Encyclopedia of Body Language: What Every Movement Says
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The book reels out how to relate with people and understand their behaviors through nonverbal acts. It considers all the attributes of human body parts while communicating with others. However, before you can understand others, there is a need to understand yourself first. This is another aspect that this encyclopedia delves into; it explains ways in which you can maintain a charming and result-oriented posture in order to command respect from others during any given discourse. This is a potential tool you need to apply in order to make others open to you.
This book explains ways in which you can fish out someone who is trying to play on your intelligence through their body language. In conclusion, this book gives a practical outline of how to activate the subconscious and conscious brains in working in tandem in order to understand the intents of co-interlocutor.
Alan Elangovan
Alan Elangovan is a renowned body language expert. With experience spanning over three decades in the field, Alan is surely a shining light in the industry. Over the years, he consciously learnt how to read people’s facial expressions and has applied the tricks learnt on countless occasions without fail. This book is a summary of what one can achieve with “the inner eye.” The author is deeply concerned with the increasing rate of deceits in the contemporary world and how officers are falling prey. In this book, he surmises what officers need to know, how they should look at their subjects and how to see unseen to be able to establish the truth in a case. He shares from his personal experiences to make the book practical and simple to apply.
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Encyclopedia of Body Language - Alan Elangovan
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CONTENTS
Acknowledgements
Review
Chapter 1 Introduction
Chapter 2 The Head
2.1. Adorning the Head
2.2. Nodding
2.3. Nodding the Head in Contradiction
2.4. Patting the Back of the Head
2.5. Scratching the Head
2.6. Stroking the Head
2.7. Scratching the Head and Rubbing the Tummy (Simultaneous Actions)
2.8. Interlacing the Fingers to Support the Back of the Head
2.9. Suddenly Reaching for the Head
2.10. Interlacing the Fingers on Top of the Head
2.11. Ventilating through Hat Lifting
Chapter 3 The Hair
3.1. Appearance of the Hair
3.2. Tossing the Hair
3.3. Touching the Hair
3.4. Twisting the Hair
3.5. Playing with Hair with the Palm Out
3.6. Men Touching the Hair
3.7. Women Ventilating the Hair
3.8. Flipping the Hair
3.9. Pulling the Hair
Chapter 4 The Forehead
4.1. Expression of Tension
4.2. Furrowing the Forehead
4.3. Botoxed Forehead
4.4. Stress Lines on the Forehead
4.5. Sweating on the Forehead
4.6. Throbbing of the Temporal Vein
4.7. Massaging the Forehead
4.8. Pointing at the Forehead
4.9. Pressing the Hand on the Forehead
4.10. Looking in a Puzzled Manner
4.11. Covering the Forehead with a Hat
Chapter 5 The Eyebrows
5.1. Flashing the Eyebrows
5.2. Greeting with Eyebrows
5.3. Arching the Eyebrow in a Tense Situation
5.4. Arching the Eyebrow at the Chin through the Neck
5.5. Asymmetry of the Eyebrows
5.6. Knitting the Eyebrows
Chapter 6 The Eyes
6.1. Dilating the Pupils
6.2. Constricting the Pupils
6.3. Relaxed Eyes
6.4. Narrowing the Eye Socket
6.5. Quivering under Eyes
6.6. Eye Blink Rate
6.7. Blinking Frequently
6.8. Maintaining Eye Contact
6.9. Avoiding Eye Contact
6.10. Superiority Gaze
6.11. Seeking Eye Contact
6.12. Sentiments and Gaze
6.13. Engaging Gaze
6.14. Staring versus Gazing
6.15. Closing the Eyes
6.16. Closing the Eyes for Emphasis
6.17. Covering the Eyes
6.18. Rubbing the Bridge of the Nose with Eyes Closed
6.19. Crying
6.20. Clutching Objects while Crying
6.21. Darting Eyes
6.22. Eye-Accessing Gestures
6.23. Fluttering the Eyelids
6.24. Pointing at the Eyes
6.25. Eye-Pointing Cluster
6.26. Rolling the Eyes
6.27. Touching the Eyelid
6.28. Tired Eyes
6.29. Far-Off Look
6.30. Glazing of the Eyes
6.31. Looking Sideways
6.32. Looking at the Sky or Ceiling
6.33. Searching for Acceptance
6.34. Lowering the Eyes
6.35. Sad Eyes
6.36. Looking Away
6.37. Long Stare
6.38. Squinting the Eyes
6.39. Slight Squinting
6.40. Aggressive Staring
6.41. Angry Look
6.42. Stiff Widening of the Eyes
6.43. Adorning the Eyes
Chapter 7 The Ear
7.1. Massaging or Pulling the Earlobe
7.2. Blushing or Flushing of the Ear
7.3. Leaning of the Ear
7.4. Listening Gesture
7.5. Adorning the Ears
7.6. Damaged Ears
Chapter 8 The Nose
8.1. Covering the Nose with the Hands
8.2. Wrinkling the Nose
8.3. Unilateral Wrinkling of the Nose
8.4. Twitching of the Nose (Caribbean)
8.5. Touching the Nose with the Index Finger
8.6. Brushing the Nose
8.7. Holding the Nose High
8.8. Tapping the Nose
8.9. Flaring of the Nostrils
8.10. Fiddling with the Philtrum
8.11. Subtle Touching of the Nose
8.12. Inhaling by the Nose
Chapter 9 The Mouth
9.1. Short but Loud Exhaling
9.2. Cathartic Exhaling
9.3. Inhaling Affirmatively
9.4. Intake of Air through the Corners of the Mouth
9.5. Breath-Holding Gesture
9.6. Dry Mouth
9.7. Saliva Balls in the Mouth
9.8. Gum-Chewing
9.9. Vocal Tics
9.10. Mouth Stretching
9.11. Yawning
9.12. Smoking
9.13. Eating Too Much
9.14. Tone of Voice
9.15. Pitch of Voice
9.16. Wrong Tonal Inflections
9.17. Stammering or Stuttering
9.18. Delay in Response Time
9.19. Silence
9.20. Silence and Freeze Response
9.21. Interruptive Arguments
9.22. Cathartic Expressions
9.23. Speech Speed
9.24. Talking Incessantly
9.25. Talking Incongruently
9.26. Repetition
9.27. Speed of Response
9.28. Speeding through Comments
9.29. Use of Filler Sounds
9.30. Clearing of the Throat or Coughing
9.31. Whistling in a Nervous Manner
9.32. Tut-Tutting
9.33. Laughter
Chapter 10 The Lips
10.1. Fullness of the Lips
10.2. Touching the Lips with Fingertips
10.3. Pulling/Plucking the Lips
10.4. Biting the Lips
10.5. Licking the Lips
10.6. Narrowing the Lips
10.7. Compressing the Lips
10.8. Slight Pressing of the Lips
10.9. Compressed Lips in a Downward Position
10.10. Unwillingness to Decompress Lips
10.11. Withdrawal of Lips
10.12. Quivering of the Lips
10.13. Turning the Lips Upside Down
10.14. Pursing the Lips
10.15. Pursed Lips Pulled to the Side
10.16. Sad Mouth
10.17. The Oval-Shaped Mouth
10.18. Mouth Open with the Jaw Moving to the Side
10.19. Smiling
10.20. Genuine Smile
10.21. Fake Smile
10.22. Nervous Smile
10.23. Smiling as a Gauge of Feelings
10.24. Compressing the Edges of the Mouth
10.25. Raising the Upper Lip
10.26. Licking the Upper Lip
Chapter 11 The Teeth
11.1. Flicking the Nails on the Teeth
11.2. Baring the Teeth
11.3. Tapping the Teeth
Chapter 12 The Tongue
12.1. Chewing or Biting the Tongue
12.2. Tongue in Cheek
12.3. Jutting Tongue
12.4. Insults through the Tongue
12.5. Protruding Tongue
12.6. Tongue Pressed against the Palate
12.7. Licking the Teeth with the Tongue
12.8. Moving the Tongue
Chapter 13 The Cheeks and Jaw
13.1. Quick Facial Tics
13.2. Facial Denting
13.3. Cheek Massaging
13.4. Strumming the Cheeks
13.5. Framing of Cheek
13.6. Puffing Out the Cheeks
13.7. Rubbing the Cheek Slightly
13.8. Scratching the Cheeks
13.9. Pinching the Corners of the Mouth
13.10. Wiping the Cheeks
13.11. Tensing of the Jaw
13.12. Displacement or Shifting of the Jaw
13.13. Jaw Dropping
13.14. Pulsing of Jaw Muscles
13.15. Jutting of Jaw
Chapter 14 The Chin
14.1. Chin Up
14.2. Chin Facing Down
14.3. Chin Withdrawal
14.4. Hiding of Chin
14.5. Chin Dropping while Shoulder Slumps
14.6. Touching the Chin
14.7. Brushing Chin with Back of the Hand
14.8. Cradling of Chin
14.9. Perching Chin Angrily
14.10. Chin Shifting
14.11. Mustache or Beard Stroking
14.12. Dimpling of Chin
14.13. Quivering of Chin Muscles
14.14. Chin Touching Shoulder
14.15. Chin Pointing
Chapter 15 The Face
15.1. Face Avoidance
15.2. Face Blocking
15.3. Shielding of Face
15.4. Facial Emotional Asymmetry
15.5. Incongruence of the Face
15.6. Strange Face in Crowd
15.7. Narcissistic Serenity
15.8. Odd Smirk
15.9. Face Touching
Chapter 16 The Neck
16.1. Touching of the Neck
16.2. Covering the Neck Dimple
16.3. Touching of Tie Knot
16.4. Fiddling with Necklace
16.5. Playing with the Shirt Collar
16.6. Massaging the Neck
16.7. Massaging the Vagus Nerve
16.8. Pulling of the Skin of the Neck
16.9. Ventilation of the Neck
16.10. Placing a Fist in Front of the Neck
16.11. Pulsing of Neck Veins
16.12. Hard Swallowing
16.13. Stretching of the Neck
16.14. Facial and Neck Flushing
16.15. Jumping of Adam’s Apple
16.16. Exposing the Neck
16.17. Stiffening of the Neck
Chapter 17 The Shoulders
17.1. Raising a Shoulder
17.2. Show of Interest
17.3. Holding Both Shoulders High
17.4. Shrugging Shoulders Quickly
17.5. Sinking into the Chair
17.6. Rubbing of Shoulders
17.7. Widening of the Shoulders
17.8. Raised Shoulders, Palms Up, and Tilted Head
17.9. Kowtowing
Chapter 18 The Arms
18.1. Hugging
18.2. Hyperbolic Gestures
18.3. Gesturing During Speech
18.4. Pressing Arms against the Body with Flexed Hands
18.5. Show of Elation
18.6. Holding Arms behind the Back
18.7. Stiffening of the Arms
18.8. Revealing the Armpit
18.9. Self-Hugging Gestures
18.10. Arm-Crossing for Protection
18.11. Self-Restraint Arm-Crossing
18.12. Arm-Crossing for Hatred
18.13. Arm-Crossing for Massaging
18.14. Holding the Wrist Gesture
18.15. Spreading of Arms
18.16. Spreading out the Elbows
18.17. Narrowing of Elbows
18.18. Elbow Flexing
18.19. Interlocking of the Elbows
18.20. Wrist Exposure or Hiding
18.21. Goose Pimples
18.22. Hair Erection—Piloerection
18.23. Excessive/Abnormal Sweating
18.24. Self-Harm
18.25. Needle Tracks/Track Marks
Chapter 19 The Hands and Fingers
19.1. Conditions of the Hand
19.2. Grooming of Hands
19.3. Touch Rate
19.4. Manner of Touch
19.5. Touch in Relation to Social Status
19.6. Flesh-Pressing
19.7. Placing Hands on Hips with Arms Widely Apart, Thumbs Facing Back
19.8. Arms Akimbo with Thumbs Pointing Forward
19.9. Displaying Territory with Hands
19.10. Moving Arms Away From Table
19.11. Fiddling with Items
19.12. Placement of Objects
19.13. Hand-Steepling
19.14. Adjusted Steepled Hands
19.15. Hands Positioned Actively
19.16. Palms Facing Up
19.17. Palms Facing Down
19.18. Spreading of Fingers with the Palms Down
19.19. Restriction of Hand Usage
19.20. Hand-Rubbing
19.21. Holding of Fingers
19.22. Jittery Hands
19.23. Anchoring with Hands
19.24. Thrusting Hand to Face
19.25. Self-Touching while Responding to Posers
19.26. Thumbs Up With Interlaced Fingers
19.27. Interlaced Fingers with Thumbs Down
19.28. Rubbing Thumb
19.29. Thumb Twiddling
19.30. Closing Fingers Together
19.31. Thumb Out
19.32. Withdrawing of Thumb
19.33. General Thumb Display
19.34. Making OK sign
19.35. Surrogate Touching
19.36. Touching Each Other
19.37. Clinching on to Furniture
19.38. Holding Attitudes
19.39. Making Emphasis with Hands
19.40. Giving the Finger
19.41. Pointing of Finger
19.42. Finger Jabbing
19.43. Use of Finger as Baton
19.44. Symbolic Two-Handed Push
19.45. Biting of Nails
19.46. Drumming of Fingers
19.47. Tucking Hands in Pockets
19.48. Rubbing of Closed Fist
19.49. Speaker’s Fist
19.50. Massaging Hands on Palms
19.51. Teepee Finger Rub
19.52. Interlocking Fingers with Palms Either Turned Down or Up
19.53. Crackling of Knuckle
19.54. Interlaced Fingers Knuckles Cracking
19.55. Leg Tapping
19.56. Preening Gesture
19.57. Dismissive Preening
19.58. Placing Hand on Leg with Elbow Out
19.59. Curling of Fingers and Flicking of Nails
19.60. Shaking of Hands
19.61. Tendered Handshake
19.62. ‘Indian Handshake’—Namaste
19.63. Holding of Hand
19.64. Precision Gesture—OK Cue
19.65. Politician’s Thumb
19.66. Fiddling with Ring
19.67. Moving Away from Objects
19.68. Being Hesitant to Touch with Palm
19.69. Inconsistent Arm and Hand Movement
Chapter 20 The Chest, Torso, and Belly
20.1. Heaving Chest, Fast Breathing
20.2. Shallow, Fast Breathing
20.3. Fingers on Chest
20.4. Rubbing of Clavicle/Collarbone
20.5. Continuous Hand Raking of Chest
20.6. Pressing Palm on Chest
20.7. Removing Clothing to Ventilate
20.8. Fiddling with Zipper
20.9. Distancing Selves
20.10. Sitting Back
20.11. Sitting Forward
20.12. Turning Belly Away
20.13. Belly Fronting
20.14. Covering of the Belly
20.15. Mirroring
20.16. Sitting Rigidly
20.17. Ejection-Seat Effect
20.18. Chair Distancing
20.19. Slouching the Body
20.20. Doubling Over
20.21. Foetal Position
20.22. Sudden Cold
20.23. Clothing Choice
20.24. Placing Hands on Belly in Pregnancy
20.25. Rubbing of Stomach
Chapter 21 The Hips, Buttocks, and Genitals
21.1. Buttock or Hips Shifting
21.2. Hip-Rubbing Cue
21.3. Hip-Torso Movement
21.4. Hip Swaying
21.5. Hip Tilted Out
21.6. Hands on the Genitals
21.7. Grabbing of the Crotch
21.8. Framing of the Genitals
21.9. Covering of the Genitals
21.10. Sitting with Knees Spread Out
Chapter 22 The Legs
22.1. Proxemics
22.2. Territorial Position
22.3. Invasion of Territory
22.4. Posing to the Side
22.5. Walking Attitudes
22.6. Determining Pace of Walk
22.7. Sitting Attitudes
22.8. Sitting with Legs Held Together
22.9. Sitting with Legs Spread Apart
22.10. Interlocking of Ankles
22.11. Interlocked Ankles around Chair Legs
22.12. Leaning Back with Knee Clasping
22.13. Leaning Forward with Clasped Knees
22.14. Leg Crossing as Hindrance in Seated Position
22.15. Draping of Legs
22.16. Rubbing of Legs
22.17. Scratching or Rubbing of the Knee
22.18. Scratching of the Ankles
22.19. Flexing of the Knees
22.20. Feet Dragging
22.21. Ankle Twisting
22.22. Self-Hugging with Knee in High Position
22.23. Crossing Leg in Standing Position
22.24. Leg Kicking in Sitting Position
22.25. Jumping for Joy
22.26. Incongruent Legs and Feet
22.27. Loss of Balance
Chapter 23 The Feet
23.1. Dead Feet
23.2. Withdrawal of Foot
23.3. Playing Footsies
23.4. Rocking of Foot
23.5. Foot Facing Outside
23.6. Turning Away of Feet
23.7. Pigeon Toes
23.8. Pointing Toes Up
23.9. Exposing the Soles of the Feet
23.10. Bouncy Elated Feet
23.11. Tapping of Foot
23.12. Wriggling of the Toes
23.13. Feet Agitation
23.14. Anxious Pacing
23.15. Legs Indicating Desires
23.16. Leg Outburst
23.17. Foot Stomping
23.18. Pulling of Sock
23.19. Dangling of Shoe
23.20. General Agitation of the Leg and Foot
Chapter 24 The Colour
24.1. Black
24.2. White
24.3. Red
24.4. Blue
24.5. Green
24.6. Yellow
24.7. Purple
24.8. Brown
24.9. Orange
24.10. Pink
Conclusion
References
ACKNOWLEDGEMENTS
Even though I have always longed to write a book on body language for decades, it eventually came to pass at this moment. It is better late than never. Without mincing words, there were numerous things that stood as stumbling blocks to the success of this work but I must appreciate those who made this possible. Most times, we don’t know how life-changing and impactful our little acts of kindness towards people are. This project has made me realise how extraordinary they can be.
Let me start from my doorstep. I have come to understand the importance of family in one’s life. No matter how successful one is, if one does not have a stable family, one’s success is incomplete. The grace that flows on my relations has always spoken for me positively. My dearest sister, Anparasi, was a source of inspiration for this book. Her laudable ideas led to the birth of this book. The beauty of her intelligence resonated in all levels. Also, her beautiful daughter, Haley Magdalene King—my conversations with her were often laced with deep insights. And my ever-charming trio, outstanding and excellent daughters—Laavenya, Pavithiral and Senaiga—I have no precise words to describe the support, goodwill, and encouragements I enjoyed from them. When the whole world lost interest in me, they believed and stood by me. Their endless love for me was a catalyst for the success of this project.
Again, this book made me accept the fact that nobody is self-made. Countless experiences have culminated in the writing of this book. I am most grateful to my parents who brought me up in the right way; they ensured the environment was conducive enough for me to pursue my vision rather than be lost in the illusion of the world. My passion for understanding, reading people through their body movement started in my childhood.
Through intuition and curiosity, when I observed some deficiencies in people’s behaviour and movement, I would approach them to ask relevant questions. Many of them were always taken aback that I was able to make a right guess of their thought through their physical actions. I also learnt through the experiences of those who were close to me—my family. Even at a very young age, a lot of people were surprised that I could spot inadequacies in their narratives. As you devour the pages of this book, you will come across recreations of many of those childhood experiences.
I eventually ventured in astrology and numerology. At this point, the behaviour of an average human being became crystal clear to me. Those things I was oblivious of during my childhood appeared clearer to me, and I kept learning for years. Even though some people may not agree with this dimension, I cannot wave it off due to the immeasurable contribution it made to who I am today.
At age ten, I had started reading books related to behavioural psychology. I was so much fascinated to the subject matter that I had little time to think of the essence of those books. Any voice of dissent could have talked me out of it because by then, it was passion without direction. I kept on reading books on psychology till I was nineteen. Unconsciously, I gave myself to practice, and they were working out well without my knowledge until my friend called my attention.
My days in the army were one of the most productive as I met with experienced colleagues on the field. They were ready to teach and correct and ultimately watch me grow in knowledge. I mastered the ‘power of observation’. For this, I am most appreciative to my ITD commanding officer, LTC Arthur Lee Huai Siang. He taught me how I could look the enemy with intimidation. This worked for me beyond the army as I deployed its usage while serving in the Immigration and Checkpoints Authority (ICA).
As I was growing older, I became uncomfortable with things learnt through personal experience alone; I wanted more and as such, I began to read books of experts such as Joe Navarro (FBI Special Agent, Ret). Dr Paul Ekman, Allan Pease, Elizabeth Kuhnke, Jan Hargrave, Janine Driver, Amy Cuddy, and Julius Fast, among others. If you read between the lines, you will hear the silent voices of these pillars of intellectualism in the work. I have read some of them to the extent that I can reflect their style in my own writing.
At this point, let me sincerely acknowledge the countless opportunities offered to me by the Ex-Commissioners of Immigration, Mr Eric Tan and Mr Clarence Yeo. I never knew how invaluable the experiences they offered me were until later on in life. I was also fortunate to work under a dynamic supervisor since 1999. Mr Goh Choon Kin, Mr K. Kurusamy, Mr Phua Chew Hua, and Mr Poh Seng Hock gave me the exposure to profile criminals and tutoring. Before then, I had heard senior colleagues complain about this concept, but my knowledge on different aspects of the work gave me an edge. I was so versed in the field that I was eventually made a tutor on criminal profiling by the authorities of the ICA. I am grateful to them for offering me the platform to discover my potentials, nurture them for growth, and deploy them to use. There were equally other passionate people, yet they still found me worthy.
I commend the resilience, love, and optimistic spirit of Ganiish Subramanian, my childhood friend. For the past forty years, he had been my greatest fan. Any time I was stuck in a rough road, he was there to lift me up. When I felt inferior, he believed in me. When I thought I was empty, he pointed at the numerous potentials in me. Apart from the institutions earlier acknowledged, Ganiish was one of those who shook me out of my shell. May the cord of our friendship be stronger. Also, in the line of appreciation are S.P.Selvam and Leo Pichay, for being a source of encouragement and support to me for decades. I never took our partnership for granted.
It would have amounted to pure disaster for me to assume that my personal knowledge was enough to write a book of this volume. On this note, I want to appreciate all the scholars, essayists, opinion writers, and experts whose works were referenced in any part of the book. I want to thank them for permitting me to drink out of their wealth of knowledge. Joe Navarro, Christopher Philip, Farouk Radwan, David Strater, Hanan Parvez, Vanessa Van Edwards and Cherry Khedira deserve a special mention.
The contributions of the editors, publishing team, and figures of authority who provided holistic reviews of the book are so much appreciated. Without their mechanical and technical contributions, this book would have eternally remained a manuscript.
The Latin expression ‘Qui docet discit’, which is translated as ‘He who teaches learns’, is one of my most admired wise sayings. On this ground, I want to extend my appreciation to all participants in my numerous training sessions. I learnt so many things by teaching them, many of which were used in making this book what it is today. In fact, the resolve to find true solutions to many of the issues raised during our discussions propelled me to write the book.
Finally, I am grateful to you, the reader. Thank you for believing in me. Thank you for giving me the benefit of the doubt. Thank you for encouraging me to write more. Thank you for being responsive.
REVIEW
This book presents in its entirety 23 body parts movement and their meanings—ways in which every human who are serious about their daily living can understand those they come across with in their business transactions. It gives an extensive account of the psychological feeling of people in each given situation. One of the differentiating features of this book is that it aptly fits into any given endeavour—health, law enforcement, family, education, and formal and corporate world, among others. The author’s attention to detail and sense of responsibility to give examples across different fields make this book exceptional and give each reader a sense of belonging and importance.
The Encyclopaedia of Body Language eveals the secrets in our minds. It does not confer on us the ability to become soothsayers, but through it, we are able to understand the intents of others towards us or a proposal we have tabled before them. Most times, we are taken aback by people’s weird and unwarranted behaviours not because they did not show the tendencies of those attributes but only because we were not attentive or were ignorant of the gestures. This book brings liberation to anyone who longs for a deep understanding of the motivation for people’s behaviours in different circumstances.
The simplicity and expertise with which this book is written will keep you glued to it. The author reels out each body part and all the likely behaviours that are attached to it before linking such to the overall attitude of the person and other clusters. The relevant case studies that are further used in buttressing the points after each concept gives a pictorial view of what is discussed. Throughout the book, you feel the connection between each concept and the interplay of behaviours. This is an indication that humans are social beings, and there is no one who can survive in loneliness. If there are two sets of people who will be most appreciative of this book, it would be business professionals and law enforcement agents. The reason being that the relationship these people maintain is directly proportional to the utterances and bodily actions of their co-interlocutors.
The book is masterfully structured to aptly code its message in a way that can be easily decoded by body language enthusiasts. For instance, while reading, you will understand that the hands are the most expressive parts of the body. As such, it was extensively explained throughout a chapter and conspicuously linked with other chapters throughout the discussion. However, I also opined that the lower parts of the body are the most reliable body language indicators. The reason being that both you and your subjects rarely pay attention to those parts of the body; we are conventionally focused on the face, which can be feigned and restructured to show what they want you to see. A fundamental lesson for every reader is how you can beam your searchlight in the lower parts of the body to decode the intents of the heart of an interlocutor.
Perhaps people rarely talk about colour in non-verbal communication because they see it as not relevant or not strong enough to reveal the minds of others to them, but this misconception is intellectually rebuffed in this book through a masterful discussion of the concept and how it can be interpreted around the globe.
CHAPTER 1
Introduction
After%20Acknowledgement%202.jpgAfter%20Acknowledgement%201.jpgAfter%20Acknowledgement%203.jpgThe concept of human behaviour is what many of us cannot do without. In fact, our world is centrally built around the concept of psychology. I have been personally engulfed in decoding everything that has to do with human behaviour since childhood; how people acted and the circumstances that led them into portraying a particular attitude has always been an interest to me. Above all, I was curious to know why they acted in such manner. For the past five decades of my life, I have been in the business of keeping a close tab on the bodily movement of people.
I was always digging deep to understand the intent of people through their behaviour even when I had no inkling that I would end up as an immigration officer and master trainer of forces across nations. For the past thirty years, my observations as a child have taken a prominent place in my career as I go after criminals, engage terrorists in interviews, and arm people from all walks of life with the intellectual weaponry of reading body language. My keen interest on how people make use of their body and what propel them in doing so endowed me with the natural trajectory of understanding their subtle means of communication.
Although born and raised in Singapore, I have had the opportunity to travel to the different continents of the world. During my stay abroad, I always pay rapt attention to my surroundings, listen to the echoes of people’s body, and understand what is in store for me each time. Unlike the natives, I never took anything for granted. Invariably, I am always focused on discovering the only thing that appears reasonable to me—body language. Through their look, countenance, softness or toughness of their eyes, use of hands, or facial expression, I understand what they are trying to say. Through this action, I could measure my limits and excesses—those who like me, those who care less about my existence, and probably where I can be hurt. Till date, there is simply no alternative for me to survive in a strange land other than observing people’s body language.
Of course, there are usually noticeable differences in the body language of other countries compared with that of my native land, but I often rely on the universal aspect in decoding what they were trying to say. Without mincing words, my greatest source of discovering body language has been the home front. The reason being that apart from understanding the spoken words, I also have vast knowledge on the culture of the community. So there was no way I could be lost in a conversation, taking cognisance of my keen interest in body language observation.
Hence, I learnt about deception at a very early age. People are pathological liars, but their Achilles heel has always been their non-verbal aspect. It is always baffling to see people express their stance on a given issue verbally when their non-verbal is communicating the opposite. This is often worse in children who are unarguably bad liars. It is not rare to see a child nod in agreement to an accusation while they deny such verbally at the same time. As we grow older, we become the embodiment of lies and deception, but a well-trained person can still spot the traces of deception, no matter how perfect the lie seems to have been presented. Some of the common betrayalsare when the person seems to lack confidence in themselves, when they are not convinced about their assertions, and when they leave out important details in a narrative, do not properly arrange events, and add needless details. All these signals are expertly documented in this book in a practical manner.
As I become more mature in age, experience, and reasoning, I decided to make the non-verbals my utmost means of judgement. There is virtually anything I do without relying on non-verbal cues—in trainings, at work, at home, amidst friends, while conversing with my children—just everything about life! The opportunity I have had to have interacted and observed people from all walks of life has further helped me in understanding people across racial divides. As a way of formalising my experience and knowledge in the field, I have read many legends on the subject matter and attended schools, and I am still learning through unique encounters that cross my path on a daily basis. The power of non-verbal communication struck me the most the day I saw children with congenital disorders on the playground; it was unbelievably amazing.
As a security expert who has worked for decades both in the public and private sectors, my job has mainly revolved round speaking with people, interviewing suspects, and interacting with criminals to establish the true cause of an incident and the actual role they played in such. And as I passionate lover of my job, I am always ready for all the above-listed undertakings. I am one of the most respected in the Asian front when it comes to reading body language. In instances where people thought it was impossible to know what was going on, I give them the unexpected response. It is an open secret that my work requires an indescribable level of tenacity. Criminals will hardly tell you the truth, no matter how hard you try. They are very much aware of the consequences of their actions, and confessing to such makes it easy for them to be punished. So the herculean job is always on the interrogating officer to handle them professionally until they consciously come to the acceptance of their actions.
Reading through journals and other publications on body language and deceptions, I can authoritatively tell the kind of criminal or terrorist the author had words with. All these never came as an overnight thing; working passionately on the field in the past thirty years has taught me what no book can. In this encyclopaedia, I have tried to share all my experiences in addition to those of others who have been equally successful in dealing with body language. It is a reflection of my life, what science states, and how you can conquer deception.
How It Benefits All
This book is beneficial to humanity in many ways. The only way to lead a peaceful life is to build a crime-free world. This is not just the job of some group of people; it requires the involvement of everyone. This means you have a role to play. Whether you are in the law enforcement, banking sector, hospitality industry, education, private firms, business world, or even unemployed, we must join hands together to send crime out of our society. This is the sole message of this book. It teaches how to detect crime and make criminals confess through scientific reliance on non-verbal gestures. It is simple, practical, charming, engaging, and solution-driven.
How It Benefits the Law Enforcement Officers
All over the world, it is conventionally expected that law enforcement officers should keep the society safe from all kinds of crimes. Even though this is an unrealistic expectation placed on these professionals, all hands must be on deck to put an end to crime. Generally, law enforcement should play the leading role in this demanding task. Criminals are indescribably smart, and you cannot use yesterday’s method to solve today’s problems. Gone are those days when threats and other traditional methods produce results. Evil-minded people are smart in hiding their crimes and will tell you how you are violating their fundamental human rights when you threaten them.
The good news is that this book has come up with a masterful and result-oriented way to deal with criminals and terrorists; you can know the thoughts and culpability of subjects based on their body language. While a lot of them think that they can be verbally deceptive, little did they know that they will be betrayed by their body movements. The Encyclopedia of Body Language tells you how to win the war against illegalities without losing your peace. Here, you have the weapons against evildoers. It is practical and applicable to all situations.
How It Benefits the Private Security Firms/Bodyguards
Private security firms operate more as a business entity than as a law enforcement agency. This is because they want to outsmart their competitors in all ramifications. While the top management is coming up with different ideas to get this done, some employees may sabotage their efforts through laziness and connivance with others. Such individuals cannot be identified from the surface level; they are hypocritical in nature—they behave good in public and plan death or evil in private. To match up with the games of such entities, one needs to be versatile in reading non-verbal gestures.
Apart from internal sabotage, private security firms need the application of non-verbal cues in their jobs. When contracted to mount guard in a given location, through the body language of people, you can identify the wrong members of public from the right. This will prevent the guards from venting their anger on the wrong person. When confronted with terrorists, being able to read their body language will diffuse the attack before explosion. With this book, no one is permitted to claim ignorance of an unwanted scenario. Maintaining the security of a given territory goes beyond just putting on a stern face or high-level technology; you need to see the unseen and hear the unsaid.
How It Benefits the Human Lie Detectors
The human lie detector is one of the innovations that came in the world with the breakthrough of technology. However, as good as this instrument is, it is not self-sufficient—that is, it needs complementary efforts from other sources to live above board. From research, it has been discovered that human lie detector needs human knowledge to verify its results. This means humans have developed a tough skin against it; the machine can easily be manipulated. Con artists and other hardened criminals will confidently manipulate it, while innocent but fearful people are trapped in the offence that they know nothing of. Due to this fact, prisons all over the world are filled with innocent prisoners. We cannot continue like this; there is no essence caging the wrong persons while those who are supposed to be punished go about, mocking our ignorance.
In order to have this paradigm shift, we must deploy the machineries of non-verbal gestures in aiding the activities of human lie detectors—that is, after the machine have done its work, we should ask some relevant questions to confirm whether the result presented is right or wrong. Our ability to read people’s non-verbal cues will give us the needed answers.
How It Benefits the Schools
Apart from the home, the school is another institution where a child is moulded for both personal and societal use. However, it has been discovered over time that no matter how skilled or gifted a teacher is, there are some students who will still prove difficult to control for him or her. At this point, there is a need for a display of higher skill, and that is simply deployment of the knowledge of body language. Radicalised students are criminals in waiting if their wings are not caught ahead of time. No matter how you manipulate them to reveal their mind, there would still be loads of unsaid stories. This is the point where you need to apply your knowledge of non-verbal cues to decode what is going on.
Students who are involved in gang activities are difficult to handle too, and it is necessary that decisive actions are taken to refine them into the system. This may be difficult if you are unaware of what their issues are exactly. However, beyond physical rascality and brutality, students with academic issues should also be given due attention. Such problematic students are usually shy, and you need the knowledge of reading body language as shared in this book, to understand them beyond their words.
How It Benefits the Parents
Parents, just like school administrators and teachers, are the builders of kids in the society. Young minds will always attempt to take to all forms of vices, but their parents and guardians must be on ground to guide and lead them aright. The act of parenting is a herculean and challenging one. That is why some end up disappointing the society through faulty rearing of their kids. This should be a source of concern to all and sundry as malreared kids are potential time bombs in the community. Parents must live up to responsibility by understanding the needs and thoughts of their children on virtually every issue of life.
From my personal experiences, I can affirm that not every parent wants to fail in giving their children the right upbringing, but they are overwhelmed by ignorance. In such instances, the children would have become wayward or defocused before it comes to the notice of their parents. This makes them reactionary rather than being proactive. The good news is that every parent can live above board through the understanding of non-verbal communication. Children are holistic in their use of body language, and you can rely on it to understand their intents. For instance, a child who is saying no and nodding simultaneously is telling lie. This book offers every parent the opportunity to understand their children better and build more cohesive relationships with them.
How It Benefits the Business Entrepreneurs
In the business world, you will meet people from different parts of the world. It is a transaction that is purely based on money and services. While some business entrepreneurs are value-driven, some are simply money-driven. Those in the latter category can go to any mile to play on the intelligence of their business partners. This is the point where you need to be alert of your relationships with those whom you transact business with.
Beyond scamming, being able to read body language helps you understand your clients better. Some of them may not fully express themselves, especially when they are shy to tell you how unsatisfactory your services are. If you are able to decode the unsaid, you will be able to ask the right questions to know how to serve them better.
Every single step and decision matters in business. This means you need to pay attention to your own non-verbal gestures too. This book helps you be composed and have a firm message at all times. It teaches you how to rightly behave, pass your message without controversies, and win people over to your side. This is a silent tool that helps you sell better.
How It Benefits the Corporate Companies
The corporate world is regarded as the home of ideas and intellectualism where people are expected to demonstrate an appreciable level of knowledge and integrity in all their undertakings. However, this appears to be mere wishful thinking as the sector has been bastardised by the despicable attitudes of some bad eggs. Since those who are passionate about the sanity of the institution cannot sit back and watch, there is need for them to take result-oriented actions. It is pertinent to note that curbing crime in such an environment is tantamount to being tossed between the devil and the deep blue sea. When you accuse people wrongly, that can backfire and affect in some other ways. Through informed reading of people’s body gestures, you will be able to determine whether they are involved in an occurrence or not.
Through this, you can wage war against corruption among professionals. Your ability to identify criminals among other workers will give you an edge in all that you do; you will be respected and feared. This means none of them will dare you with those nauseating behaviour. Beyond scouting for troublemakers and criminals, you will notice it when any of the workers have issues. There are many of them with burdens, affecting their productivity. When you show them care even when they are yet to open their mouth, it helps in winning their heart. It is only through the help of right non-verbal interpretations that this can be done.
How It Benefits the Hotels and Hospitality Industry
The hospitality industry is one of the most important sectors in any given economy, and nations of the world consciously step up their spending in the sector in order to make it a cynosure of all eyes. Whenever a person or a group of persons is coming into a given location, their first point of contact is the hospitality industry. From the foregoing, two things are crystal clear—first, the hospitality industry is a multibillion-dollar one, and second, it is home to important people of the society. This makes it attractive to criminals and predators. The presence of law enforcement officers alone cannot guarantee the safety of the sector. This book highlights ways in which everyone in the industry can play their own roles to ensure its safety.
Through the understanding of people’s body language, you will know when the wrong person is coming into the industry. People with ulterior motives would hide under the cover of sweet words, but their body language has always betrayed their lies. From the security check right into their rooms, the signs would be glaring for anyone who can see beyond the surface level. This book arms you with the right knowledge to make you swing into action when the situation calls for it.
How It Benefits the Airline Industry
Due to its convenience, a lot of people do prefer travelling through air rather than land. It easily connects different nations of the world. While we still celebrate the innovation of the Wright brothers and the subsequent modifications that had heralded the industry, some opportunists have taken advantage of that avenue to inflict pain on innocent people. Our world is more perverse than ever before. Since it is not ideal for airline administrators to begin to fill airplanes with security agents, it is high time that we think outside the box and find laudable and encompassing solutions we can hold on to. Without mincing words, the only tested and result-proven method is an apt understanding of non-verbal cues of everyone who has a business or another in the industry.
Workers in the industry will benefit numerously from this book as it teaches them all the gimmicks that people deploy to play on their intelligence. When pilots, check-in staff, and stewardesses, among others, live in the consciousness of unravelling the inner thoughts of people through their non-verbal cues, then all loopholes will be blocked and sanity will return to the industry. This is not rocket science; that is why the steps listed in this book were well tested and researched before publication.
How It Benefits the Finance and Banking Industry
Perhaps one of the most delicate sectors of the economy is banking and finance. The reason being that it is the powerhouse of all human activities—we all work for the sake of money. Since the natural part of humans will crave for rest before work, some undisciplined individuals will rather opt for illegal ways to meet their needs. This has exposed the sector to all kinds of attacks. Despite improvements in technology and modern security architecture, it appears that the war is still far from being won. This means something decisive has to be done, and that is where this subject matter fits in.
The Encyclopedia of Body Language arms you with an unseen weapon that will win the war for you with ease. Scammers and money launderers will always want to test their antics on everyone whom they cross paths with, but what is most important is how informed you are. This book exposes you to the eternal truths about an average criminal; it teaches you how to be proactive in your fight against financial crime. It is a liberation balm that gives you solution to all crime-related issues in the sector. After going through this book, you will be able to identify a suspected scammer even before they strike.
How It Benefits the Hospitals and Healthcare Industry
Some decades ago, not too many people will believe the projection that hospitals will become a target location for criminals. Not only is it happening now but it is also on a high note. As someone who does not believe in reactionary measures, I was able to carry out extensive research in that sector and capture practical and probable ways in which these attacks on hospitals can be curbed. With the potency of body language, you can curb numerous maladies in the healthcare industry. First, when it is well-deployed, medical practitioners can identify lawbreakers ahead of their action. This book teaches medical practitioners how they can rely on their instincts and other scientific models to point out people with criminal intents.
Further, a vast understanding of non-verbal gestures will help nurses and doctors in understanding their patients better. There are some illnesses that cannot be well explained by their victims; doctors need to depend on other means to have a clearer view of what the person is going through. Unfortunately, some staffers are also corrupt, both in the discharge of their duties and in relation to crime. When such problem arises, a firm reliance on body language will give you effortless victory.
How It Benefits the Sales Industry
Like every other sector that has been mentioned in this note, the sales industry is the core of existence; whether directly or indirectly, we all participate in buying and selling of either goods and services or ideas. The side you belong to each time (either as a buyer or seller), notwithstanding, requires that you are vast in your understanding of people’s body language—that is, you need to decode your partner’s body language with ease. This will indicate whether you are in the right business deal or not. If you are into insurance, property, or general sales, you must train your mind to understand the body language of your customers. No client is willing to part with their hard-earned money, no matter how strongly worded you are. So the question is, when and how do you know you have succeeded in convincing the client? This is where body language interpretation plays a vital role.
There is no need to be overly bothered on how to go about as everything has been covered in this book. You will know when someone is for you or against you and what you can do to win people’s attention so that they can do your bidding.
How It Benefits the Junior Drama Artists
At the beginning of every career, people are bound to face challenges. It is generally believed that it is those challenges that mould them up. People who experience real growth are those who learn from their down moments to prepare a brighter future for themselves. However, not everyone can see things from the positive lens. Being in the drama sector is a great challenge; they are mimicking individuals and institutions in the society. It is expected to be perfectly done so that the intended message can be passed. This makes the job more demanding. For young artists to move up the ladder very quickly, they need an indisputable understanding of this concept.
Drama goes beyond just uttering words. In fact, it is more about movements that convey more meanings than the actual words that are uttered. When the movement contradicts the intended message, the people would be left confused. That is why some artists are not seen as the viewers’ favourite. For junior drama artists to gain the admiration of people, they must understand the interpretation of non-verbal gestures as detailed in this book. The book details every important segment of the society and how body language is used by professionals in each sector. Since dramatists are required to know something about everything, this book provides them the opportunity.
How It Benefits the Sportsmen
Although the sporting world is seen as one that is predominantly meant for relaxation and entertainment, it should not be forgotten that it is tied to the livelihood and essence of living of some people. Those individuals are referred to as professional athletes. Athletics is not just about the demonstration of skills; it also involves the ability to understand your opponents—that is, an athlete who desires to do well must think about himself and his opponent. In sports, the only way you can know the thoughts and permutations of your opponent is to observe their body movements. Some vaguely refer to this as pattern of play, skill display, or carriage; but in the real sense, they are all making reference to the non-verbal communication of the person.
As a sports person, you need to think about the possible movement of an opponent in the twinkle of an eye and get ready so as not to be caught unawares. Without an iota of exaggeration, sports persons should be more concerned about understanding body language than every other group of people. To those who share the same belief with this, the Encyclopedia of Body Language has provided you with reliefs that will bolster your career and make you a rare breed.
How It Benefits the General Public
As I have earlier reiterated in the other parts of this introductory note, understanding body language should be the job of all, no matter what your professional calling is. In every human transaction, communication is expected to take place, and where there is communication, body language sits in the central point. Take for instance when a job applicant goes to an interview. They need the knowledge of non-verbal gestures to be better composed and to know if their responses meet the expectations of the interviewers or not. Relationship is the foundation of greatness as no man succeeds on their own. When you display the right body language cues at all times, you will attract the right persons and build solid relationships with them.
Further, the nuggets shared in this book will help you understand the thoughts of people concerning what you tell them; you can determine if they are receptive of your ideas or not. It is pertinent to state that this book does not make you a mind reader, but it helps you in making right guesses on situations each time. It sharpens your instincts and helps you have an informed thought on a matter. It puts you on the safe side in all your relationships.
All in all, this book is filled with liberating knowledge; it is evidence of well-researched, adequately written, and masterfully arranged book. It digs into the deepest part of the human heart and brings out a master key that unlocks hidden meanings in all human activities. We have longed for a solution like this for a while, but it seems we were not hungry enough to go for it. Non-verbal communication has been a part of humans since the creation of man, but we relegated it to the backwoods and believed more in consciously coined deceptions which have not been good for our development. The Encyclopedia of Body Language marks the birth of a revolution in human communication.
CHAPTER 2
The Head
C02.jpgThe head is the powerhouse of the human body; it is an embodiment of the brain which controls all human activity. Hence, the head serves as the source of every human behaviour. Science has made us aware that the brain does not stop working. This means it controls both our conscious and subconscious actions. Being the seat of power, it is involved in all activities relating to the body. Digestion, regulation of the heart, breathing, and every other important bodily action start from the head. When a part of the brain is damaged, it affects the whole body’s system. For instance, damage to the left side of the brain can cause stroke, affecting the hands and legs of the victims. In others, it brings about speech deficiency. That is why the head should be guarded with the highest degree of caution. Injuries inflicted on the head are life-threatening.
However, what is very important to us in this book is the exterior of the head. We reach a conclusion about the beauty or ugliness of a person by looking at their head. All the parts of the head—lips, hair, chin, nose, forehead, ears, eyes, and eyebrows—have their own specific message they pass across during a conversation; they communicate to people who can decipher non-verbal cues. In fact, you cannot look away from the head and rightly establish the state of emotion of a person. Hence, we are starting from the part of the body that matters most throughout our lifetime.
At different stages of our lives, we look to the head for pieces of information about a person. When we were still young, our parents look at our head to know how we feel, what is wrong with us, or if we are hurt or hungry. At this stage, we cannot verbally express ourselves, and they rely on the expressions on our face to know the next line of action. As we grow up, we focus on the head while communicating with our friends. Through the movement of their eyes, nose, and overall facial expression, we are able to establish what goes on in their mind. Also, we rely on the head to work seamlessly with our colleagues at the workplace. Deception is better detected through the expressions people wear each time. A colleague who frowns during a meeting where a new idea is tabled is surely not up for the suggestion. Although they may try to deny this verbally, but along the line, they will not give their best to the rightful implementation of such an idea. And ultimately, the head plays a huge role between spouses.
The saying ‘The eyes are the window to the soul’ explains the importance of a part of the head in having a good relationship with others. On a first date with a person, they may be shy in expressing their feelings verbally, so you need to read their facial expression to know how they feel. And it continues on that cycle till death calls. Hence, it is not out of place to start our discussion from the head.
A platform is dedicated to body language teachings. Study Body Language also discussed the concept of the head in a masterful way. According to the platform, ‘The position of the head is one of the quickest giveaways to mood or attitude in body language.’ This is because there’s a direct correlation between how we feel and how we hold our head. The way we see the world around us is affected by the angle we look at it, no doubt (SBL 2009). This explains why different people looking at the same thing have varied opinion about such thing. Accumulation of past experiences also plays a key role in this. Ideally, those who are happy or elated about a situation keep their head very high; they portray confidence and readiness to engage the system. On the other hand, frustrated or depressed people bow their head; they lack the inner strength to hold their head high as they are not proud of the circumstance.
As we move on this segment, this information can help us discern, in one glance, many types of attitudes (SBL 2009):
• The general morale—happy versus sad, assured versus shaky.
• Who or what is the centre of attention of the person you observe?
• How involved and engaged is someone in a given scenario?
• Who’s the superior and who’s the subordinate in the social power struggle?
Without mincing words, the above-stated guidelines are not sacrosanct or truly holistic in determining the state of mind of a person—that is, it will be wrong of me to claim that someone is elated on the basis of the singular fact that they hold their head high. However, the fact remains that the head in reading body language is an essential barometer in determining the mental state of a person in the twinkle of an eye. That is, if you are given a moment to state the mood of a person, the head position should be your number 1 focus.
The head cannot take any shape without the neck. As important as the neck is, it is very vulnerable. It holds our head and supplies it with vital bloodstream through the carotid arteries. That’s the reason we instinctively guard our neck when we feel vulnerable (physically or emotionally) or show it with pride when we feel secure or when trying to impress (SBL 2019). Generally, the higher the head is raised, the higher the emotional condition of the person—that is, they wholesomely feel stronger, more agile, and more energised. Further, when the head is oriented with the movement induced by the neck, it is an indication of where the interest of the person lies. This is synonymous to pointing with the fingers. When the head is kept in a balanced position, it becomes difficult for anyone to read meanings of its movement as it is just in its natural state. However, once you begin to tilt it, there are arrays of meanings that can be alluded to it, which would be considered in this segment.
C19%20-%20Image%209.jpg2.1. Adorning the Head
Generic Interpretations of the Concept
This form of body language signal is used across cultures for various purposes. One of its predominant uses is the communication of leadership status. (This is witnessed among Native American chiefs that use feather headdresses.) It can mean to signal the profession of a person (the hard hat used by miners in various parts of the world), representation of social status (the infamous Yves Saint Laurent pillbox hat), or to connote people’s hobbies or pastimes (helmet worn by those who ride bicycles or engage in mountaineering). Furthermore, head adornment is used in the religious circles—the Jewish yarmulke or the cardinal’s cap. It may also mean a form of expressing an allegiance to a system, sports, or a given person—passionate sports club, union, or associations, among others. This form of body signal gives an insight about individuals in relation to the environment in which they are found.
It tells us about the thought pattern of individuals—where they belong to in the society, their preferences, religious affiliations, economic buoyancy, what they think of themselves each time, and allegiances among other issues. Adorning the head in a particular way explains if a person confines with the doctrines of a given society. Some intentionally adorn their head to register their grievances against the status quo of the individual communities. In its natural interpretation, adornment is worn with the purpose of beautifying the head and making a person look more attractive. If worn properly, it distinguishes the wearer from other people in an occasion. In a multicultural setting, it is not uncommon to see try to set themselves apart through the adornment of the head. The reason behind the adornment gives hint of how it will look like. Someone who does so to prove economic status will ensure that the item is rare and expensive for lower-class individuals to afford.
Scientific Explanations
There are different items usually used for adornment, such as facial hair, lip plates, braiding, headgear, clothing accessories, cosmetics, and jewellery. According to an article on the website of the University of Tennessee, US, ‘Hats and headdresses can be full of meaning. They simultaneously announce our place in society and make statements about our individuality. A hat can identify which country a person comes from and to what cultural group he belongs. It may indicate how he makes his living or how he spends his free time. Hats can reveal people’s