The Secret to Being Human: Living in Your Natural State

By Jane R Hunter

Have you uncovered the greatest secret of all to living fully in the world yet not of it?

Do you experience feelings of peace only to have them disappear again under layers of burdensome conditioning?

What if you could uncover the well-being, contentment, and fulfillment that knows all is well, even amidst intense pain?

What if you could be in continual intimacy with it all the time?

Well, you can, because separation is impossible.

• Language: English
• Publisher: AuthorHouse
• Release date: Jun 8, 2015
• ISBN: 9781504908740

Jane R Hunter

Jane Hunter was born in New Zealand and currently resides between New Zealand and Europe. Jane spent many years as a teacher and professional counsellor, until in 2007 grace revealed the direct realization of Life. This radical enlivening to Life as Itself ended all egoic self-suffering, which left her to soften and embody into the exquisite and vulnerable nature of what it really means to be a human being, and to abide in the free-feeling wellbeing that this brings. Jane now brings this unconditional ground of love to her work with others, way-showing the possibility of unwinding the egoic knot of suffering; to dive into and embody ones humanity into lasting freedom, which points the way for you to discover the ‘Timeless Truth’ of ‘The Real’ and the eternal Life you are also. For more information, visit: www.embodiedrealization.com

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Contents

Dedication

Acknowledgements

Authors Note

Introduction

Chapter 1   The One Consciousness

Chapter 2   Awareness Itself

Chapter 3   Free Attention

Chapter 4   The Pain of Projection

Chapter 5   Being with It All

Chapter 6   The Pain of Disconnection

Chapter 7   Facing the Facts

Chapter 8   Right Attachment

Chapter 9   Conditioning

Chapter 10   The Mythology of Mind

Chapter 11   The Belief Making Mechanism

Chapter 12   Egoic Suffering

Chapter 13   The Freed Ego

Chapter 14   The Body as a Doorway

Chapter 15   The Consciousness of Love

Chapter 16   Relating As Love in Relationship

Chapter 17   The Deep Dive into Intimacy

Chapter 18   Being Real

Chapter 19   The Passion of Relating and Maturing in Love

Chapter 20   Presence, Perspective, Purpose

Chapter 21   Conclusion

Dedication

This book is dedicated to the enlivening and embodied realization of all.

I dedicate this book to you, to being deeply in love with The ‘Self,’ and to unleash the loving Being you are into the world.

May the words written here powerfully activate the consciousness of the reader.

Acknowledgements

First of all I’d like to thank my parents, for always being open-minded and raising me to be likewise.

I’d also like to acknowledge all the Teachers and dear friends in Truth that have entered this life, including the Wednesday night group.

Lastly this heart celebrates and acknowledges the one Life in all, that sees through many eyes, and from which this book was birthed.

In love of the Real,

Jane R Hunter

2015

Caveat

This publication is to broaden the reader’s understanding

of the subject matters covered. It is not a substitute for

psychological help. Those dealing with mental health issues need to seek the services of a competent psychological professional.

Authors Note

‘The Secret to Being Human’ is the sequel to the first book, ‘The Great Discovery,’ and where ‘The Great Discovery’ stripped away ones beliefs and opened the way to ones awakening, ‘The Secret to Being Human’ goes deeper into the further experience or next phase of what is actually involved in living this out as awareness and embodying it all as a human-being. You are embarking upon the next great adventure or phase of riding right into your life and recovering anything that got lost along the way, which is returning everything back Home, back to Source and thus further embodying the Love you are into the world.

To Self-realize is to know and be in ones non-dual nature were the duality or paradox of life has merged or come together as One, which as we discussed in ‘The Great Discovery, is the great blessing of a life and yet is really only the beginning of living life in a whole new and fresh way, no longer burdened with a solid sense of ‘self’, but openly free feeling the ‘beingness’ of just being here through the vast and eternal perspective of The Absolute.

As with, ‘The Great Discovery’ this is written from the cleaner and clearer All Inclusive perspective, which humbles what the mind once believed, and thought. Thus it is not mind-knowledge, but rather a radical knowledge prior to mind and even prior to time and space, as the intuitive intelligence of Life. It’s written as innocently and simply, yet directly as possible, for it’s meant to liberate the mind and allow it to rest, as there’s nothing new here that the mind has to get or understand, because it’s not for the mind, it’s for you. If you try to work it all out with only the mind or with a narrow focus you may find it confusing. The mind cannot fully grasp it; for the unlimited cannot be worked out through such a limited vehicle.

Some of it will appear simplistic, some of it will be comprehensive and even sound repetitive and some of it may even be confronting and controversial, as my true intention is to make this as apparent to you as I possibly can. I even make some bold sweeping statements, but that’s only to blast and pierce through any personal concepts that may still be lingering. It has a good intention, so I make no apologies for this. The reality is; everyone is sinking into this now and what once appeared difficult is no longer the case.

I use the terms Home/ God/ Source/ Love/ Life/ Beloved/ Self/ Truth/ The Real/ The All in All/ Oneness/ Consciousness/ Presence/ Being/ The Totality/ The Eternal and The Infinite to describe the Truth and the One Being or ‘beingness’ that we are. They all describe the essential nature, and are often used in conjunction to shift and shake off the outdated abstractions often associated with them that might limit the unlimited, and what cannot be described or conceptualized.

‘The Secret to Being Human’ can be read from beginning to end or you can select any chapter at will. As you stay open, you will begin to see that I am constantly and always speaking to The Real in you, so the old habit of identifying only as the mind-identified ‘egoic’ personal ‘self’ erodes, and the true or unadulterated ‘Self’ or ‘beingness’ is actualized at the core of every atom, so it can shine through once more.

Once again, I am from no religious denomination or any spiritual tradition, but wholeheartedly appreciate the unifying integral message at the core of them all. I do not write as a theologian or as an academic, theorist, philosopher, spiritual teacher or anything like that, as none of that actually interests me.

I am not really speaking of spirituality, but rather about the sacred reality and the direct living knowledge and the living embodying experience of it as well, for one’s greatest teacher is always one’s direct experience in every moment of one’s existence, because none of this is spiritual; it’s just natural.

Once again, I am not any different from you. I am just a human-being, who just loves being human and is no longer deriving a ‘sense of self’ from the mind, that is all, which has allowed me to return Home and to sink more deeply into myself and embody further my real nature.

To begin, just relax back into yourself; receive yourself first and read from here, and let it sink in. Trust that something is being elucidated beyond your knowing; for this is not for your understanding, but for your continual embodiment.

After reading ‘The Secret to Being Human,’ I warmly invite you to go to the website below and feel free to ask me any questions you’d like and I will endeavor to reply to you as soon as I can.

www.janehunter.org

www.embodiedrealization.com

Introduction

‘The Secret to Being Human’ is a testament to the integrity of the human spirit to know itself as pure freedom through a limited vehicle and how Self-realization and self-compassion is a mightier force than we could have ever imagined. It has far reaching impacts not only for yourself, your brain, body and its biology, but it holds unforeseen impacts for the entire human race. It shows us the immense capacity that we all hold and is the truth behind what we will actually all unleash as our true potential as human-beings. It whispers to us the reality of our great destiny that we can’t even begin to fathom right now, but that which we all know and feel in the deepest stirrings of our heart.

Where ‘The Great Discovery’ opened the way to Self-realize and awaken to our non-dual nature, ‘The Secret to Being Human’ takes us on the next part of that journey of the descent into the body and into the subterranean depths of the subconscious to recover all the sunken treasures that got lost and covered over by the sands of time and the build-up of debris.

We pick up where we left off having seen through or seeing through the myths and illusion of the world and mind to now really drop down into the bodily awareness and into what such Presence in our bodies uncovers and allows us to bring Home and recover. We are now recovering our sanity through the perception of the sacred reality and the consciousness that can now whip through everything.

Once you come Home to the great power of yourself your capacity to really envelop your humanity becomes unequalled. This allows you to relate in new and ever more responsive ways with yourself, others and the world.

To begin we will need to revisit the truth of awareness and the light of consciousness, because they are your first super powers into living your life out fully. We will discuss why we tend to suffer in our relationships with ourselves, others and the world further and how to embody within to free this all up. Then you can step back into the dignity and nobility and into your true authority as a human-being. This changes the way others relate to you once you are relating in such a clear and free way which shifts your relationships into the deeper realms of intimacy (and responsive relatedness) and is what we all crave for in our heart of hearts.

We were not born on separate islands but together and with everything that such ‘togetherness’ brings up. Where once you were happy to skim along the surface, only looking outwards across the horizon to what’s next, overlooking your present condition right now, too afraid to dip into what lies beneath, now you can dive in as well, because that’s the beginning of true love for the human-being with all the defects, deficiencies and shortcomings inherent to that condition. In this we finally allow all the suppressed stuff, all our susceptibilities, all the old hatred and self-loathing, all the rejection and shame comes hurtling back for release and rest. The Love you discover enfolds all the lost parts to embody love further, for it is Love that makes you real again.

Chapter One

The One Consciousness

Consciousness is not birthed when we are born nor does it die at death. It is not of the brain, rather it births the brain. Consciousness is the basis of and is that which gives life to everything else as the great spirit of all.

Consciousness inhabits or inspirits into form and is unconsciously at One, and then the baby or small child begins to contract to a limited ‘self’ or individual. We have to be an individual and separate initially, so we can return or merge back to Oneness consciously. It seems you have to become self-centred and self-conscious in the first place, to be conscious of the ‘Self.’ That’s why it’s a re-circling or a pathless path, back to what you’ve always intimately known. It seems the ‘spirit,’ Being, life force or whatever you wish to call it, inhabiting you, already knows, it is just realizing this knowing as a human-being.

Everything is birthed from the universal energy of Life, as an expression of itself. A new vibration is birthed within itself and the consciousness becomes more self-conscious of itself as an individualized being or rather, as an indivisible entity, because the universal cannot actually separate itself, it cannot really split off into parts, rather it sub-atomically alters its molecular structure and vibration. Thus an apparent ‘self’ or individual is birthed as a particular expression of Source, but the vast and eternal continuity of ‘Self’ remains the same. Everything in the world is subatomic particles or photons of light vibrating at different holographic levels and in various dimensional realms; this is quite a blast when you see this.

The only difference is a subtle change in vibration and so there is universal and individual consciousness and both can be realized as one. The universal is the Absolute and the individual is a vehicle or means of expression of it, and that’s why there is no end or beginning to you. ‘You and the Father are one’ and ‘All that the Father is I am.’ This is why you as an individual can realize the universal. There is no place that Source leaves off and you begin. Thus all of creation is energy in fluid motion and each of us is an expression of that energy field or individualized, yet indivisible formless life-force merely contracted into a physical form.

There is no solid ‘self,’ that’s why there’s no ‘you,’ that has to drop away or that has to be purified before you can know yourself. There is no substance to the Absolute, which is already implicitly known as the seamless nothing that you are, but you have ignored and over ridden it constantly.

That’s the whole human dilemma, you’ve put all your identity into an emotional or mental pattern, rather than noticing ‘who you are’ in the gaps between thoughts, where there is no thinking going on. A space of nothing opens up and the stillness can be intuited or sensed, and that’s what you are.

It’s too boring and inconsequential for most people, since they want something solid to cling to, because that’s the mechanism of the ego-mind. It pushes away this boring intangible unknowable nothing and grasps for something to interest it, but only because that’s part of its restless character. The more restless you are the more caught you may be in a centralized identity. However, at the same time there’s nothing wrong with this restlessness, it’s just the mind activity, that’s all. You can now use the restlessness as a doorway to inform you. So not to worry, this is easily remedied. The key is to notice and meet the restlessness from the stillness that you are, from that space of no-thingness, or ‘not much going on,’ that’s all. When you allow things to be as they are first, then you are no longer a separate entity inside looking out, rather you are the expansive seeing that contains everything including yourself.

When you see that you are always in the right place at the right time and always have been and always will be, as is everyone else, (no matter how it appears) then all existential doubt has disappeared, for there are no coincidences. Things turn out the way they have to at any given time, due to where we are all at in our conditioning, development and in our evolution.

Everything is appearing right here all at once and is exactly as it needs to be and could not be otherwise in this moment. This is why you are a perfect aspect of the whole exactly as you are right now and how you experience yourself right now without it having to be perfect. There’s nothing you can do about it, you are the character, the personality, the apparent flaws, frailties and everything else about you that just has to appear right now, but remember it’s only an appearance.

Every experience is absolutely perfect in that moment no matter how it goes, because it’s the only possible expression at that moment. It has to be lived out before a new expression can come forth. Being part of the play of living, it must be played out once it’s in motion for the next act to unfold, but it has no existence nor any purpose or any meaning outside of the play. It may have a purpose and even a sublime meaning in the living of life though, which can be intuitively recognized, but it’s no longer subject to a fixed mental interpretation.

What you interpret about something is of the mind, but the fact that you are aware and seeing that something is happening, is the key to being with or receiving yourself as you are right now. You simply see that this is the experience right now, not separate from it, but you are not fused nor are you mentally identified with it either. You may start off personally identified with it though, but if you stay still with it, it soon makes way for the impersonal to enfold the personal. The ‘person’ or personal is still all okay too, and when used in this way is your great ally, because it is in fact a bridge back to the impersonal and that’s why we notice the ‘person’ and its personas to see how even the ‘person’ is sublimely held in ‘That.’ Everything becomes benign, everything becomes your friend when you can allow and receive it in.

You can’t stop anything from happening the way it happens. It’s only your judgement or a belief in right and wrong or in good or bad or a need for things to be perfect that creates the overlay, which creates defensiveness to what’s occurring, but you are the undivided witness of it all. Life will have its own unique way particular to you and therefore specific to others, that’s why judgement of your life goes and so does the way others live theirs, which frees everybody up.

Any thoughts of judgement and resistance are also appearing right now, only because they have to. It’s all choice-less so there’s no problem with them either and they are included too. Everything is welcomed as it comes, every thought and every judgement. It’s just that now you see how inconsequential and fleeting they all are. All experiences are impermanent anyway, since they are in fact empty. When you see the emptiness within and behind everything, anything that appears malignant in your life becomes benign.

There may be a myriad of things arising and subsiding, but you’re neither entranced nor addicted and you are no longer denying or clinging to any experience, whether it is felt as an initial resistance, contraction or as an expansion. There’s no wanting any experience to be one way or another either. This is the heart of the matter.

You can’t control what you think or feel, or whether there is contraction and resistance or whether there is an expansion and openness. You can’t control what happens, because what happens can only happen right now. You can’t control what appears or what gets done or not done. You may feel an impulse to do something or not, to stay, to go, or do nothing.

Remember, it’s not really up to you. You have no say in how you want this moment to be, because it will be as it is. If you want it to be different than how it is, you will suffer. It’s that simple. However, in saying all of that you do in fact hold the ultimate point of power and mastery though, which is in your attitude, perception and response to what’s occurring, because your inclusion of it radically changes how it is received, which changes everything. So rather than recycling the same old mental pattern and energy back around into your life, you now have the opportunity to set up a new expression and a new possibility. Control fades away and true power comes forth. You may not be able to control the waves when they come, but you can surf the waves and learn how to surf them well, with precision, agility and skill.

Preferences can arise and sometimes the mind may want this or that in any given moment, but actually the impetus that is most prevalent in the energy system will occur, not necessarily what’s in the mind. You are now no longer concerned whether there is a reaction or not, a contraction or not, nor even an open peace or not, this is the fullness of realization.

Resistance happens or openness happens, either way it’s of no concern, because Life is doing it appropriate in that moment, but it’s not personally out to get you. It’s been let loose in its love of you. It loves you immensely and so it has to play out till its completeness in form, and until each body/mind sees what is requiring to be seen and met. Just as the child doesn’t always like what the parent does, but it’s for the child’s sake to help it grow and develop so it can be better equipped to meet, surf and ride through the challenges of living.

Remember, everything is awareness; everything is the ‘Self.’ Every thought, feeling, act, resistance and experience is also the ‘Self’ playing out as well, so that’s why there is no need to worry about it, but rather just notice that you are aware in the first place, and then an ease with all of it can finally take flight within you and then you are soaring not just through life, as an eagle rides the wind currents, but as Life. So you can meet and widen into the capacity to be with larger and deeper challenges.

It’s all the will of the unknowable, every experience, thought, feeling and act. I’ll reiterate the point once more; when you know the unknowable or know the Absolute as yourself, surrender is organic, since it’s implicit to your nature and so there is no-one to surrender anyway so no personal will either. All ideas of will and identity or even an identity with and as Source goes as well, because what we’re speaking of is so revolutionary and so sublime it is utterly unfathomable.

From consciousness, all other apparent states of consciousness are only layers over the One consciousness, which is not a state; it’s just consciousness, not a depressed consciousness or an anxious one nor even an elated or ecstatic state. These states are from the dualistic point of view. In non-duality there is only consciousness. A state of consciousness is also a belief, so they come and go as well in the ever present eternal now.

That’s why if anyone comes to discuss these things directly with me, the Life that I am knows the Truth of the person and not the state they think they are. This vaster knowledge of who they are in Truth is of more assistance to them than any process or technique, for it silently confirms, acknowledges and enlivens the inner knowing within themselves.

‘Who you are’ is neither a state of consciousness nor any experience. The belief of an ‘I’ or a ‘you’ is what makes up the idea of different states of higher or lower. There is only the immortal, since it’s prior to any mortal vibratory states of higher or lower.

Even blissed out states are still states as they come and go. Blissful states can be a by-product of wakefulness, but still a state, as ‘who you are,’ is unconcerned by any of that. You just relax into the sweet everyday normal experience of life as it is now and that’s’ where the quiet and gentle hum or bliss of Being can be sensed. Once again, this is very ordinary, obvious and only you as you are right now. You know all of this intimately, it’s already imprinted in your DNA, and this message is merely confirming it within you.

You can relax now, without any need for a higher state of consciousness to achieve or attain, because that’s a massive red herring, that most, if not all spiritual seekers get lost in. They keep chasing the rabbit and lose themselves down the rabbit hole. We’ve all been there and done that, to see that it’s an endless maze with many tricks and turns to keep the mind mesmerized into thinking and hoping it’s getting somewhere, achieving something and that it can find its way out. The only way out is the deep dive into you and be with the present, to see there is no out, no in and therefore no speculation between inner and outer, higher or lower, and therefore no escape.

Seeing that there’s no escape, you no longer try to work it all out through the mind but take refuge within the empty spaciousness. You are the sentience of all life, and sentient ‘beingness.’ It’s not, ‘who are you?’ or even ‘Who am I?’ but rather, ‘what are you?’ ‘What am I?’ It’s not ‘how do I feel?’ but rather, ‘what is felt?’ or ‘what is passing through right now?’ and actually let it pass without judgement. What you are; is the stillness of Shiva (awareness) noticing the movement or dance of Shakti, (consciousness at play). Witness it all from the immediacy of yourself, which slips you into the still point of Now, and then past and future drop away and the mystery unfolds graciously in seamless synchronicity and even if you notice this for one moment, the dance in the quantum field of consciousness revitalizes it in all.

Once the flick over has occurred or you are being vigilant to yourself, then Life takes on a vital freshness in the adventure. Life is totally worth living when it’s an adventure, because in the mystery you no longer need to know and that’s why it’s a radical sacrifice or devotion of the body/mind continuously into