people, I would not be a servant of Christ.
[Your Response Here]
One day Karen felt God urging her, Sweetheart, I’m calling you to have a summer of ‘necessary’ and ‘no.’
[Your Response Here]
As we view the actions of King Herod, chronicled in Matthew 14, we sense that he had the disease to please.
[Your Response Here]
Herod didn’t walk in the fear of the Lord. Instead, he feared the crowds—or on some occasions, certain individuals—which made him act in direct contrast to what he truly believed.
[Your Response Here]
Proverbs 29:25 declares that the fear of humans is a snare. In the Hebrew language, the word translated to snare is moqesh. This refers to a trapping device for prey, but it also conveys the concept of bait or a lure that entices, reels in, and then drags its victim away.
[Your Response Here]
The Greek word areskó in Galatians 1:10 is transliterated to English as please. At its core, it means to agree to satisfy another in order to win their approval, affection, or attention; to meet their expectations; to willingly serve.
[Your Response Here]
There are two different words for fear in the Old Testament—charadah and yirah. Charadah means to react with immense anxiety or to tremble with great dread. Yirah is defined as responding with extreme awe and thoughtful reverence.
[Your Response Here]
We are all tempted to devour lies when our hearts are unhappy and our souls are hungry.
[Your Response Here]
You do not need their permission to do God’s will.
[Your Response Here]
Spotted on a sweatshirt:
You can’t please everyone. You’re not pizza.
Group Discussion (30–40 MINUTES)
Take a few minutes to discuss what you just watched in the teaching video session.
1. What part of the video teaching stood out or had the greatest impact on you?
[Your Response Here]
2. When it comes to people pleasing, would you say you generally struggle with it overall in your life or just with a particular person or two? Explain your answer.
[Your Response Here]
3. Has there ever been a time when you, like Karen, felt utterly trapped in the prison of people pleasing with no way out in sight? Briefly share what happened.
[Your Response Here]
4. Take turns having one person from the group look up each of the following verses and passages listed below. In the space after each verse, take a moment to record as many observations as you