The Magic Key to Parenting & Grandparenting: Knowing & Using the Enneagram of Family Dynamics

By Sandra Findlay and Earlene Gayle Escalona

THE MAGIC KEY TO PARENTING & GRANDPARENTING
Family Dynamics thru the Enneagram Fairy Tales

This book offers parents & grandparents a Forward designed to outline the new strategies for raising empowered children. It is targeted to children from 5 to 8 years of age and their caretakers and is based on the findings of the new neurosciences.
Following the Forward for adults are 9 fairy tales based on the 9 enneagram personality profiles. The enneagram diagnoses the sabotaging childhood fear of the child and the inner child of the adult allowing for a greater depth of positive choices in their life. The fairy tales all point the child to their inner wisdom and encourage the imagination that leads to creativity.
As the adult and the child each identify their enneagram type, family dynamics are clarified in many ah ha moments of their everyday interactions. The unconditional love and deep heartfelt connection sought by each of us can then be brought to the family unit.

ENJOY YOUR NEW WORLD! Love & Hugs, Sandra

• Language: English
• Publisher: Xlibris US
• Release date: Jun 4, 2014
• ISBN: 9781499026580

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THE MAGIC KEY TO PARENTING & GRANDPARENTING

Knowing & Using the Enneagram of Family Dynamics

SANDRA FINDLAY

Illustrations by Earlene Gayle Escalona

CONTENTS

ENNEAGRAM #1

PERFECT SAND CASTLES

ENNEAGRAM #2

PUMPKINS AND POPCORN BALLS

ENNEAGRAM #3

CURTAIN UP!

ENNEAGRAM #4

THE MAGIC ROSE

ENNEAGRAN #5

HIDEOUTS

ENNEAGRAM #6

COURAGE AND ICE CREAM CONES

ENNEAGRAM #7

LEMONADE ANYONE

ENNEAGRAM # 8

CAPTAINS ALL

ENNEAGRAM #9

SNOWDAY

THIS PAGE FOR PARENTS ONLY - KIDS GET BORED WITH THIS STUFF!

Message to Parents:

The objective of this book is to empower your child by removing limiting fears. In an effort to protect our children and ourselves, we have created a world centered on the fears of survival, safety and limitation. Our choices are rarely based on what we choose for our lives, but rather on the paths that lead to the lesser consequences. We have become enslaved to the very fears that we thought would protect us. As a result, many of us are highly stressed individuals who constantly trigger the stress chemicals in our bodies producing disease, poverty and a general sense of unhappiness and dissatisfaction. This fear-based consciousness has now reached a critical mass of individuals. We see fear on a global level expressed as war, poverty, illiteracy and disease.

How many times in a single day do we say to our children, Don’t run, you might fall! or Don’t climb, you might get hurt! etc.? We begin training our children very early to be fear-based, which causes them to withhold themselves from life. In order for us to find peace and truly live to our potential, we must reverse this habitual brainwashing. Our planet and the people that inhabit it must move from the stress and conflict caused by fear to an internal mindset of peace, love, and freedom of the soul.

In my work with individuals over the past sixteen years, I have discovered that each person is imprinted with one fear before the age of six years. The new neuroscience demonstrates that all children are in a light hypnotic brainwave state absorbing like little sponges, all of the fears and beliefs of their caretakers. These sabotaging beliefs then stay with us as adults until we have the tools to change them to the beliefs we choose for our lives. To the mind/body connection this means that the fear and the memories it generates are like a file in our brain that plays back each time the fear is triggered. On a level of conscious awareness it becomes so habitual that we no longer notice it and on the subconscious level it is hardwired in the brain and cannot be accessed through the conscious mind alone. The fear imprinted in each individual equates to one of the nine personality types that are part of a human development model called the Enneagram. The enneagram acts as a lens which interprets all of the sensory data coming into the brain from our environment. Through this lens the individual will determine whether or not there is a threat to the body. When this fear is triggered in the mental body of an individual, the neurotransmitters or chemical messengers in the body, carry the fear message to the emotional and physical bodies of the individual. The mental and emotional bodies experience the message as a conflict. Often adults will feel that they are trapped in decision making, going back and forth between head and heart.

In the physical body, Dr. Hans Selye’s fight or flight response is activated, causing the body to chemically prepare itself to fight or retreat from the imagined fear. This model of interpreting the body’s messenger mechanism is known as psycho-neuro immunology. Chronic reaction to fear over an extended period of time can result in physical pain and illness. The enneagram is the primary model used in this book to diagnose a person’s fear. Each person will spend their lives setting up situations that recreate the fear, offering them countless opportunities to conquer the fear.

For purposes of this book, I will use the Enneagram personality types in story format to help you and your child identify the key fear that is the driving force in each of your lives. The story will express the fear and then provide the way out of this fear. In her book The Spiritual Dimension of the Enneagram, Sandra Maitri tells