Loud Woman
By Jill Celeste
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Together, Loud Woman, we must leave our comfort zones of good-girl manners, perfection, and fear.
It's time to embrace this truth: You deserve to live a fulfilled life…
Not one prescribed by society but one beautifully designed by you…
Loud Woman, look around. All across the globe, people are depressed, or poor, or unfulfilled. Our planet bears the weight of our collective selfishness. Many leaders are corrupt, and we are plagued with a mindset that there's not enough of everything to go around.
Now, look at you. You probably are not living your Loudest life. Burdened by societal expectations for women to be small and Quiet, you have been taught to put your needs last, to always show good manners, and to see other women as competition instead of allies.
That's how Jill was too—overly accommodating, giving, polite, and selfless. But as she watched Dr. Christine Blasey Ford bravely tell her story and testify about Brett Kavanaugh's attempted rape, Jill thought, this is what a Loud Woman looks like. Speaking up and telling the truth—and doing so without apology or explanation. Inspired by Dr. Ford's act of honest courage, Jill realized, right then and there, that it was time for her to get Louder too.
Loud Woman is part memoir, part self-help, all manifesto, confession, and plea. It's Jill's love letter to you, Loud Woman, so you can be inspired by her journey and embark on your own. Inside these pages, you will find a guidebook on how to live a Louder life—from how to push through your fears to trusting yourself more. It's Jill's hope that, after reading Loud Woman, you too will look in the mirror and proclaim, "This is what a Loud Woman looks like."
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Jill Celeste doesn’t shy away from the hard discussions that need to be had in today’s world. From sexism, racism, and white privilege to bullying, boundaries, and support, Loud Woman explores the nuances of how women were taught to behave and how it works against us in the quest for equality and understanding. Peppered with lessons from her own life, Jill brilliantly illustrates what it takes to become a Loud Woman and the advantages of doing so. You can’t read this book without be moved to step up your game, stand in your truth, and tell your inner good girl to hush!
Cheri D. Andrews, Esq., small business attorney, and author of Smooth Sailing: A Practical Guide to Legally Protecting Your Business
Being a Loud Woman has little to do with volume and everything to do with owning our worth and boldly speaking our truth. In Loud Woman, Jill Celeste beautifully illustrates, often through personal stories, the many ways we remain ‘quiet,’ what it costs us, and how everyone loses when we hide our gifts and talents, and remain small. If you are ready to break free and claim your rightful space in the world, this book is for you!
Nicolette Blanco, author of By a Thread, Resilience Strategies for the Partially Unraveled
Loud Woman is a raw, emotional and honest look at Jill’s journey. Using her techniques and strategies, you’ll learn to cope with your own challenges to reach your own personal goals. It is time to stand up, speak up, and use your own voice to change your world.
Karen Campbell, entrepreneur, Campbell’s Scottish Terriers
Jill shares her story to help us become what she knows we are meant to be. I found myself nodding along; what she’s writing about herself could easily been about me. I picked up Loud Woman at a time of chaos in my life, wondering what my greater purpose would be. I was on a journey to find my next step. When I had finally determined what I wanted to do, Loud Woman was that voice in my ear to push me to do it. I am so grateful Jill shared this voice with me. You will not be disappointed when you open your heart to the impact of her message.
Elizabeth Ceranowski, senior manager, software–marketing education, Lenovo
Loud Woman was uniquely useful in asking me to consider how well I support or disempower other women. It was definitely a wake-up call to be intentional about supporting other women. She explained how we can even support women whose political views are not aligned with ours. And Jill had the courage to speak to privileged white women like me about the insidious power of racism, and how to not support or encourage that wicked belief system. This is a book I will look to when I am stuck figuring out how to navigate a situation that calls for Loud Woman Courage. You might find me thinking, ‘What would Jill do?’
Maribeth Coye Decker, Intuitive Animal Communicator and Healer, author of Peace in Passing: Comfort for Loving Humans During Animal Transitions
Many women live in regular fear of not being good enough… Am I too much? Am I not enough? Will they like me if I’m the real me? That's when they overcompensate by being ‘the nice girl’ and become addicted to people pleasing, to their own detriment. It doesn’t have to be this way. You can absolutely create a life you love, without resentment, without wondering if this is all there is to life. No more Quiet Mouse. It’s time we hear you roar as the fullest expression of who you were made to be. Here’s to your beautiful transformation.
Fabienne Fredrickson, founder of Fabienne.com and author of Embrace Your Magnificence: Get Out of Your Own Way and Live a Richer, Fuller, More Abundant Life
Sometimes we need a permission slip: A little reminder of who we are and what we came into this life to do. Jill Celeste’s Loud Woman is that reminder. A story lovingly told with a bold voice, unceasing wit, and a willingness to ‘go there,’ I recommend this book when you are looking to reclaim your place and remember exactly who you are.
Bailey Fruman, MSW, LCSW, psychotherapist, speaker, founder of Mindrise, and author, Own Your Power: Your Guide to Being Powerful, Fearless, and Free
Loud Woman feels like an intimate conversation with a long-lost girlfriend where she tells you stories over coffee, painting a picture of a woman learning how to be her own best champion while also lifting up the women around her. In it, Jill lends smart, actionable advice on setting boundaries and creating space for yourself in your life, honoring your relationships, and stepping out of your comfort zone. Loud Woman reminds us to get out of our own way, and to not be afraid of the loudest voice in your head: your own.
Patty Gaffney, MBA, award-winning media professional
Loud Woman reveals and explores those stifling moments every quiet women
experiences when taking on roles of leadership or even speaking for herself for the first time in this ‘man's world.’ After applying these simple tools, you will no longer find yourself going over what happened in your mind with that tell-tale ‘I should have said this instead.’ We all need training wheels after this long period of time away from our work groups and people. Loud Woman will help you speak up effectively and productively.
Joan Hepsworth, bookseller and owner, The Paperback Exchange Bookstore
Even as a well-versed women’s and gender studies professor, Loud Woman gave me concrete ways that I could own my empowerment right here, right now. Within a day of starting the book, I walked taller and spoke more directly, and my marriage and health have already improved significantly simply because of the lessons contained in this book.
Kari Nixon, assistant professor, Whitworth University, and author, Quarantine Life from Cholera to COVID-19
Loud Woman is for all the women out there whose actions and words are framed by what others have defined as ‘acceptable.’ Drawing from reflections on her own life experiences and observations about those of others, Jill Celeste shares how societal expectations keep many women small and quiet, and she explains what they can do to find their voice. It is her mission to encourage and support women to speak up for themselves and each other. This book is a thought-provoking call to action.
Judy Kane, author of Your 4Truths
Practical, passionate, and empowering, Loud Woman teaches and inspires women of all ages, ethnicities and backgrounds to open all of life’s doors without being a doormat shaped by old views and outdated misogyny, practices and protocols. The myth that women are less than
is to be a thing of the past. A book for every sister, mom, aunt, gram, friend, and for the men we know. To navigate a new path; one that is paved with equality, sisterhood, permission, and the belief in ourselves as ‘more than.’
Kristin Joy Lavin, entrepreneur, and author of The Butterfly Promise, A Memoir
Vibrant with humor, honesty, and heart, Jill Celeste’s memoir does it all—it educates, entertains, inspires, and liberates. The author, a successful businesswoman, teacher, and mentor, is a gifted storyteller. She takes the reader on an intimate journey through her past, showing how and why it is important to become a Loud Woman, a woman no longer afraid to speak her mind and stand up for what she believes in regardless of what others think. Although written for women, this book is for anyone looking for inspiration to stop apologizing, to stand up and find their voice, and instead of turning away, to act against the inequities and social disparities that surround us. Finally, silence is no longer golden.
Elaine MacKinnon, Ph.D., professor of history, and translator/editor of Gender and Survival in Soviet Russia
Jill takes the reader on a journey of becoming Loud. You feel like you're having a girls' weekend away with your best friend, filled with all the significant stories of the past and manifestos for the future. It's the kind of getaway you return from feeling recharged, empowered, and ready to take on the world. I learned that my loudness doesn't need to be perfect, or even a constant, in order to claim the title of being a Loud Woman. Using my voice not only creates my world, but also opens up new possibilities for other women.
Nicole Meltzer, intuitive author and speaker, Balanced U Academy
Loud Woman is an instruction manual for every woman who has smiled when she wanted to scream; held her tongue when she knew she should speak; and walked away when a slap across the face of a harasser would have been wholly acceptable. This book details why it is not only okay to be Loud, but necessary for those women who follow. Read it. Internalize it. Be Loud!
Suzanne Tregenza Moore, business and marketing coach, and author, Hang On Tight! Learn to Love the Roller Coaster of Entrepreneurship
This book is for any woman who is tired of being told to stay quiet, or told they aren't good enough to try something. Loud Woman takes you on a journey to becoming a better you in every aspect of your life.
Iman Salih, graduate, Ohio State University
Loud Woman
Goodbye, Inner Good Girl!
Jill Celeste, MA
Edited by
Deborah Kevin
Highlander PressLoud Woman
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ISBN: 978-1-7359333-3-7
Ebook ISBN: 978-1-7359333-4-4
Library of Congress Control Number: 2021945124
Published by Highlander Press
501 W. University Pkwy, Ste. B2
Baltimore, MD 21210
Cover design: Patricia Creedon
Cover illustrator: Rachel Taylor
Editor: Deborah Kevin, MA
Author’s photo credit: Jaimi Weatherspoon
About the Book Cover
Have you thought about what your front cover should like look?
my editor, Debby Kevin, asked as we went over her developmental edits of Loud Woman.
It’s funny how a seemingly simple question can make my brain go down a rabbit hole.
I imagined my book cover would show women how they can shed all those societal expectations that weigh us down. Things like seeing women as competitors, or apologizing needlessly, or not believing we are worthy of healthy relationships.
My brain immediately went to embroidered coats. Why? I am not sure, but I think it was divine intervention. I began researching women and embroidery, and discovered a rich history of women stitching messages on to their clothes. For example, in the 1890’s, German seamstress Agnes Richter tailored a jacket from her asylum hospital gown with words stitched throughout—an autobiography of sorts.
I also learned that suffragettes used aprons to share their messages about women’s right to vote, and female artists embroidered dresses and skirts with protest poems, including one featuring Howl by Allen Ginsberg. (Read more in this excellent article by Rosalind Jana for Vice: https://www.vice.com/en/article/8qwpzb/mark-my-words-the-subversive-history-of-women-using-thread-as-ink).
Even in the modern era, women use embroidery and stitching to share messages. During the 2020 Oscars, actress Natalie Portman’s cape contained the names of female directors overlooked for Best Director, and the gown worn by director Waad al-Kateab had an embroidered Arabic poem.
As I finished my research, I thought about how embroidery (often a feminine artform) and messages (often of protest) adorned women’s clothes. I determined that a Loud Woman jacket would be the perfect illustration for my book cover. I consulted with Debby, who loved the idea, and then we engaged Rachel Taylor to start the illustration. Rachel worked her magic, and the final product is what you see on the front cover.
I invite you to look at the embroidery and find the hidden words within. My hope is the right word—the one you need to hear today—will jump out at you and inspire you to be Louder. In addition to words, you’ll find a hidden Trixie (my basset hound) in there too. I couldn’t have a Loud Woman jacket without my Loud Woman Dog.
Maybe one day I will have a jacket created like the one on the cover, but for now, I will relish in the embroidery, the art, and the messages therein.
Metaphorically, these words are the expectations we should now wrap ourselves in. Isn’t that a more beautiful way to go out into this world?
Dedicated to my mom,
Louise Ann Hauver,
The Loudest Woman I know.
Contents
Introduction
1. Biases
2. A Loud Woman
Worthy
3. Strangling
4. High Self-Worth
5. Low Self-Worth
6. No Medal for ‘Great Sacrificer’
7. Gifts
8. Ask and Persist
9. Settling
10. Compensation
11. Relationships
12. Guilt
13. Instagram Perfection
Feminism
14. Regret
15. I am Woman
16. What is feminism, really?
17. Non-feminists
18. Intersectional feminism
Boundaries
19. Boundary Queen
20. Your Needs Go First
21. Unraveling
22. Types of Boundaries
23. Notifications
24. Social Media
25. Tim and Denise
26. Unbendable
27. Hold ‘em
28. Adjustment
Manners
29. Dog Park
30. Good Girl
31. You Shouldn’t Have Smiled At Him
32. Bananas
33. Explaining
34. Paycheck Licker
35. Manspreader
36. I’m Speaking
37. Emotional
Fear
38. 9/11
39. Ego
40. Failure
41. The Trailer Park
42. Zits
43. Rejection
44. Dr. Ford
45. Imposter Syndrome
46. Losing Friends
47. Risky
Discomfort
48. Writer
49. It’s Uncomfortable
50. Comfort Zones
51. Imperfect Action
52. Once Hard, Now Easy
53. Lean In
54. Hiding
55. Social Good
Trust
56. Cyst
57. Self-Trust
58. Intuition
59. Bottle Feeding
60. Faith
Support
61. Investigator
62. Stand Up
63. Something About Her
64. Competition
65. White Women
66. Rising Tide
67. Differences
68. Believe
69. Stupid
70. Bullying
71. Faith Keepers
Epilogue
72. Good-bye
Loud Woman Credo
Endnotes
Recommended Reading
Acknowledgments
About Jill
About Highlander Press
Introduction
Often times, the most righteous thing you can do is shake the table.
Alexandria Ocasio-Cortez
1
Biases
I am white…
This book is told from the perspective of a white American woman —with all the unintentional biases therein. I have done my best to address my areas of white privilege but know my journey is far from perfect. Thank you in advance for your patience for any prejudices in this book, and please accept my apologies if I have offended or hurt you in any way. I am learning to do better, I promise.
I am a woman…
I identify as a woman. I respect all gender identifications. In this book, I will use terms such as girl, boy, he, she, woman, and man, but please know I believe gender is how you define it. I hope you will find the overarching themes and lessons to be inclusive, no matter how you identify.
I am liberal…
I could not write a memoir/self-help book without weaving in my liberal ideology. With that said, Conservative Loud Women, this book will still help you. We need you to be Loud, too.
2
A Loud Woman
Whose budget will be paying for this?" I asked, as I scribbled down the instructions from the vice president and directors sitting around the conference room table. We were meeting about a new patient safety initiative, and the management team had a laundry list of items they needed my marketing team to create.
Don’t worry about that,
the vice president responded, irritation edging her voice.
I did have to worry about it though. As a marketing manager, knowing who was paying for a project was an important part of my job.
I eyed the vice president, willing her to answer me. She flipped the page over in her notebook and scratched down something on the page. I never did get an answer to my budget question.
The next day, my director pulled me into her office. She had just met with this same vice president, who told my director that I was out of line
for asking the budget question and my tone was disrespectful.
The vice president then told my director that I was not there to ask questions. I was there to gather information so I could do my job.
I almost laughed. I should have guessed that my question would not be appreciated; it was so typical of the political bullshit that permeated from my employer.
Despite my inclination to laugh, I also was bewildered: How am I supposed to do my job if I can’t ask questions?
Here’s the thing: I was getting counseled for asking a budget question; however, I knew it was much more than that.
What I was really being counseled on was my Loudness—how I spoke up, how I asked for what I wanted, how I had boundaries around my time, and how I did not tolerate being interrupted.
What I really was being asked to do was to take up less space, keep my mouth shut, and do my job in the quietest way possible.
My employer embodied a classic patriarchal structure. Most of our senior management team were older white guys. Our outdated dress code specified skirt lengths, panty hose requirements, and no open toe shoes (even during Florida summers).
On the surface, my employer looked like a great place for women to work, and it was, as long as women played by the rules, which included deferring to men in positions above us and not rocking the boat (or in my case, asking questions about the marketing budget).
In other words, we were expected to Quiet.
I bet you have been told, time and time again, to be Quiet too. Inside though, you are craving something different, better, more aligned to your soul. You do not want to be Quiet anymore. You want to be Loud—to say what’s on your mind without apology, to stop being afraid, and to live life on your terms.
You yearn to be a Loud Woman.
What is a Loud Woman? You may think it has to do with increased volume—and it could—but not always. Loudness is a state of mind. It’s when a woman breaks the shackles that have kept her Quiet.
How have we been kept Quiet? Well, there’s the literal translation of making less noise. In addition, societal conditioning has quieted us by teaching us to not trust ourselves, to always have good manners, and what behaviors we should tolerate from men.
She’s as quiet as a mouse
is an expression we hear all the time. Quiet girls are good girls, right? Quiet girls do not bother anyone. They do not upset anyone. They do what’s expected of them without complaint and with a smile.
Inside this quiet mouse of a girl, though, is a Loud Woman ready to break free.
Is this you? If so, you have come to the right place. I have taken what I have learned on my Loud Woman Journey and extracted lessons to help you on yours. You will break through your fear mindset and do things scared. You will learn to set up boundaries so people no longer take advantage of you. You will improve your self-worth so you can (finally) get the things you deserve. You will learn to trust yourself, because you are the expert at what’s best for you.
And I will illuminate this path so you can join other women who are on the same journey, and we can love and support each other as the Loud Women we are.
This journey will not be easy, but I am here with my torch to light the way. Together, we will traverse out of our Quiet Caves into a new world, where women are Louder, happier, and more fulfilled; where the ripple effect of Loud Women will bring balance to our world; and where things improve for all humans.
The guys have been running the world for a long time. In many ways, they have done an outstanding job. In other ways, not so much. War, greed, wealth inequality, environmental issues—these are all byproducts of masculine leadership. At the heart of it all is a scarcity mindset that tells us there is not enough for everyone.
We know it’s not true, though. God has given us plenty.
That’s why, right now, we need feminine leadership. To do that, we need every woman to become a Loud Woman.
Loud Woman does not mean Super Woman. We will not be perfect on this journey, and you may feel like quitting. Please don’t. We are here to change the world, and that means we must keep moving.
So, if you lose your footing, read this book. If you get skittish, read this book. If you become unsure, read this book. If you feel like there is no point, read this book.
Loud Woman, come with me. Our world is going to shit, and we can stop this tail spin if we rise up and get Louder.
It’s time to stop being a Quiet Mouse and transform into a Loud Woman.
Are you ready?
Worthy
Your crown has been bought and paid for. Put it on your head and wear it.
Maya Angelou
3
Strangling
December 27, 1994. It’s funny how I remember the exact date some twenty years later—the day my college sweetheart of three years broke up with me.
I’ve met someone else,
he explained. He plunged his hands deep into his front pockets as he leaned against the kitchen counter.
I stared at the wall over my stove in complete disbelief, feeling