Letters to Mark: Transcripts from Father to Son Across 3 Countries
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Noel W. Davis
Noel Davis, BA, MDiv, Thd, Dip.Div., Dip Ed is a Uniting Church minister who has retired from active ministry. He spent the last 21 years of his working life as a School Chaplain. He spent three years in Fiji with his wife, Mary and his three sons, Paul, Stephen and Mark, moved to San Diego and then to Denver where he did more study for five years. He collaborated in writing three books of black line masters in the area of Human Relationships Education. He also wrote a biography of his grandfather, Walter Taylor, a building contractor, architect and engineer.
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Letters to Mark - Noel W. Davis
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Contents
Letter
1. The Davis family in Fiji. Mark’s birth in Suva. Moving to Nasavusavu.
2. Mark comes down with meningitis. Treatment in Nasavusavu and Suva. Eventual return to Australia with grandmother and grandfather.
3. Mary goes back to Australia. On her return to Fiji the decision to go to the USA for special treatment for Mark. Noel is appointed to a church in San Diego.
4. Leaving Fiji on the liner, Arcadia. Difficulties having Mark accepted by American Immigration. The passage and ports of call.
5. Some thoughts about Mark being affected with meningitis and some misunderstandings by well meaning people.
6. Arriving in America at Los Angeles and settling into our new home. The generosity of American people. We are awarded immigrant status Accessing the Doman-Delacato programme. The helpfulness of the congregation at Pacific Beach United Methodist Church.
7. More about life in San Diego. Other activities with the Doman-Delacato programme. Toilet training, monosyllables in speech.
8. Travel in the Western National Parks. Mark granted probation
through immigration. Trip to Philadelphia by Mary and Mark so Mark could be examined by Dr. Eugene Spitz.
9. Time in San Diego comes to an end. Moving to Denver.
10. Trip from San Diego to Denver. Mary and Noel finding work. A hair raising incident with Mark. Our first experience of snow.
11. The family’s life in Denver. Moving into a house from a unit and Mark proofing
it.
12. Mark’s escapades in our house in Denver.
13. Day to day with Mark. The constant search for a balance of drugs. The attitudes of others to Mark. The perverse advantage of Mark seemingly being unaware of his disability. Cleaning Mark’s teeth, visits to the dentist and haircuts. Mark and music.
14. Mark and travel – trips in the US including,
the weekend from hell
15. A Sunday activity for Mark. A family business and Paul and Stephen’s sense of responsibility. Dealing with painting
episodes after toilet accidents.
16. Leaving Denver and the next step workwise back in Australia. The trip to the coast and on board the Oriana.
17. Settling into Frankston, Melbourne, finding a centre for Mark and a school for Paul and Stephen.
18. Buying our own house in Frankston. Finding the right balance with Mark’s drugs. Camping in Victoria. Moving back to Brisbane.
19. The house in Aspley, Brisbane. The effect of brain damage on Mark’s sexual development. Finding a suitable placement for Mark. The decision to put Mark into care and its ramifications.
20. Our being content with the decision to place Mark in care. Our ongoing contact with Mark on a weekly basis. Our house on Lamb Island, South Moreton Bay on retirement. A look to the future.
Post Script
Appendices
1. Epilepsy
2. The Doman Delacato Method
3. Socialisation
This book is
dedicated to Disability Services, Queensland, Ipswich and South West region and more recently to the Department of Communities, Disability Services and Seniors. Particularly to Mark’s carers who have worked, and work, in his household.
Letter 1
The Davis family in Fiji, Suva and Nasavusavu. Mark’s birth in Suva.
Dear Mark
As I’ve aged I am occasionally given to reminiscing so I got to thinking about your life. There is much to tell. I’ve decided the most interesting way to do so is to write you some letters.
In 1963 your mother, who from now on I’ll call Mary, and your two older brothers Paul and Stephen and I were in Fiji. We had gone there with the Overseas Missions Department of the Australian Methodist Church. Paul was about 3 and Stephen 1. We had been in Fiji for nearly a year. I had been given a role in the Rewa Division of the largest island in the group Viti Levu (big Fiji). My most important activity was working at learning to speak and write Fijian. At the Conference of the Methodist Church in Fiji in 1963 I was made Assistant Divisional Superintendent of the Vanua Levu (big land) Division of the church, Vanua Levu being the second largest island of the Fiji group. I was also made principal of the Naqelekula (red soil) Bible School in Nasavusavu where we would live.
This is all background to your beginnings. Mary and I had decided we wanted to have four children and you were to be the third. We thought it would be much easier for you to be born in Suva where there is a major hospital and fully fledged doctors. This took a good deal of planning on our part. You were born on 30th April 1964 and weighed 9lbs 12 ozs. You got a good start. When Stephen was born, Paul felt quite left out of the process so we determined to include both of your brothers this time, This meant when it was time for Mary to go to the hospital, even though it was the middle of the night, we all set off together and I can still remember Paul and Stephen leaning out of the car windows waving to Mary as she stood in the hospital door.
Our move to Nasavusavu was quite a major one. We had to move all our stuff, not that we had a lot of furniture. There were five of us now that you were born. You were just a few weeks old when we moved. A Fijian lady who had started working in the house in Suva moved with us. Her name was Naomi Biturogoiwasa. When we started settling in on our arrival in Fiji we were told that it was usual to have a Fijian lady working in the house. I have to say that we weren’t happy about it as it seemed like we had a servant
. She did the housework and prepared the meals. We wanted her to eat with us and managed to persuade her to do so on the first day but when she went home and checked with her parents about the situation she resolutely refused to eat with us in the future. She was a tremendous asset, a lovely person, and able to guide us as we got used to our new surroundings. Our goods and chattels went over to Nasavusavu by ship but we travelled by plane. Fiji Airlines was the local company and they mostly used Herons, a twin engined plane which took 15 passengers. The weight had to be carefully distributed so each person was weighed as well as the luggage. We never got tired of the flights between Suva and. Nasavusavu as they gave us an excellent view of the various islands of the Fiji group and the reefs. Coming into Nasavusavu was always quite hair raising. The plane would go a fair way out to sea over Nasavusavu Bay and then turn towards the strip and as it came in it seemed that the tip of the wing was perilously close to the coconut trees growing on a hillside.
We lived in a large, old style house with a large verandah on two sides. From the front verandah we could look across Nasavusavu Bay, an absolutely beautiful view with the Bay in the foreground and the mountains on the other side in the distance. The house was located on a property of more than 80 acres stretching from the beach to the hills with a little creek running through it. From the back of the house we looked down into a small valley where there were a number of bures (Fijian houses). Some of them were larger than others and accommodated the thirty or so students of the Bible school. There were a couple of staff living on the property. One was a Vakatawa, a Home Missionary, who helped in the Bible School and accompanied me when I visited the churches in various parts of Vanua Levu. We made a pact early in the piece that we would not use English, even though he was quite proficient, unless there was an emergency, otherwise he would help me struggle to express myself in Fijian. There was also a young Rabean minister who taught in the Bible school. Paul started to go to a Part European school when he was five where the classes were