Being with Asperger’S: “So That’S How It’S Done!”
By Lynette Papp
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Lynette Papp
LYNETTE PAPP (MA. Hons, PG Dip. Counselling) is a practicing therapist in Auckland, New Zealand. Her MA was in English Literature and prior to becoming a counsellor, Lynette was a high school music and English teacher. Author of “Being with Asperger’s,” Lynette presents her second book “Poppa’s Present” in the children’s picture book genre. She was inspired to write and illustrate this children’s book after observing the spontaneous and healthy manner her grandchildren processed the loss of their precious grandfather, Poppa.
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Being with Asperger’S - Lynette Papp
Copyright © 2018 Lynette Papp.
Interior Art Credit: Walter Moore
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Balboa Press rev. date: 08/20/2018
9837.pngContents
Author’s Note
Chapter One: Death and Identity
Chapter Two: Asperger’s
Chapter Three
Chapter Four: Balancing
Chapter Five: Flow and Integration
AUTHOR’S NOTE
We are all broken. That’s how the light gets in.
Whether it was Ernest Hemingway, Leonard Cohen a combination of the two who made this idea famous, Walter’s life is testament to it. This memoir takes the form of a posthumous conversation with my long-term partner Walter who struggled throughout his life with what he discovered may have been Asperger’s syndrome (AS). After his death I found Walter’s Secret Diary concealed in a box in our roof. I use conversation bytes
and photos of the poems, doodles, cartoons and letters within to recollect our life together. In some ways I guess I am using the word bytes
because this conversation is my attempt to communicate my thoughts and feelings to Walter across time and space.
It was a relationship that spanned over three decades. The little pieces of art, puns and scribbles reveal Walter’s confusion and struggle to maintain balance with a personality type that neither of us understood for many years. I have also attempted to express how my life was being in a relationship with this extremely unusually sensitive and creative man. That is why I decided to title it, "Being with Asperger’s."
After Walter discovered in middle age that he ticked many of the boxes for a condition called Asperger’s syndrome he adopted a favourite saying, So that’s how it’s done.
He began observing how sociable people handled the world. For most of his life living inside his head was difficult and at times he became mute. He was viewed as odd and eccentric by conventional people but admired and adored by others who appreciated his intelligence and quirky nature. However, Walter did not fit inside the square and found life difficult.
I believe now that in his early life Walter unconsciously constructed his identity through observing literary and artistic role models. He did not fit the normal
world and needed to carve out a niche for himself to emotionally survive. Generally, he did not like social conventions and stubbornly refused to conform in social settings that did not suit him. Therefore, despite being a talented young architect with a promising career he chose to abandon it and spend much of his life teaching the guitar. Walter’s personality also led to a complex personal life with two families prior to joining mine. I have focussed on my own story of life with him and allude to his previous partners as first wife and second wife.
Anecdotes are both comical and sad as in the early days Walter made himself invisible.
Unlike his cartoons, his writing was very personal and seldom shared. It is only now, after his death, that I read much of it for the first time. Like developing a photograph in a dark room, I had a glimpse of what it was like living inside his head! But what a creative space it was. So much wit and talent, and very little of it exposed to the world. Knowing Walter so well I am confident he would be happy for me to share our experience with the many others who live with Asperger’s.
Chapter One: Death and Identity
Conversation byte #1
When I died death died too and I sprang to life anew
(Moore, W. Musing on death, undated).
After your death I began reflecting on our life together and the journey we took through your battle with Asperger’s. My thoughts and these written words are the only way I can converse with you now you are gone. But, let’s start at the end.
Gabriel was four years old the day you died. At the dinner table in our nineteenth century villa with a fire burning in the hearth, surrounded by your brightly coloured child – like paintings and eclectic mix of curios family reminisced about you. Gabriel piped up matter – of – factly: I’m burying poppa!
No one paid any attention, so absorbed in conversation we were. Later, after everyone left I found his drawing. It was worthy of you. Centre of the page stood Bebe (as we called him), mass of dark curls, with a spade in one hand and a bunch of flowers in the other and earth below. Next evening, he proudly placed his picture in your coffin at the wake.
It would amuse you to know that a year later he told me you were not dead. When asked how this was so his reply was: Poppa is still alive in my head so he’s not dead.
So, this conversation is for you Walter, to keep you