Overcoming Grandparenting Barriers (Grandparenting Matters): How to Navigate Painful Problems with Grace and Truth
By Larry Fowler
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· an adult child is not following the Lord
· grandchildren are not being raised by the adult child and access to them is limited
· grandparents are prohibited from addressing spiritual matters when they visit their grandchildren
Overcoming Grandparenting Barriers provides guidance and strategies along with encouragement for grandparents to persevere--to understand that they are not alone and that their role is too crucial to give up on reaching the next generation for Christ.
Larry Fowler
Larry Fowler is the founder of the Legacy Coalition, a national grandparenting ministry. His 40 years plus of ministry leadership, including experience as youth pastor, missionary, training staff, international director, and senior executive for Awana, have prepared him for this significant new calling. Larry has authored books on children's and family ministry and his most recent book, Overcoming Grandparenting Barriers helps grandparents navigate family relationships when things aren't perfect. In 2012, he was recognized for his lifetime of contribution to Children's Ministry in America by the International Network of Children's Ministry, with their national Legacy Award. Larry and his wife, Diane, live in Riverside, California. They have two children and seven grandchildren.
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Overcoming Grandparenting Barriers (Grandparenting Matters) - Larry Fowler
As I read this book, it felt like Larry Fowler and Josh Mulvilhill were inside my mind, heart, and soul. Every grandparent must read this book; believe me, the insights and practical ideas have the power to change the trajectory of your life as a grandparent. I loved it.
—Jim Burns, PhD, president of HomeWord; author of Doing Life with Your Adult Children: Keep Your Mouth Shut and the Welcome Mat Out
"Being close to your grandchild is much more than living down the street from them. At the core, it’s being relationally close no matter where you live. As Larry Fowler has written in Overcoming Grandparenting Barriers, we take a step of faith and extend grace, hope, and forgiveness in our grandparenting role. And where might we access those heavenly virtues? As Larry notes, through the grace, hope, and forgiveness of our Lord. Larry’s new book will be an encouragement as you seek to live out one of your most important roles as a spiritually attuned, proactive grandparent."
—Ken Canfield, PhD, founder of GrandKids Matter
Grandparenting is a special blessing in life . . . but can also be a blessed pain! If God created the first family, and they experienced problems, then I guess we are no exception. Larry Fowler addresses biblically, vulnerably, and with clarity some of the issues, principles, and strategies for extended families like ours. I encourage you to read, weep, pray, persevere, and grow in your wisdom as you lead the way!
—John Coulombe, interGen Pastor of EvFree Church, Fullerton, CA; Legacy Coalition founding board member and director of development
This book is a godsend for any grandparent who is struggling connecting with their grandchildren due to relationship issues. If your adult child has walked away from the Lord, perhaps you’ve been denied the opportunity to give testimony to your grandkids. This book gives you hope.
—Linda Ranson Jacobs, ambassador of Church Initiative, Inc.
This book gives hope and much-needed biblical wisdom as well as practical tools for grandparents in less than ideal relationships with their children. The insights and applications for rebuilding relationships with grace are so helpful. Larry and Josh have teamed up to provide biblical wisdom and practical applications that will be used of God to rebuild broken bridges. No doubt this will provide many grandparents with the tools they need to make an eternal impact on their grandchildren and generations to follow.
—George Posthumus, teaching pastor at Riverpark Bible Church, Fresno, CA
"Deeply rooted in God’s Word and offering practical insights and suggestions, Overcoming Grandparenting Barriers is a must-read for every grandparent, pastor, and Christian counselor!"
—Shawn Thornton, senior pastor of Calvary Community Church, Westlake Village, CA
"I’ve seen it so often—messy family relationships that leave grandparents discouraged, distressed, hurting, and often hopeless. There has been very little written to address this huge need, so I was very excited to read Overcoming Grandparenting Barriers. My friend Larry Fowler’s personal stories, his use of Scripture, and his many practical helps create one ‘aha’ moment after another. I’ll be telling every grandparent I know that there is hope!"
—Ron Hunter Jr., PhD, cofounder and director of the D6 Conference and author of DNA of D6: Building Blocks of Generational Discipleship
"In his new book, Overcoming Grandparenting Barriers, Larry Fowler offers hope, strategies, and new ideas to those who feel ‘stuck’ in navigating the challenging realities of family dynamics. Drawing on keen insights from the Scriptures, Larry will equip you to trust God’s heart, timing, and life-changing power to transform your broken past into His promised future. Larry not only asks the hard questions mined from his personal experience and years of counseling, he offers inspiring perspectives and practical steps that will unleash the gospel of grace in your family! Grandparents, you are a critical tool for spiritual influence and healing, and this book is an answer to your prayers to prepare you for that role."
—Bill Parkinson, cofounding pastor and SageWorks Pastor, Fellowship Bible Church, Little Rock, AR
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Contents
Cover 1
Endorsements 2
Half Title Page 3
Title Page 5
Copyright Page 6
Series Preface 9
Introduction 11
1. Grandparenting Can Hurt! 15
2. Can’t I Just Walk Away from the Pain? 27
3. But They Won’t Let Me . . . 39
4. Lord, Where Is the Miracle? 51
5. The Influence Principle 69
6. The Grace Strategy 81
7. Give Me Some Practical Ideas! 93
Notes 103
About the Editors 105
Back Ads 107
Back Cover 110
Series Preface
GRANDPARENTING MATTERS is a series of short books that address common grandparenting problems with biblical solutions and practical ideas. I have the joy of talking with grandparents all over the country about their God-designed role in the lives of children and grandchildren. Regularly, questions arise about how to do what the Bible says in the midst of barriers, problems, and challenges.
Grandparenting is filled with many joys, but it can also be filled with unexpected pain and problems. Relational tensions, grandparenting restrictions, adult prodigals, grandparents as parents, divorce, long-distance relationships, and blended families all can cause the heart to ache. When brokenness touches our family, we naturally ask questions about how to navigate the challenges.
There are a growing number of resources for Christian grandparents that address the purpose of grandparenting, but few deal with the problem-solving side of family life. We created this series because problems are common, hope is needed, and God’s Word provides guidance that can be applied to our unique situations. This series aims to simultaneously comfort and encourage, to equip and edify, as well as to point the way ahead. If you are discouraged or hurting, then I trust you will be blessed by this series. If you are looking for biblical solutions and practical how-to’s, you will find them in these pages.
We’ve titled the series GRANDPARENTING MATTERS because we believe the Bible teaches that the grandparent-grandchild relationship is important and worthy of our time and attention. Grandparents have a significant impact on the spiritual lives of grandchildren that is second only to parents. Our prayer is that the Gospel is proclaimed, God is honored, your family experiences healing and health, and your children and children’s children know, love, and serve Jesus.
Larry Fowler has written a practical book that offers hope and help for the hurting grandparent. As you read this book, remember that hope is found in Christ alone and that help comes from the sufficient Word of God. True transformation is the work of