Radical Kindness: The Life-Changing Power of Giving and Receiving
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The beloved creator of Blues Clues and Daniel Tiger’s Neighborhood and protégé of Fred Rogers explores the importance of kindness and how it can change your life in this essential guide and tie-in to the PBS special, “The Power of Radical Kindness.”
Angela C. Santomero, the creator, executive producer, and head writer of many of today’s most popular educational children’s shows believes in the radical power of kindness, on her shows, and in her life. Inspired by her mentor Fred Rogers, beloved host of the classic, award-winning PBS show Mister Rogers’ Neighborhood, Angela has dedicated her life to teaching others that when you treat yourself and others with warmth, empathy, and respect, life changing benefits follows.
From the true meaning of self-care and the gift of vulnerability, to the importance of active listening or the magic of asking for help, Radical Kindness goes beyond The Golden Rule and entreaties to “be nice,” contending that kindness is the key to recognizing others, and ourselves, as worthy of love and understanding.
Much like gratitude, Angela contends we need a kindness practice. A practice in which we learn to see with our hearts and act from a place of compassion. As the Dalai Lama says, “Be kind whenever possible. It is always possible.” Through practicing radical kindness—toward ourselves, with loved ones, and to the world at large—we can transform ourselves, our neighborhood, and our world for the better.
Angela Santomero
ANGELA C. SANTOMERO is the co-creator, for the award-winning Blue’s Clues, and the creator of the smash hit Daniel Tiger’s Neighborhood and Super Why!; Creative Galaxy and Wishenpoof; and Charlie’s Colorforms City. The chief creative officer of 9 Story Media Group, she is the recipient of a Peabody Award, two Television Critics Association Awards, and the 2018 World Screen’s Kids Trendsetter Award. She has been nominated for more than twenty-five Emmy Awards and numerous Parents’ Choice Gold and Silver Awards. Angela is the author of Preschool Clues and blogs on AngelasClues.com. She lives in New York with her husband, two daughters, and two puppies.
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Radical Kindness - Angela Santomero
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What Is Radical Kindness?
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Heart-Seeing
The First Step Toward Radical Kindness
Mister Rogers once said, There are three ways to ultimate success: The first way is to be kind. The second way is to be kind. The third way is to be kind.
I’d like to think that we all know what it means to be kind to one another. It’s saying thank you, holding the door open for someone, feeding a stray cat, or comforting a loved one after a bad day at home, work, or school. It’s what happens every time you’re told to be nice,
and one of the first concepts introduced to children in preschool and kindergarten. Even the most downtrodden members of society know about kindness, if only because they are painfully aware of the lack of it in their own lives.
But what do we mean by radical kindness? Radical kindness means rooting all you say and do in kindness, being unconditionally kind all the time, to everyone. It means going beyond situational niceness or merely doing the right thing
and, instead, living from a place of compassion.
What Is Heart-Seeing?
As Antoine de Saint-Exupéry writes in The Little Prince, It is only with the heart that one can see rightly; what is essential is invisible to the eye.
* When you are a radically kind person, you see
with your heart. Seeing with our hearts offers us an opportunity to make what is often invisible visible. When we heart-see,
we see through a lens of trust, respect, love, patience, and warmth. Heart-seeing connects us to something that is so beautiful, so transformative, that the world before us changes in delightful, unexpected, even revolutionary ways.
As Dr. Wayne Dyer said in his Power of Intention PBS special, When you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change.
* When that inner change happens, when we embrace and understand the importance of kindness, we can transform our inner lives and the outer world. We feel better; we’re less anxious and more creative; we have more energy; and when we look at people, we see them in a more accepting way.
When you heart-see, you interpret what you think you are observing with a keen awareness that you cannot possibly know the whole story of someone else’s life. That rude waiter? Well, you don’t know what kind of day he’s been having—maybe someone was unkind to him; maybe dozens of people were, and he just wants to go home. That baby screaming on the plane? Sure, she’s annoying, but maybe that child hasn’t slept all day and has a headache. Unlike you and me, the baby can’t tell her parents what’s bothering her.
Practicing radical kindness means assuming the best of everyone—heart-seeing them—and then acting toward them with compassion, patience, and humility. It means infusing what we think, say, and do throughout the day with warmth, understanding, and care. It means treating everyone—including ourselves!—as important, as if they matter in the world. And yes, that means everyone, whether that person is a family member, friend, stranger, panhandler, someone with opposing political views, or the loudmouth on his cell phone in a hushed coffee shop. To see all human beings first with unconditional compassion is to heart-see them, and it is the only way to integrate a practice of radical kindness into our lives.
Yes, living a life of radical kindness challenges that old idea that nice guys finish last or that compassion is somehow a form of weakness. Research has demonstrated time and again that you can be kind and strong, compassionate and determined, gentle and opinionated. Seeing with the heart takes guts, and acting with compassion takes self-confidence and perspective. The qualities you need in order to be kind (compassion, integrity, respect) are exactly the same qualities you need to be brave, strong, and successful.
To practice radical kindness by heart-seeing is to practice the art of noticing. Becoming more aware of others, becoming more sensitive, necessitates that we first notice our own circumstances, needs, and qualities. (We’ll come back to this idea and discuss it further in chapters to come.) Then, as we move beyond our own personal needs to see the concerns, heartbreaks, and struggles of others, we widen our vision of the world. Too often we get so caught up in our day-to-day struggles that we don’t realize that the person standing next to us on line at the grocery store is having a bad day or is worried about a sick parent, or the kid behind the counter at the fast-food restaurant is in need of a few words of gratitude.
Try On Someone Else’s Shoes
One of the ways we can become more sensitive to the needs of others is to imagine ourselves or someone we love in their position. Reflect for a moment: Would you want your overtired mother to have to work the night shift at that hospital when she desperately needs a good night’s sleep? Would you want your son to be unnoticed and unappreciated in a minimum-wage job he works while carrying a full load of college